When the Things You Do Speak For You (October Awareness)

Death came by the Pink & Purple Love sides of my world. It took me a most of this month to type this post. One reason is because these deaths were actually personal & close to my loved ones & me.

The other is because both deaths made me react on both ends of the grief spectrum. It something I had to process. It was wild, I couldn't think of one bad thing for one and one good thing for another. I've never felt that way about people I know when they die.

Yeah, the purple side was the person I couldn't find anything good about this person. This person was an abusive perpetrator but I didn't know that for a long time. I didn't know that when the victim left the relationship, years later.

So when this person died, I felt a tinge of guilt for ragging on them when I got the news (pray for me). So, I decided to think on the good things about them. I know other people who were/are abusive and I seen them do some good. The only thing I could think of was this person's laugh. They laughed like the cartoon dog, Muttley and my cousin, DD & I (ages 6 & 8) determine that was weird & crazy, a long time ago. So, I waited until after the person's services & learned it was a quiet & short affair of mostly family. I did learn that person taught someone I know how to fish. Fishing is Very relaxing to the person I know. I decided to take that point and let that be that person's good. In the end, it between their God and them anyway.

The person on the pink side didn't passed away from breast cancer. This person is the one who first to introduce part of my world to Breast Cancer Awareness.

This person brought info, drives, seminars and screenings (other diseases also) to my world. Breast Cancer Awareness was just something others did until this person presented to us. This month, a few programs have been dedicated to the memory of this person. I saw photos of the event. People were styled & smiled in their pink. The fight may have lost a solider but their work still lives on.

The song featured was play at the funeral of the person on the pink side. I was thinking about the lyrics and we all should incoporate them to our lives. If we took the time to think about what the things we do actually spoke for us, we wouldn't do most of the stuff we do. When we are resting in our graves, would you want people to think long about your goodness or your goodness outshine everything that could be said?

Well, it's time for me do something that will speak for me. I have on purple & pink and hopefully that speaks volumes.

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Hgh School Crushes, Would You Date Them As Adults?

I swear I watch a lot of shows that make me happy I am older. Black & Sexy TV has a show, Hello Cupid Reboot that does this very thing. The premise of the show includes two best friends (Baron & Derick) from high school, an unrequited high school crush (Mo), a dating app (Hello Cupid) & a bet.

Oh & the backdrop is a few days, maybe weeks before a 10 year high school reunion. Yep, the shenanigans are hilarious.

But the part that best friends don't know that we, the Black & Sexy TV fans know is their high school crush as an adult has a high strung attitude when she gets mad. We've seen her go off on her last boyfriend on a previous show called Chef Julian Since midway episode one, I've been waiting on her to go off. Heck, I would and I think I am much more level headed than Mo.

But the show got me to thinking, would anyone really want to date their high school crushes as adults.

Look at those roller prints

Changing Faces Inspired

Most people change at least a little bit as they get older. One of the very reasons why, I probably wouldn't date anyone I had a crush on in high school, they aren't the same. They changed. We all did, I hope. I did. I don't wear foam rollers to bed every night. I did in high school. Thanks to Facebook telling me I might know people, I think most of my crushes are married. Only 2, that I know of are single.

I didn't know those people

And they aren't "my type", now. One is now Muslim. Yeah, that an easy no. I'm a Christian. And the other guy, I've seen at an event in the recent past. He was very unnecessarily dismissive. He wedged himself in a conversation and the only thing he said to me was to smugly justify his intrusion. He wasn't rude high school. Well, I didn't think he was.

That is another thing to realize about crushes, the perceived fantasy. How many of our high school crushes were based off of known non-physical personality facts? My guess is very little.

Yep, I believed the movies
LoL

The guy who is Muslim now, was so cute to me. A classmate of mine told him I liked him and he came and introduced himself to me during lunch. He so was nice & courteous to me when in each other's presence. But one day I sat and thought over an incident where his buds jokingly told him I was a few table near at lunch, he didn't stop them.

Actually, he kind of snickered at some of the jeers. Then later on he saw me and pleasantly spoke. I, like a dumb butt in lust greeted him back. He was just being cordial but for some naïve reason I heard a R&B love ballad. His reaction with buds became a lesson later in life. And trust me, unrequited crushes teach you lessons for a lifetime.

Matter of fact, finding out a few of my crushes thought I was "too much of a good girl", "ugh" or "my buddy, here" was a lifesaver. Back then phrases like those stung my feelings or confused me.

My Favorite School Picture

Now, I feel like a guy saying I'm "too much of a good girl" means he didn't want to do a lot of work to get in between my legs. And that's alright. That "diss" was protection from heartbreak, teen pregnancy, STDs, & a reputation I didn't need & want. And I thank God for giving me the mind not to show that guy how "wrong" he was, but one to move forward & later learn from those moments. Moments that help me handle life as an adult now. *sigh* Isn't it good wisdom is not wasted on the young.

Maybe two of the characters are still stuck in the fantasy of their high school crush. Oh but I will have my popcorn ready for when the adult truth hits. Oh high school crushes, may they forever stay the pure imagine of love & light, we thought we wanted.

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