Settling These Halloween Candy Debates

I like October 31st to be fun. And I think all Halloween buzzkills should be locked up. An article ranking Halloween candy by nutritional values came down one of my social media feeds and I wanted to scream!!! All Candy is Unhealthy! Want to only eat Healthy food, Do Not Eat Candy. But that article got the brain wheels a turning and thoughts said to make a post about my top 5 likes & dislikes in Halloween candy.

Likes

5. Skittles

4. Reese's Peanut Butter Cups
3. Heath Bars

2. Laffy Taffy(Except Banana)
1. Pixy Stix: I have no, zero self-control with this candy. Those tangy straw are very delicious to me. Years ago for Lent, I sacrificed candy and I haven't had them since. But even through memories, I know they are still the best.

Dislikes

5. Milky Way/Three Musketeers

4. Almond Joy/Mounds

3. Tootsie Pops

2. Black Licorice

1. Candy Corn Not a fan. My sister, A was the beneficiary of my candy corn when we were younger. 🎶Give them to my sister🎶

So, what are your likes & dislikes in Halloween candy? Tell me in the comments. Remember moderation is key when enjoying those treats & be safe out there.

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Gotta Keep Fighting (October Awareness)

I almost typed I won't be doing these type of posts anymore. While last year's post was being posted (automatic timer), I was finding out my brother had left this world. We were leaving the private family viewing & I learned a young woman I know had just left an emotionally abusive relationship. I was in a purple top and I was floored. But I then chucked the emotions over to grief. And also I always notice that Domestic Violence awareness is only talked about by the mainstream media the last few days of the month. Like it's an "Oh Yeah".

Then this year, I found out the required ages for a mammogram changed yet again. You prepare your mind to start having to have these screenings

Women ages 40 to 44 should have the choice to start annual breast cancer screening with mammograms if they wish to do so. Women age 45 to 54 should get mammograms every year. Women 55 and older should switch to mammograms every 2 years or can continue yearly screening.

and then you find out you're in an "If They Wish To Do So" group. Who wishes to get their boobs smashed? And health insurance doesn't cover wishes. That reminded me of my loved one who came to "nutritional professional" me for help with a diet plan when she was diagnosed. A small chart with suggestions on a plate was all they gave her. And my thought is still the same, "Medical Science can be the biggest jerks at times". Oh and if you know about male breast cancer, consider yourself in a small population. It's not talk about much, either.

But at the beginning of this October Awareness, I saw myself changing my profile pictures all over social media. I was sharing an event to bring about awareness and the song "I Need You to Survive" Bishop Hezekiah Walker & the Love Alive Choir came on the Mind Radio. The tears ran down my face. That's why I still wear the colors pink & purple in October and beyond. I stay in the fight because my heart wants victims to be survivors. I stay in the fight because of every victim turn survivor I know & don't know. I stay in the fight for victims that didn't get the chance to be a survivor.

Oh, the breast cancer & domestic abuse systems in place need all the work & workers they can get. Because well, "No System" kills us all. Until there are no victims to become survivors, Stay in the Fight!

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Dear Little Me

You are a weird one. Not that everyone isn't weird, also. You're weird because you finally accept the term one day and decided to maneuver accordingly. Heck, taking the time to write this post is proof. And well, here are some pointers on living this way.

Go Back and Study That Again. When You're Done, Go Study It Once More. You won't be partying enough that studying will get in the way. Your social life won't be that grand that you can't stand to be a little smarter. Plus, it might cause you to save some energy, money & time on things you will know won't enhance you.

Dial It Back Some, because he, that, them, those and any other nouns & pronouns are Not the End All to Be All. This won't block heartbreak, but it will cushion the blows. Trust me, you'll live. Actually, the pains could be worse. It will All be replaced for something or someone better. It All will have a Silver lining. And it All, trust me it All is in God's hands. Oh, and none of it will hurt so bad that you will ever consider jumping out of His hands.

Cry it All out and Don't Cry about Anymore. If you don't know you are a crybaby... Let the tears fall and wash it all away. When it's all gone, don't jump back in and splash your face with the same hurt & issues. Let it all go, when it is gone.

One more Cup of Water & a little more Exercise won't kill you. Our body will thank you very much.

That's all I have. Older me is not stopping me from typing this, so maybe I am advising you correctly. Plus if she needs to add anything, I have a feeling she'll tell us. *wink*

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Hooray for The Detroit Reception Challenge

When I get married there is one rule for All of my guests. No pictures & videos until after the couple's 1st dance.

• I want people to have & enjoy an experience with their eyes only.
• Everything doesn't have to be recorded by Everybody
• You have no control over what people do with videos, even the ones your image is on.

But what about random onlookers? The answer should be obvious. Go read THIS article. A woman riding around Detroit passed by and saw a wedding set up on a front lawn. She loaded her pictures to social media and it was shared over 1,000 times aka It went viral. A radio station found the couple & found out they trying to save some money because of their young daughter's (who was in the hospital) medical bills. The radio station raised funds and couple had another wedding event at another venue.

As a single woman, I am mindful of not to hurtfully, make fun of any wedding. Trust me I have seen & attended some weddings that were not pleasing to my judgment. Who hasn't? Also, Every wedding has something humorous in it. But I don't participate in trashing them on the internet. Everyone deserves the wedding of their wants and that their life & bank account can handle. No one should have to know the backstory of the event for people on the world wide web not to call it "ghetto" or a "hood wedding".

We pick at what we don't know about. We pick at what doesn't concern us. We pick at stuff because we're bored & insecure. I did my "Googles" and found some of the trolls. In true troll fashion, most were not remorseful in the least. Some felt like they should be thanked for making the pictures go viral. *sigh* Invited or Uninvited...Mind Your Business!

Congratulations to the Couple!!!

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Another Day in a Year (Poetry Corner)

He Caught Me Not Looking
Some days are Just Another Day

Another day a popsicle, one of his favorite treats may or may not stop the tears

Another day to consciously remember not to make his meals

Another day not to be aimlessly stuck from the hours of 2 pm to 6 pm.

Another day not to watch out for his wheelchair

Another day to realize that there is new silent sound, the sound that is not his

I need to sigh *sigh*

Because every one of those days is why God took him from this world for the New Life, while I wasn't looking.

He knew I, his little sister who didn't give him life would have held onto him Another Day.

But most importantly, it's Another day, I Feel My Heart Healing.

Fact About Me: Only death anniversary I acknowledge is the 1st one. And well, it has been One.

As Always, Talking to You In Adult Terms!!!

It's Soapbox Time!!!

Never will I ever use this platform to tell you who to vote for. I just want you to Vote. I'm a Moderate (Well, I prefer the name Conservative Democrat), so I'll never say for vote straight Democrat or Republican tickets. You might miss a qualified Independent who's name wasn't flashing during commercial breaks.

Just because I'm a female human, I still know not all women are looking out for my best interest. They say not all "skinfolk" are kinfolk and that statement is truer than true. Stop voting for people just because they are *insert the same race as you the reader*. Pay attention, Value what you want to be done, Do your research, and Vote!!!

Vote! Vote!! Vote!!!

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Well, This Tripped Me Out

This is a reader-submitted meme. Shout out to my church bud, Treva Shay for this one. When she said, "For your blog", I knew it was a doozy.

May I get a definition for *tah gether". I need to see the Christian unwed couple's travel plans to say Yes or No. And if I need to see that to be judgemental, that means I need to mind my business. No matter if they have separate rooms, adjoining rooms, or sharing a room,

The couple is getting to know one another. Traveling is a good way of gaining knowledge about anyone. Just the style of travel & hotel choices can be eye-opening. I know some people who are very frugal. I know people who are very picky about brands. Traveling may reveal time issues. I'm an "early" travel type especially when I am flying. Being possibly late for a flight heightens my anxiety. Road trips can really reveal things about people. Do they have a weak bladder? Will the passenger(s) stay awake. Do we all have the same taste in road snacks? Then you arrive at the destination. Nappers & strict itineraries do not mix.

Oh, I know you guys are wondering about should Christian non-married couples share a room & a bed. That is a question that is actually wanting to be answered. Well, temptation & fornication are frowned upon in the Bible. But who is to say that this couple will do that? Believe it or not, everybody is not weak to sexual temptations. And if they do fornicate, that is between that couple and God.  Matter of fact the whole trip is between that couple & God. The couple must know their limits and travel in a manner that is best for them. And what should anyone who worried that the couple will fall into sexual sin do? Genuinely pray for them and leave them & their trip in the hands of God.

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Ghosting! It's Interesting, Isn't It?

I read a major cultural publication refer to it as a millennial phenomenon and that gave birth to this post. I might be a Gen Xer that agrees with Baby Boomers that Millenials have done weird things to brunch. But I am the first to say their need to give names to everything is great. Ghosting, the practice of ending a personal relationship by abruptly and without explanation withdrawing from all contact is not a new action. Even though most times ghosting is in reference to the dating world, this word could be used in other places in life. Technically, for example, an absentee parent ghosted their family or a business partner can ghost with the money. Disagree with me in the comments. We can discuss other ways people ghost in life there. I'll leave this post to dating relationship & promise not to make other styles of ghosting post. I Promise!!!

Yes, I've ghosted men and been ghosted by men. I'm not bragging about being a ghost a time or two, because I know my ghosting was an immature way to show my frustration in a dating rapport. If I am not being heard and feel won't be heard, instead of saying that and leave, I cut off all communications. I'm doing better. Y'all pray for me as I continue. And when I disappeared, I stayed gone. It's the ghost hunter types I left that eventually track me down via mutual people or places in our lives. Those guys were genuinely concerned about my well being and my heart melted into learning to talk before I leave. Oh, staying is still not the goal, well maybe once. And I'm still single.

And yes, being ghosted is a crappy & confusing feeling. I can call & text only up to a week, for me to catch the clue. I prefer closure and even with being ghosted I figure out how to move on and close doors. Yet, it's my luck that my "ghost" always want to come back to haunt. They somehow snatch open the doors I did the emotional work to shut and say "Boo" by apologizing & wanting to catch up. I've never had a guy who ghosted on me to stay gone. That annoyed me. But I guess you never know you are truly healed until you fully face the problem. And any person who ghosts is a problem.

I am chuckling! Of course, me ghosting a guy & me being ghosted by a guy would have different outcomes. Outcomes are just as different as the reasons and excuses we have for ghosting. But ghosting actually needs to be ghosted. We all need to be adults and communicate, so we can work things out or break up. Lots of feelings and hearts wouldn't get bruised and much time could be saved.

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Issa ~vs~ Lawrence (Looking For Yourself Edition)

If you don't watch or are behind on the HBO show, Insecure, might as well leave.

I blog for the people whose thoughts are different aka Me. I saw a lot of people making mention that Issa in Season 3 was in the same position as Daniel in Season 1. Both left their jobs, have a dream project and hit a wall trying to do so.

That's True But...

Did anyone notice it took Daniel, 5 years on the couch with depression & unemployment checks to figure out to stop looking at the wall, get off his butt and go get a job? It took Issa weeks, maybe a month to hit the wall, take the bump, grab her resume and apply for work, along driving for Lyft & being an apartment manager.

Both hit the wall, but how they handled the wall are totally different. And here is a small lesson. The wall is still there, but if you move on to other things may be the solution to taking it down will come to you. And possibly not, but it's more productive than staring at it.

But that's my thoughts. It's not the popular finger wag that Issa Season 3 is in the position as Lawrence Season 1. Child, it's not my first time, not being trendy.

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