Well Alright Tom-mus, I mean Amazon & ITunes

I may be in the 5% of the population that may not see suggested or hidden sex & sexuality. That is because I in the percentage that will see racism. I don't tell you guys but there so many racist sighting blogs I've have attempted to write but then I feel like a racist conspiracy believer and erase them. But I see racism a lot in the media, movies, TV, & commercials. I almost wrote about a Twix commercial recently but I hit delete. Some of it makes me upset. It started when I was 10 and I saw this cartoon called "The Fighting 69 1/2th" on TNT.

Watch the clip above and tell me what you see.

Yep, the black any with the big lips and Eddie "Rochester" Anderson accent saying, "Forgot the Mustard" made me upset. I didn't "see" the Watermelon scene until I was older because I didn't know that stereotype until I was older. My mind was awakened then. After that I decided for a few years not to watch "classic cartoons". I have now been taught & grown to understand "that was the times". 

Comedy featuring blatant racist, sexist, homophobic jokes were common in early entertainment. And to paraphrase a Maya Angelou quote, When we know better, we do better.

Now, The companies Amazon & Apple-owned ITunes are trying to "do better". On it's Prime services, subscribers can watch classic Tom & Jerry cartoons. The cartoons come with a disclaimer that says:

"Tom and Jerry shorts may depict some ethnic and racial prejudices that were once commonplace in American society. Such depictions were wrong then and are wrong today.

The original "Tom and Jerry" ran from 1940 - 1957. It was about the rivalry of Tom Cat and Jerry Mouse and had many other characters. One of those characters was named Mammy Two Shoes, voiced by Lillian Randolph.

She was a plus size, darker hue black American maid (I thought it was her house until this topic came up) that wears house dresses & slippers and has a stereotypical black southern accent. When she yells "Thomas" when referring to Tom it sounds like she says "Tom-Mus". Also she uses is in place of are and am ("is you" and "I is").  I totally understand how she is perceived as wrong. As a child I never understood why she spoke like that. Now, her clothing was not offensive to me. She was cleaning the house what was she suppose to wear. But being the 40's and 50's, that how Hollywood thought people act. But again, We know better, We do better. 

Amazon & Apple decided to show the cartoon in it's original form (An act I agree with because cutting around it make the cartoon dumb) but let subscribers understand that these images were, are and will continue to be wrong. Wording that is actually similar to disclaimers on DVD releases.

I commend these companies for these disclaimers. I said this on a FB comment on a post by a FBF. I was taught to ""Consider the time period" but the problem is now we are finding out many were/are not truly been/being taught about the time period. I think is why the disclaimer was slapped on. If they hit "Tom & Jerry", I just hope many of the Looney Toon & Warner Bros cartoons get hit also." I don't want another 10 year old discovering the subliminal racist, sexist, homophobic, etc images like I did when watching "Classic" Cartoons and Shows made by Warner Bros, MGM and others in the past. This is one time I say if parents and school are not teaching about the past let the TV (Video Service in this case) teach them. At least this lesson taught in these two sentences will be teaching them against something and not the "Anything Goes" lesson it has the reputation of teaching.

Now, I want to watch "Tom & Jerry" but I will not watch "The Fighting 69 1/2th". LoL

Always, Talking to You in Adult Terms

The Numbers Game!!! (Not Interested in Dating)

The clip is the first episode of a show I used to watch called "The Number" that was on one of my favorite Youtube channels Black & Sexy. Premise a couple have a monumental event happen in their life and they decide to reveal the number of sex partners each has had. One person's was higher than the other and the story goes awry from there. The show was a trip.

I am a person that does Not reveal her number or want to know a person's number.
Unless you are a virgin, the number of people you have slept with shouldn't matter if you care about the person. But with our minds warped by society's varied opinions about sexual purity, it does. Let me say this clearly. If your number is too Low, you are either Lying or Not Experienced Enough. If the number is too High, you are a Whore. We've all judged people by their "number". We've all been judged by our "number" Oh men yes, women judge you by the number of sexual partners you have. I knew a guy, I was not sleeping with and the topic came up and he said he tried to count but lost count.

I think that might have been the day I decided not to ever know "The Number" ever again. That was scary to know. Sad, but I judge part of that guy's life of how women he slept with. His number could have been low and he just had a bad memory.

But then what is low or high. Actually, in my humble opinion, there is no set acceptable number of sexual partners. Some people feel like any number over 1, the person you're married to is too many. Some people think over 10 is too many. Some people think if you've had under 10 sex partners by the time you are over age 25, you are lying. The proper "number" is based on opinions and not facts.

But factually, a person can sleep with one person and still contract HIV/AIDS. A person can sleep with many and still be sexually ignorant. A person can sleep with many and never contracted an STI or STD. A person can sleep with one person and be totally knowledgeable about all kinds of sexual information.

The "Number" doesn't tell you that and much much more important information that needs to be done when engaging in a sexual relationship.

That is why I want to deal with facts & Not numbers. Again 0 is the only number that reveals a fact.

So, yeah do Not ask me that. I'm Not telling you and I will not be asking you. I will be asking you more substantial questions that will determine whether we will ever sleep together. Hope that's not an issue. Hey, I'm celibate so, I can hold out. *smile*

Always, Talking to You in Adult Terms

An October Awareness Look

It is October or it is near depending on when I have time to post this one. So that means we turn our support to  Breast Cancer Research & Domestic Violence Awareness. These are two issues that are near & dear to my heart. I know women who suffered from both. Two of those women being relatives. I'm not in the physical shape to walk or run for them, Yet but I can show my awareness in a way I know would get the message across. I use my makeup looks as that way. Why? Well, I remember when both of those ladies could not wear makeup. I was floored when I found out my relative had to specially order her makeup after her cancer went into remission, She can't just go into the store and pick up stuff off the shelves and try it out. When my Big mouth shot off at my relative not know about basic trends about makeup when I was a teenager, that was when I found out when she was with her abuser, he didn't allow her to wear makeup. Makeup would attract other men. So, it was like she was a least a decade behind the trends, So that is why I bring about awareness with my makeup. If I wear makeup during the month October, I only wear pink & purple makeup. If someone ask me or bring in up, I tell them this is how I bring about awareness about Breast Cancer & Domestic Violence.

The Purple is for Domestic Violence & the Pink is for Breast Cancer. But you knew that.

Okay so in last year's BLOG I told guys I would try to figure out a matching eye to my lips.

Well, I went out on for Valentine's Day and I was wearing a purple top so I made one.

So that plus the lips,
I look like this.
To get the eye I used

Eyeshadow Primer from Avon
Strawberry Milk Jumbo Stick from NYX
Keep Your Pansies On Eyeshadow Chubby by Flower Makeup
Jet Black Eyeliner by Wet ~n~ Wild

Well of course, I had to do something different. So I made another lip ombre. I mean come on that one is pretty standard. Everybody does the bold liner around a gold, pink. or nude lip. I practiced a few ombres I saw on You Tube. Many do the purple to pink ombre.

I didn't like it on me so much. It photographed ok but I real time my top lip looked more hidden than usual. My top lip can be sort of hidden on pic but it real time, that is a no-no. Then I made the grave mistake of doing a lollipop lip with the purple. Never will I ever do that again. I'm too shamed to show that one. Well I finally decided to invert what everyone else was doing and transition pink into purple and I got this.

I love it. I can see my top and bottom lip. It photographed well. It looks go in real time. Plus I might be doing something different. Pair that with my eyes from Valentine's and I got this look for October Awareness month.

It even looks good when I'm not smiling.

LoL

I did this lip look with those products.

Blistex Berry
Clear Lip Liner by Mary Kay
Sublime by Cover Girl
Runway Plum by Sephora Collection
Candid Candy by Sephora Collection
Pink Pop by Maybelline
Blushing Mauve by Revlon

.
















So this will be how I look this month when I put on makeup.

Oh before I leave I have to show off my newest pin.

I already had a Breast Cancer Awareness pin (probably why it is fading some) but I didn't have a Domestic Violence pin. Well in my search I found this one with the feet. Oh, those feet were so powerful to me. I had to get it. So I'm wearing those all month long.

Again October is not about what I look like or what I wear. It is about conveying a message about two important issues to me. Breast Cancer & Domestic Violence are affecting us all. One will be surprised who is in the fights for their lives because of these two things. So Keep Your Hands, Feet, and Cruelty to Yourself & Save the Ta-Ta's.

Always, Talking to You in Adult Terms

Don't Disturb My Fall TV Schedule (2014-2015)

Well, TV season 2014-2015 has officially started. And yeah, I got opinions.

Sunday: It is about three shows for me. Resurrection, Cutthroat Kitchen & Boardwalk Empire

Resurrection gets my TV blood pumping for the beginning of the week. Marty is now one of the Returned. I know this is fiction but seeing a Omar Epps as a deceased Marty made me frown. It was very life like. Also the matriarch of the Langston family has returned also. Maybe be some order & healing can be brought to this family. They need it, so bad.

Cutthroat Kitchen is so good.
The sabotages are so funny. Have you ever thought about preparing you dish in a high chair and cooking on a toy size stove? You don't know how to cook until you do it successfully with one of the sabotages.

This is the final season Boardwalk Empire.

The last season of Nucky time. They say No Goes Quietly.
They are not lying.

Monday: This day will probably be mostly a reading day. LoLo Jones & Tavis Smiley have both been voted off Dancing With the Stars, so I'm out.  I watched Scorpion.

It's just on the "need something to watch" list for me. Actually I read while I watched it.  I'll just wait until Jane the Virgin

comes on next month and declare if Monday is a total "Reading Day" or not

Tuesday: So Agents of S.H.I.E.L.D. sucked me in again. Last season, until the last 4 episodes I would watch this show and regret watching it. Yet, I kept coming back. I have to see it through. I just want this show to get a consistent Black female character that is a Good Guy that will Not die or just seen for one episode (President of the S.H.I.E.L.D Academy’s Science and Technology). That's all I am asking for.

Stepping between a slave and shotgun was the deciding factor for me to watch, Forever.

Dr Henry Morgan is such a noble 35 year old guy. He's seen and experienced so much in life. In the first episode, he died 3 times. Once just to test the murder weapon. I also we see his past and there is a mysterious "he" that decided to call himself Adam, who claims to be living longer than Dr. Morgan.

Wednesday: Oh The Middle is back. This show is so funny. It's my opinion it is millennial version of Roseanne.

Sue Heck is my favorite. Her gung ho attitude reminds me of my niece. First episode dealt with Frankie Heck forgetting the first week of school. My mother never forgot the first day of school but there was a reason why she had copies of the school calendars at work & home.

I liked Blackish. I relate a lot to Blackish. My black experience differs from my mom's and her's differ from my grandmother's. I think that will be the base undertone of this show. How has being black progress And not progressed. I don't know about it being The Cosby Show, so far. The Cosby Show was more smooth with it's "We are Black people" messages. But like Richard Pryor used to say, "We will see".  Love Laurence Fishburne being funny. And Tracie Ellis Ross can never do any wrong in my eyes.

Thursday: You know I was in Shondaland on TV Thursday.
So Grey's Anatomy is now on at 7:00 CST. Remember when it was on Sunday night. I do. I can Not wait until the whole new daughter/sister storyline comes out. Oh Meredith is her usual mean girl self with her and it's going to get worse, IMO. I really think Ms Meredith may already know about Ms. Maggie. Ms. Maggie just don't understand. Her sister treats all her half sisters like that. Wish she could've me Lexie Grey. She would've had some stories for her. And the "Weber giving his baby some lunch money moment" *tears* Bailey ~vs ~ Karev Let's get ready to Rumble

As for Scandal, I am glad Shonda Rhimes heard this Non Fan of Fitz or Jake talking and let Olivia get back to being the Fixer She is without a distraction (Oh even Jake couldn't get in the way)!!! I know it will not last forever but hey, an OUTSPOKEN_DIVA was Happy for at least that episode. Yes, Olivia Pope, the Fixer & OPA are back. Now, "Timed Out" Mellie frightens me a little but I need Mellie to Grieve her little Jack and her Life for a little while. Oh knowing she has Wolf Monkey was Very, Very Gross.

While we talking grieving, Who was not crying at the Harrison Wright funeral? When I die, I want Scandal's music director to do the soundtrack. Baby, I expecting instrumental of "Precious Lord" or "Amazing Grace" but Shonda brought out Aretha Franklin's version of "Like a Bridge Over Trouble Waters". I'm already in my feelings like the young ones say and she go and do this. But then Shonda Rhimes productions does do music right.

Say it with Annalise Keating and me, How to Get Away With Murder (Murdaahh).

Okay so we (and her students) get to study her actual cases as they are being litigated. That is good, I like when character's actually do their jobs. But the two, yes two backdrop stories, both being deaths, well possible murders and one of those being the death of Annalise's husband are great. When I finally saw it was Sam Keating in the carpet that was rolled up, I gasped.  There is all kinds of "Who Dunnit" in this show and I Love it. Also, there is all kinds of natural sensuality on this show. Annalise is very smooth and very vixen like even in her professional life. I thought her very gorgeous boyfriend, Detective Leahy was her husband at first. I just thought they were being kinky at the office. That's how natural their relationship looked to me. Once I saw her husband, I understood why he married her. Keating is very smoldering Diva. Get it Viola, Get it.

Friday: I only have one show I must watch the rest isn ONDemand catch ups

I love The Amazing Race. It's got action and travel. The two teams I am cheering for are the Food Scientists and the Flight Attendants (Mother & Daughter). The first team I wanted gone is gone. All I can say is, Karma is a b-word. I love that it is on Fridays. Football and other sports on Sunday can't push it back in the schedule to the point where we can't see it.

My shows I will catch up on ONDemand this year are

New Girl & The Mindy Project: They moved Agents of S.H.I.E.L.D from 7 to 8 so I have to watch my Adorkable sheroes later in the week.

Red Band Society: I have a sore spot for sickly kids. I was raised one. I have treated a few. This show is really good.
Ever volunteer on a children's wing of a hospital and she will understand.

BigBang Theory:Yeah since I am in Shondaland on Thursday the antics of lovable nerds like me (Bernadette) has to be seen on Friday once they move them back from Monday soon.

I will tell you now that towards the end it got a little emotional for me. I used to discuss a lot of this with Football Nerd. Football Nerd was "my person" when it came to Grey's Anatomy (not in life I don't have one person I'm too complex for just one). I was cool and then I went to message him and the cry face started.

Watching Harrison Wright's funeral didn't help any at all. I've avoided watching funerals since that day. I'm not strong enough yet. Then, The Amazing Race came on. It was already hard not talking about who we would be cheering for but then the first destination of the Virgin Islands made my heart drop. He spent some time in there as a child. They took a flight on a "crop duster" to get to the another part of the island and I remember some of his stories and a few pictures of him in a school uniform. Maybe he was watching with me. Maybe that was his way of telling me. Maybe I'm stretching it. LoL Resurrection help me heal a little. I saw a tweet while live tweeting, "I'll be happy that my love ones came back from the dead. A little scared but happy". I agree with that tweet. Also, I know Jesus would have to be coming back, so that would be shouting time.  :-) Just pray for me, I'm healing but, it such the process.

That is what I will be watching the season. Let's see if I'll have have to modify the schedule, I will say, So far, So good.

Always, Talking to You in Adult Terms

Oh the Angry Black Woman (I Blame Pop Culture)

Okay before you read this, go check out this ARTICLE, if you have not already.

It is already bad enough with reality television constantly playing up the image of the Angry & Sassy ("Coming for you again, soon" warning) Black Woman. Here come Ny Times writer,

Alessandra Stanley and her very hurt butt article about her disapproval of the the image of black women Shonda Rhimes uses in her shows. Alessandra Stanley called

Shonda Rhimes, an Angry Black woman for creating non docile black female characters as leads. Stanley does not view Miranda Bailey, Olivia Pope and the newest character added, Annalise Keating as heard working heroines. She gives that compliment to Esther Rolle when she played Florida the maid on Maude & benign mother also lawyer, Clair Huxtable. I want Stanley to watch the beginning video of Clair Huxtable and wonder will she still call her benign. Lord, I just got Clair Huxtable put on Stanley's "Angry Black Woman Lead" list.

When I read this article I immediately thought of this meme.

Even Stanley's beloved Florida Evans on Maude probably wanted to tell her,

 when it came to Stanley's green eyed feeling of  Shonda Rhimes. So unless, Black women are help the women succeed in the background, she should not be seen on scripted television. Or if she not helping the white person be the best they can, she can only be a gentle mother aiding her family through life. Alessandra Stanley lives in a trivial past filled with stereotypes on her television only. Stanley need to turn the past off and go step into the real world. She must have never heard the real Crisis Management, "Fixer", Judy Smith.

I doubt Ms Smith is docile in her job. Stanley clearly has never truly seen a medical or law professor "terrorize" their student into being the best they can. I was a nursing & nutrition student. I have had some terrorizing instructors. I'll take her to Lamar University and let her meet my Basic Foods instructor who took ten points off every time a student said cooking term wrong. When she get's a 30 for the day, I bet she'll understand some instructors are like that. Then she wants to talk about the morals of the characters of Pope & Keating. Where was her morality finger waving when Rhimes introduced up to Addison Montgomery (formerly Shepherd)

on Grey's Anatomy later on the now cancelled Private Practice. Derick Shepherd would've never came to Seattle Grace and met Meredith Grey had Addison never cheated on him. Oh and she complained about the rantings and long speeches of the Angry Black Women leads. Umm remember Meredith Grey's "Choose Me" speech. Am I "nitpicking"?

Those are even the most egregious parts of the article.

"As Annalise, Ms. Davis, 49, is sexual and even sexy, in a slightly menacing way, but the actress doesn't look at all like the typical star of a network drama. Ignoring the narrow beauty standards some African-American women are held to, Ms. Rhimes chose a performer who is older, darker-skinned and less classically beautiful than Ms. Washington, or for that matter Halle Berry, who played an astronaut on the summer mini-series “Extant.”

My mind exploded at  less classically beautiful. So, now Alessandra Stanley is an expert on Black Beauty.

Halle Berry is somewhere, wishing Stanley had not brought her name into this typecast based article. It is Shonda Rhimes' show. She can show the off the wonderful beauty of the Black skin tone rainbow if she wants. Dark-skinned woman, heck any-skinned don't only play servants & sidekicks to white people. Don't let racism and pop culture fool you. There is not one single written down rule about that. If it was, it would still get broken because Hollywood breaks the rules all the time. Then we wonder why a "Dark-Skin Girls" documentary had to be made. Stanley needs to know that is not the Black standard of beauty. That is the White standard of beauty that was fed to all of us. The problem is those that keep eating it and won't feast on another dish.

Now if you think Shonda Rhimes didn't respond to Alessandra Stanley. Huffington post covered it very well  HERE. My Twitter timeline was full of Ms. Rhimes rebuttal tweets and us fans agreeing with her. I loved how she informed the writer & creator of the article. In my opinion, all Alessandra Stanley had to say is, "I don't like Shonda Rhimes work. I prefer the black women characters of the past" when asked to review the new show "How to Get Away With Murder". I did my research on Ms Stanley. This is not her first time not doing her job correctly. She misspelled the name of Everybody Loves Raymond. She accused Geraldo of a nudge that never happened and much more. Maybe that is why she is so hard hitting Shonda Rhimes. She can't do her job correctly so, she'll make somebody else look bad. Alessandra Stanley, you failed, majorly.

Oh Well, this time next week we'll be talking about the Shondaland shows that fill our Thursday primetime lives. Alessandra Stanley's critical piece will fade away. No, I'm not Angry at her. I pray for her and others that continue to ingest the images the Pop Culture that tells are the only proper definitions of people.

I'm sorry, we are All more than that definition, even the definitions.

Always, Talking to You in Adult Terms