Harrison Wright Replacements???

Okay before I start this post, let me address a troll whose comment I delete on the blog about the Scandal Season 3 Finale . Troll called me a racist because I said Columbus Short was "the only OUTSPOKEN_DIVA approved hunk on the show". Since I deleted the comment, troll has sent a email every day since trying to debate me. Here is my official statement:
      Pop Culture tells you I have to say that Fitz & Jake are attractive. The Key Phrase is "tells you". Pop Culture does not tell me who I think is attractive. I do not think the actors who play Fitz or Jake are handsome. I also don't think the actor who played Olivia Pope's former love interest, Edison was either. So that's the hammer I will use to smash your racist accusations. Boom!!! This is my blog and also my choice of "hunkiness". Stop trying to goad me in to a argument about it.

Well, Columbus Short will not be returning back to Scandal after the summer break.

 I told you Shonda Rhimes does not play with Scandal (pun not intended). I've seen many talk about who could replace Columbus short as Harrison Wright. I only have one choice, Brian Wright.

But actually I don't want any actor replacing Harrison Wright. Replacing Columbus Short with anyone as Harrison Wright is like replacing Aunt Vivian on Fresh Prince or Harriet on Family Matters. This is not the 1990's. Writers Know 1) We all don't look a like. 2) Casting is not fooling anyone.

I expect Shonda Rhimes to Introduce another Gladiator at some point in the storyline (Yeah I have some ideas. Follow me on Twitter to find out). We will have to see what she does. If you watch Grey's Anatomy, the "Cardio God" after Isaiah Washington's departure was not a Black Man. It was a White Lesbian. So the newest Gladiator may not be a Black Man. But if he is here a my Top 3 choices.

Larenz Tate I know he's been bumped up from Recurring to Regular on Fx's show Rescue Me. But in my opinion, he can do both. I've never watched Rescue Me. I saw him as guest star on The Mindy Project, recently. He was smooth talking political candidate named Tracy Whitfield. We also know from the role O-Dog in Menace to Society when he was younger. He can handle a gun. And yes, if he can't do both, the political candidate player can be a guest star needing Olivia's fixing (It's NO secret, I want Olivia Pope to get back to TRUE Fixer work).

Las Alonzo He played an FBI agent in the one season show, Deception. Which means he has experience being crime wielding and fact finding. Plus, I think Alonzo has the personality to corral the Gladiator spirits into positivity like Harrison Wright. Now, can keep Alonzo's Tweets out his mouth and not cause any more minor controversies?

Aldis Hodge He not just an OUTSPOKEN_DIVA approved hunk. He's currently on the eye candy list. All because of a little show called Leverage. Hodge played a criminal hacker turned good guy. Often he had to play crazy characters to get good results. Because Huck may need some help because he'll be going through with the fallout of the family issue and/or his antic with the quinnteresting, Quinn. Now I know Hodge looks a little young to be a Gladiator but so does Quinn.

Yes, these picture posted were divisive. Other than Huck, all the Gladiators dress nice. I showed these actors dressing nice on purpose. They are all OUTSPOKEN_DIVA hunk approved. But most importantly IMO they would be great as Gladiators if Shonda Rhimes is going to stick with Black Male. I'll have to put more thought into "Other That Can Be Gladiators". Just dealing with the surface level interest. So stay tune for another blog dealing with that topic. Okay so, who would you like to see as a Gladiator? Let me know in the comments below.

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Love is in the Air YET I Get Questioned...

OMG, I had the most Loving weekend. I watched my little cousin, my cousin's daughter, get married. It was short and sweet. Hung out with the young couple the next day, The new husband totally fits in with our family. And finally one of my "Chosen Family" members announced she Engaged on Sunday. Her fiancé has been welcomed since day 1 of meeting him. So, I totally approve of this engagement. All this excitement for other people and folks want to ask me when will get married. First at my Foundation church by this old deacon and then on Facebook (just this morning). I actually deleted the comment before someone else saw it and an argument exploded. I have some argumentative FBF.

This is one of the annoyances of weddings for me. "When are you getting married"? "Oh, honey you're next". "You're not getting any younger". I didn't grow up with a "must be marriage", "must-have grandkids" type of mother. Actually, until I graduated from college, I thought that attitude was something that was made for TV. Then one of my late neighbors asked it and my grandmother told him off before I could say anything. I think that popped the corked "You need to be married" bottle in my life. Why is there a need for me to be married? Why are people that are not me desperate for me to be married? Oh all the things I am not, why is not being married the concerned?

My mother taught us to "Let God Order You Into Marriage". I am not against being married. I want to spend forever with someone who truly loves God and me. Yes, in that order.  If he loves God and is praying to find me, his bride, I know God is leading him to me And it also means he's preparing me to be found. I feel like it is God's will when or if I get married. I just really want him to Clamp man's mouth shut with the questions about when he wants me to do it.

I refuse to be foolhardy & hasty in attitude to be married. I see so many who are and it pains me. I never gave myself an age to get married and I'm not going to now. Wait that's not true. If I hold out until age 65, he can't say I married him for his money. Yes, that is a joke.

So, get the message out. Don't ask Me when am I going to get married. Go ask God!!! He knows it all. I will not let people stress me out about a life-long decision. Congratulations to my loved ones that were married & got engaged this past weekend. God bless you in the New Step in Life!!!

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Twerking Craze (I Blame Pop Culture)

 

I am not a hypocrite because I Am a hypocrite. I am (Not *was* because my Heart is still there) a Teenager of the 90’s. So, of course in 1993, I was twerking when DJ Jubilee told us to on his song “Jubilee All”. But then I had been Booty Bouncing, Shake My Butt, Backing My Thang Up, and Humping With It for years. I still do. I can’t Drop It Like It Hot, Warm or Cold anymore but I still shake it sometimes. Now I said 1993, I was twerking. So why is there a “Twerking Craze” now? I will not throw down the race card but I blame one thing is fuels, Pop Culture.

My mom called it the Funky WahTuSi back when she was younger in the 1960’s. I came home from school and she was teaching my younger cousins and I swear her legs haven’t been right since (Yes, that is a joke). Now all of a sudden there are all these “How To Twerk” video popping up. Everywhere you go random people are asking “Is this how you twerk?”.  Miley Cyrus, The Golden Sisters (I love them. I truly do.), and other of these pop stars are Not doing anything New. What do you think “Shake, Shake! Shake, Shake! Shake your Booty”, looked like on the dance floor? Yet, somebody trendy in the entertainment world does a dance and calls in a name people don’t recognize and there is a media storm. Pop Culture Media, let me tell you and maybe you’ll get the word out “Twerking it Not New”. The world listens to you.

I am Not sorry to pop Pop Culture’s bubble about this new dance called twerking. Pop Culture knew twerking was not new. It just didn’t want to let the masses know. The funny part is the masses already knew. We just let Pop Culture look foolish. I bet Dollars to Donut, everyone reading this blog is saying “D’uh” and agreeing with me. Hopefully they are also telling the few out here asking “What is Twerking” the same things I am saying in this blog. If you are reading this and you did not know that, now you do. Now go tell a friend.

 Oh and hat's off to the Microsoft dictionaries that don't recognize "twerk" as a word. Now, I’m off to swing my upside down teardrop shape tail to some 90’s Southern Bass Music & Hip Hop. Yeah a lot of it is riddle with misogyny and sex but “Tootsie Roll” & “Get It Ready, Ready” never get old. They get me going. I told y’all, I’m not a hypocrite because I Am a Hypocrite..

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Just Want a Maxi Dress *whining* (What I Wear)

Pimps aren’t the only people having a rough time. It’s hard out here for a short plus size diva like me. It’s a lot you don’t see in pictures. I’m just 5’2”. I have short legs, torso and arms. I also have a Medium B Width foot.  Shopping can get sometimes frustrating to me.

For the 5 years in a row, I have fail to find many affordable sleeveless Maxi dress (sleeved ones look like muumuus IMO) in petite plus size. I did find one this year. Sounds like one somebody heard my cry.

I’ve yet to find a cap sleeve shirt that does not fit me like a short sleeve. See this dress with my attempt to shorten the sleeve. (This dress gets a lot of wear)

Still Not as short as it looked in the ad. I gave up trying to wear short skirts in high school. Since I have a big bust I use to pull my tight knit skirt under my bust to shorten them. Now I’m too old to wear my skirts that short.

Let me also talk to shoe industry. Can a lady with a B width foot but a wide leg get a well-crafted fashionable comfortable heel or boot? Any shoe (mostly boots) that I own that is made for plus size women are stuffed at the toe. They are too wide. I know I could go to all the other stores and get any shoe I want and I do. But I like getting my shoes from Plus Size retailers because the shoes is better crafted for a larger frame. This is one of the few B width shoe bought from a Plus Size retailer I own and was from the internet not an in-person store.

I just want to dress like everyone else and be able to pay for it also. It‘s bad enough that plus size clothes cost a little more than average. (I saw a Petite Plus Size Maxie Dress for $98) It’s already bad enough the fashion industry is very slow to understand that the “Big Girls” don’t want to dress in geriatric wear.  I just want someone to understand the “squatted” ladies are here and we want to look nice too. Don’t tell me to just get it tailored. Sometimes that cost almost as much as the item. Oh well back to whining. “I just want more than one sleeveless. Maxi dress”. LMBO

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Rape Culture (I Blame Pop Culture)

Rape culture links rape and sexual violence to the culture of a society, and in which prevalent attitudes and practices normalize, excuse, tolerate, and even condone rape. And we thank Wikipedia for their definition. Rape Culture is

·           Blaming the Victim, the victim’s clothing, time the victim was out, how much did the victim drank in alcohol, did the victim know the rapist

·           When a Group of men & boys have "gang bang" sex on a girl. The guys get arrested yet still people ask “Where was the girl’s parents”?

·           "Men can’t be raped by Women"

·           Children well under the age of consent thinking having sex at that age is normal

·           Seduction is romantic

·           Watching a sex tape of an R&B crooner, saying that he did it yet still buying his music (I’m not a hypocrite because I am a hypocrite. I was still a fan of Trapped in the Closet Chapters for a minute after finally seeing the tape) music. Umm don’t you think the true public opinion didn’t sway the case

·           Men cat-calling and harassing women as the walk down the street

·           Young men being taken to prostitute because they are "too old to be a virgin"

·           Girls not being allowed to wear legging to school because it entices the boys & male teachers

·           Boy slapping girls on the butt or grabbing their breast and running off like it’s their free for all right to grope

·           Women just now being thought of as child molesters & rapists

·           The term “underage sex worker” instead of “child trafficking victim”

·           20 different ways women have been taught to avoid rape, while barely anyone is teaching men NOT TO RAPE

·           Asking “Were any of the rapist’s victims, prostitutes or strippers”?

·           Video games are created that allow players to rape other player’s characters… for amusement

·           Men plan out their rapes in advance by carrying rape drugs with them

·           When Rappers don’t understand putting drugs in a person’s drink, taking that person anywhere to have sex, have sex with said person and “they don’t even know it” is Wrong

·           When the President of France attacks a random stranger in his hotel room and gets away with it, cause “women always want sex.”

·           Arizona publishes the names and addresses of rape victims

·           When universities give women students rape whistles to stop rape

·           “You know you want it” because of these “Blurred Lines”

·           Believing men are wild animals unable to control their sexual urges

·           Detention centers and communities allowing undocumented women to be raped because the fear of deportation keeps them from reporting

·           One Month Rape Sentences

·           Child Brides not Sex Slaves

·           Rape Culture is made up by Angry Feminists

Did I miss any? Let me know in the comments. And what has Pop Culture done to stop any of this? How much of it has Pop Culture promoted, itself?  I’ll let you answer that.

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It's Easter Time!!!

I've told you before here in this BLOG, Easter is my Favorite Holiday. Today is Good Friday. It's the day Christian commemorate the Death of Jesus Christ. Easter is the day we celebrate He Rising from the Grave. When I was younger I thought Good Friday was a holiday the Baptist (That's was what I was growing up) got off from work & school. I was 12 when I found out that I was wrong. We didn't go to school because my mother took the day off and she used that time for us to get our hair done and other decorating chores for Sunday. So on Good Friday that is what I still do. Today, I started some of my décors. I picked some flowers out of one of my grandmother's garden.

Made an arrangement for the coffee table.

Also, put out a little candy for the family.

Tomorrow I'll start part of the dinner. Dinner will be

Ham

(We only get it 2-3 times a year)

Potato Salad

Green Bean Casserole

Apple Pie

(The Farewell to Baking Season Dessert).

Pretty much every year Ham, Potato Salad, a hot vegetable Side dish, and dessert. The decorating & the meal are easy. That's one of the reasons why it's my favorite. It's not so commercial so all the hustle & bustle is deleted for me.

I think the meaning of the holiday has always warmed my heart. This week my aunt sent out an Inspiration message that contained the scripture I learn when I was in daycare. It brought so many fun memories to my mother and I this week. The scripture is:

“For what I received I passed on to you as of first importance: that Christ died for our sins according to the Scriptures, that he was buried, that he was raised on the third day according to the Scriptures.”
 

(1 Corinthians 15:3–4, NIV)

My mother cracked up when she read that. Every day in devotion we did this scripture at daycare. I loved to recite it. It had choreography

Put your arms out like a cross (Christ Died)

Point to yourself (For Our Sins)

Make a book or Bible with your hands (According to the Scriptures)

Bend and Point Down (He was Buried)

Bring your Body and finger back up (Rose again)

Hold up three fingers (Third day)

Make a book or Bible with your hands (According to the Scriptures)

My mother said that I was so little that she didn't understand what I was saying until she asked the teacher was "According to the Scriptures". It's refreshing to know I was taught at an early age the true meaning of Easter. Because 1 Corinthians 15:3–4, is just that, plain and simple. Okay, now I'm going to dry my eyes.

Happy Easter!!!

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Alright, Scandal Season 3 Finale Talk

First I would like Thank God, For he is the head of my life. I also thank him for my father, Track & Field Nerd & my mother, Basketball Thug. I know my father was not there mostly but he was not Maya Pope. Also I know my mother didn’t like most of the guys my sister & I brought home but she Never killed any of their family members to get us away from them. She's not Rowan "Eli" Pope. Neither one of them thought to say “Olivia, stop being with the President. Just scheme, scheme, kill the son, lock the other parent back up, & daughter finally leaves TV POTUS. I think the only person that has worse parents than Olivia Pope is Clarisse “Precious” Jones.

This was the most twisted, sickest, vile, episode, to date. Poor Mama Pope she got to play outside for a little while. But like little sheltered children, she went too far and acted up and got sent to back to her room. I knew she was never dead for the 2^nd time. I clearly said on Twitter (Oh I live tweet during the show. I live tweet during Grey’s Anatomy also.), “Nope, I want to see Maya's body "Maya Pope is Dead"”. We could’ve thought they killed her and next season we would hear, “Hi Livie”, because that tough bird refused to die and we end up having heart attacks. At least now that she is away in a hole. If she gets out this time, we, the audience, were not fooled into believing she was dead.

Poor Mellie, Bless her heart (and not in the Southern Sense). Oh the guilt of a secret. I think the real healing for the Grants will have to come from Mellie. Too bad, Big Jerry, Fitzgerald Grant II is dead. So we can’t have a show down with him. Now that the secret is out, real healing can began. I do want some more remorse for Fitz because the way he hurled insults at Mellie when he found out about Andrew and her was revolting. I want him racked with pain for speaking to his raped wife like that. I don’t care if he didn’t know.

So, Cyrus Beene finally realized he was soul less. Episodes back after he had his husband killed and he finally broke down because James was dead, I laughed. I hope he finds or buy back his soul. And maybe Sally Langston can come on as a cabinet member in the next Fitz, TV POTUS administration. She is funny to me. The TV White House needs one Bama Bat crap, Crazy member in it. I mean can you imagine a diplomatic meeting without a little "Time for your slaughter, piggy piggy!" and "Yum, yum, crispy piggy. Yum, yum!”

Quinn Truly Loves Huck. When you love someone enough to know you might have to lose them, You Love that person. Quinn turn over the folder containing his family’s where about to him. That’s Love!!! I don’t care if Huck gets back with his family for emotional sake. I just want to not see any more intimate scene between Quinn & Huck ever again. If reuniting him with his family will do that, good!!! Shonda Rhimes, Make That Stop, Forever!!!

Oh here is a note:

Thank you Jake!!!

Love,

David Rosen

Harrison is a Schrodinger’s Cat paradox. We don’t know if he is dead (Number 186 for Eli Pope. Jerry was number 185) or alive (To go back to Pope & Associates or Work for B613). I know one thing, Columbus Short better get his “Scandal” together because Shonda Rhimes is not above getting rid of his butt. Call Isiah Washington and ask him how she acts. Get it together. You’re the only OUTSPOKEN_DIVA approved hunk on the show.

Olivia will be back. She hit the Ignore button on the Grants, this time. Maybe after she fixes herself, she come back. Maybe she won’t fix herself at all and come back. Either way, Olivia Pope Will Be Back!!!

Okay let’s talk about the underlying lesson to be learned from Season 3 of Scandal. The Power of the Puh is Dangerous. It is so dangerous that:

·         Grown man will run around frightened when people say it is coming to the USA

·         Stab it’s lover and leave him dying in the floor

·         Steal secrets from its secondary lover which will anger him and cause him to put his hand around its throat (Jake has domestic violence traits).

·         Cause its husband to shoot its true love

·         Threaten its lover with a gun

·         Have its daddy kill the offspring of its married lover

·         Get itself Killed (RIP Adnan Salif)

·         Get itself locked up again

The Power of the Puh is dangerous. Umm yeah, I was talking about three different ones. People, if you don’t learn anything form Scandal. Sex can get you killed.

So that’s my take on the Scandal Season 3 finale. What’s your take? Leave it in the comments below. Now let me get ready to start to say good bye to Christina Yang on Grey’s Anatomy, next week. I’ll be back to talk about it.

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Sex Tapes to Relevancy (I Blame Pop Culture)

I had to view the trailer to one of the reality shows that makes me flee from social media when it is on TV because y’all want to talk shower rods & this show. (Umm who is the “human rat” guy? And when did Li’l Boosie put on that kind of weight?) Then because of autoplay on Facebook, I saw the sex tape (and the shower rod) trailer talked about on the Love & Hip Hop Atlanta trailer. Ok, the lady knows how to pick out sturdy shower accessories. She gets a thumbs up from me on that. Now what she does with the shower rod *sigh* is going to be mimicked by the freaky and her infamy will rise.

The first one I remember was Tommy Lee & Pamela Anderson. This was pre-internet and the media & gossip was all a buzz about it. It also received a healthy dose of shame. Then was the R. Kelly one that everyone claims to watch, said it was him, but… Let me stop let’s just say I’ll be bringing this tape up again in a blog about Rape Culture. Then the person who has become one the most famous names out right now because of a sex tape, Ms. Kim Kardashian. Honestly, I have never watched whatever she did with Ray J. It’s been talked about enough, I feel I don’t need to.

It is sad to me sex tapes get your name out there in Pop Culture. There are many. Some are leaked. Some are put out on purpose. I just don’t want young people to think sex taping is the truest way to stardom. It’s like sex tapes are the newest way to “sleep your way to the top”. No one needs to know how your personal “Home Depot mixes the Paint in the Bucket”. People need to know of all the sex tapes out there how many people have made it to relevancy in Pop Culture. The number is very few. Tommy Lee & R. Kelly was already famous. R. Kelly almost went to prison *sigh* because of one. Kim K has a reality show but is constantly reminded by the Pop Culture media how she got her fame. And as for this Mimi person, it’s not looking good for her according to talk among my FBF that watches the show. Seems like she is a bit of a liar when it comes to talking about this tape.

I’m no hypocrite because I am a hypocrite. Without sex tapes, the world would have never met The Golden Sisters. That’s them above viewing Kim K & Ray J’s tape. Those ladies crack me up. Sex Tapes do not. Let’s show the real damage that these things truly cause and stop glorifying them like works of art.

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"I Blame Pop Culture" (New Blog Series Announcement)

If you follow me on Twitter, Here, you already know how hard I am on Pop Culture. Pop Culture has defined everything in our lives and all of its definitions are not positive. I am sick of it and this blog series is me taking a stand.

When I say Pop Culture, I'm not talking just what is "Trending". Thanks to Wikipedia, Popular Culture is the entirety of ideas, perspectives, attitudes, memes, images, and other phenomena that are within the mainstream of a given culture, especially Western culture of the early to mid 20th century and the emerging global mainstream of the late 20th and early 21st century. Heavily influenced by mass media, this collection of ideas permeates the everyday lives of the society.  So basically, Pop Culture consists of the attitudes, customs, and beliefs that distinguishes one group of people from another that is appealing to the general public.

This will be an ongoing series. I'll spread my discussions out and not put them all out all at once. Topics will include:
American Dieting
Being Christian
College
Masculine/Feminine
Not Really a Nerd
Not Black Enough
Sex Tape to Relevancy
Rape Culture
Reality Shows
Romance/Dating
and many more. Also I will prepare you for me stating "I'm no hypocrite because I am Hypocrite". Pop Culture has made a one out of all of us. So while I'm discussing my issues with Pop Culture, I'll have to reveal how I was caught up in the hype of some of it also. Hey, I'm no hypocrite because I am Hypocrite. LoL

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April is National Poetry Month (Poetry Corner)

Today, I was reminded that April is National Poetry Month.  I told you guys in the blog Why The Name OUTSPOKEN_DIVA, that OUTSPOKEN_DIVA was originally my pen name. I also said I would share some of my poetry one day. Today is that day. I will share 3 of them and include a short prose how they came to be.

1. Worthy of Price In undergrad at Lamar University, I had HATERS. Yes, I have those. I just don't complain about them like... One guy didn't understand why I didn't have low self-esteem because I was Fat. A couple of members of a sorority referred to me as "Dyme Piece" (that song was new & popular, then) because I thought, No Wait I knew I was Cute (I had a knack to dress up for no reason at all). And the list went on and on. By the time I learn any of this I was weeks from graduating, so I wasn't bothered badly. This poem was born one night after a passing some of my Haters.



Worthy of Price

Now, I know no one told You

That All Women

Should have "GREAT" self-esteem

But I know you thought

The One who covers her body

The One who won't wear makeup

The Fat, Big Boned, or Thick One

The Quiet One or Shy One

Did Not value themselves

PLEASE!!!

So What you whisper, you wonder why she think she thinks she is a "Diva or "Dyme"

Why shouldn't she

She May Think

Others can be the Dyme

But your Life isn't even the Down Payment for a Look from her

Infinity is her Value

Her price tag is Endless

Not to be Bought

Of her you can't make change

Everybody is so why can't she be

"Worthy of the Price"

© Copyright 2003

Praise and Worship Crush On New Year's Eve 2004, was the first night I went with my BFF named Football Nerd to the church we attend now. The church is a mega-church but for the first year we sat around the same people. That included a man whose worship for God was very attractive. New Year's Eve 2005, I figured out that the lady and the children with him was his family. Whoops!!! LMBO

Praise and Worship Crush

You caught my eye

Not with your looks

Not your style or dress

But with your Worship

Your Worship to the most high God

I was wiping my eyes of joyous tears

And I saw you go beyond the veil

You looked so peaceful

Like you were happy to be there

Like Worship is second nature

You Worship makes me want to join you

Join you in Worship, Praise, Glorifying

Our Mighty God

Who is this tugging on my blouse?

Oh Praise & Worship Period is over

I'm the Only one standing

Standing, Watching you Worshi---Sit down

Let me Pay Attention to Service

Instead of you my Praise and Worship crush

© Copyright 2006

A Whole Love Let's just say I don't believe in 50-50 in a romantic relationship. A man needs to bring all of him because I will be bringing all of me. Oh and this one rhymes!!!

A Whole Love

100 Percent

Love that's decent

Love that's Sweet

And truly Complete

Not Half and Half

Please, Don't make me laugh

Don't want Half your heart

But the Whole body part

Not 50/50

That's not me

A Love that is Real

Something I can feel

That's what's wrong with us

Can you, I trust

I have no clue

'Cause I don't have all of you

Only Whole men can come to the table

To help fix a guy, I'm no longer able

Only a Whole woman and a Whole man

Should be able to walk Hand in Hand

To give Love that is Whole

Will we ever be so Bold

© Copyright 2005

So, that's some of my poetry. Hope you enjoyed it. Maybe from time to time I might share more. Maybe a short story, sometime, also.

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My Theme Song

Today on Facebook I saw a post that said “What is the song that describes you”. Oh all the songs I have on my Getting Ready playlist (Sacred or Secular) the only song that would come to my mind is the one above these words. It’s called “Nothing to Lose” by The Clark Sisters. It written by Elbernita “Twinkie” Clark, who is on the organ (Remember her name in June).  The main lyrics simply say:

I have walked in the rain
Like Paul, I have strained
I have even felt drained, Yes I Have

I have had a taste of sorrow
From the past I had borrowed
And somehow I always felt
That there was hope for tomorrow

Jesus, Unhooked the chains
And my Lord, eased the pain


And He gave me nothing to lose
But all, to gain

If there is ever a movie made of my life this song needs to be a part of the soundtrack. Matter of fact it is listed in this Blog as the closer. Why is it the closer? Have you ever had a Great feeling and thought wow one day I’ll feel like this forever? Well, when this like is over I believe we will get our just reward. Now if at the end of this life that is not the case I’ll eat crow then. But until then that is what I will believe and will continue to believe. Trouble can’t last always. All the no’s, the yes’s & maybe’s thAT turn in no’s, the heart aches, strife and hardships that everyone including ourselves cause can’t be forever. That song tells me I am not the only one that know there is hope in another day. That makes me smile through anything.

So if you ever hear me play “Southern Girl” by Erykah Badu, “Ebony Eyes” by Stevie Wonder or “Happy and You Know It” by Vickie Winans know that these might have me bouncing around relating to them but there is one song that keeps me going for the long haul. Yes, Ms. Twinkie Clark, God gave me nothing to lose but All, to gain.

So what’s your theme song? Tell me in the comments. And just because it’s not a gospel song don’t be shamed into not listing it. What describes you, Describes you and your story.

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The Personality Profile of OUTSPOKEN_DIVA

Okay a few blogs (This One) ago, I blogged as my "Churched Girl" personality, “Felicity” (she did a great job too) and I got a few emails asking if that is the only personality of mine I have named. My answer is NO!!! SOooo, I felt persuaded to talk about my “personalities”.

I believe we all have ONE personality that can be split into many areas. This is not the same a Dissociative identity disorder (DID), previously known as multiple personality disorder. That is a mental disorder that is cause by trauma. We all do it. We all have “characters” that we “name” to describe our many ways to handle life. Some of us have alter egos. Some of us call it “the masks” we wear. I decided to name mine, that’s all.

The Ladies

Shelia Royce Williams: She is the “black only” lady. Often mistaken as the “strong black woman”, she is no non-sense but lovable. She is at all “Black only” functions, reads “only black” writings, listen to gospel, R&B, 80’s -90’s hip hop and some ratchet tunes. She knows how to booty bounce (twerk) and loves to line dance. Though she is black she truly despises “stereotypical n-words”.

Felicity: She loves the Lord with all her life. She is a Christian. People who use violence, meanness, vile behavior, and/or non-Christian behaviors to promote Christianity breaks her heart to her core. She is quick to stand up for true Christians. She loves to teach/debate folks on the difference between Christians and Church Folks. She is all about being a better person. She only listens to gospel, hymns, worship, Christian and inspirational music. She only reads the Bible, Christian Fiction,  and Bible based Self help books. She is so determined to be anti-world that she mostly has to be escorted by Shelia or Kelly as her protectors (You might have seen them with her). You can see her at church, funerals, gospel musicals or plays, or anywhere true Christians gather.

The Guys

Marshall: You never truly see Marshall. You do see his work through the others. He is the true brains behind it all. He’s the stereotypical nerd with no interest in hair care. Hair is always up.
Marshall is always reading and researching all that I do. So, he has no time to come out. He is a running fact totem. He is the Backbone to all the other personalities. I made this personality male because most my main childhood encouragers of my nerdiness were male (my grandfather, my uncle, and two of my great uncles) and no one never knew that.

Chad: My masculine side. All that is male in thoughts and actions within this woman is Chad. Sometimes called my comfortable side.
Anything that is not associated with being female, Chad gets the blame. Chad is one of my family nicknames and the only one that is not a feminine name.

The Ones I Killed Off (sort of):

Chan: Pronounce Shan was the most scattered brain, naïve, crazy part of my life. So much of my life at one time was under her control, I went by that name. She would do some of the dumbest crap I've ever experienced so, I killed her about 14 years ago. Only one of my best friends, TT, is still allowed to call me that and I will answer. I have introduced myself by her name in a quick thinking moment in the most recent years but not often.

Milk: Why does the victim always try to live? During life in 5^th grade, Milk arrived. She was a victim. She was super annoying & had the nerve to judgmental but I understood why. Shelia & Kelly tried to help her to no avail. Then Felicity suggested a few years ago to deal with the hurt positively and let her to sleep peacefully while doing so. So that is what I’m doing. She tries to wake up at times but Felicity goes in and sings her a soft song to soothe her.

So, this is the Personality of OUTSPOKEN_DIVA. Have you met any of them? I love them to death because I love me to death. Thanks to the good job, Felicity did, I might let the others do a blog by themselves at least once. But until then you get a whole OUTSPOKEN_DIVA blogging. When I do let another personality side blog, who do you want to blog next and on what topic?

As Always, Talking to You in Adult Terms

My Dating Grey Areas (“Not Interesting in Dating” Supplement)

Me and my big mouth mentioned in this Blog, I was not trying to do a blog on "My Grey Areas of Dating". I received four emails, all from men, wanting to know my grey areas. Unfortunately, I know one of these guys will fall under 2 of these areas. So I decided to do it. I only have 3 types of guys that are under a yes, no, maybe, and depends on his situation category. There are called the Lite Black, Grey & Lite Grey areas. The closer it is to white, makes it more acceptable is to consider.

Bisexual Men: I know I said I date only Heterosexual men. Yet, I know someone married to a bisexual man so that gave me a chance to have an opinion to think on. First I was at a total No Way Jose. Then I met this guy that married a lady I know. He is attracted to both sexes but only dated women and he had a few friends that did the same thing be it with men or women. So bisexual men like him exist. So if you’re a bisexual man and Never dated or will date a man, I’ll date you. Yes, you guess it is the “Lite Black” area.

Fathers: As of last November I don’t know that I know any heterosexual & never married or legally divorced men that don’t have children. That guy got married. A man with children is a "Grey" area. I’ll date a man with a child or children but I have limits. And to help me decide my limits, I developed an equation. I call it the “Fatherhood Equation”. The limit result must not be greater than 3.  It goes towards your character for me. Since I have been made aware that guys who might be interested in me are reading this, I won’t reveal the equation. I will give out the variables involved. First, you must answer this question: What do you describe the woman or each woman that has borne your child or children? Ex-Wife, Mother of your Child, or Baby Mama are the possible answers. That determines if I even start the equation. Answer correctly (no hints and yes there is a wrong answer and) and then I need to know the following:

1.     Age

2.    Career or Job

3.    Number of Children (including soon to be born)

4.    Number of Women that have given birth to your offspring (Probably is answered in the starter question but just in case he leaves off someone by “accident”)

5.    Physical Time Spent with Children

Again the closer you are to 3 without going over the more likely I’ll date you. Yes, I do all this in my head in the “getting to know you” time. I work with equations for a living, it’s second nature to the run numbers.

Living with Your Folks: I love that meme. Okay, I moved back home after college and I’m still here. But I was needed. I told y’all that Here! So, I get it. That guy, I can date. Heck, some of you not living with your parents actually need to, as quiet as it is kept. Then there is the guy saving money on a house or at least a better place to stay and deciding to live at home for a little while. I might date him but only if he is helping around the house. He needs to be taking the slack off of his parents not be a burden. His mother can’t cook and have to wash the dishes. Father wash the car and the dude I’m dating is mowing the yard. He needs to also be chipping in on the groceries and food bill. I don’t date freeloaders, period. I will not be dating a guy who just lives at home without a reason. That’s the "Lite Grey" area.

Okay, those are my color-coded Dating Grey Areas. Proceed carefully.  No more, no less. If you were not described in this or any of the other blogs (New Announcement. Pastors, Ministers, and Other Church Leaders, Fashion Unequally Yoked, Chubby Chasers, Foreign Born, and Strippers) I might date you. I told you that it was easier & quicker to talk about who I will not date than will date. *smile* Okay all minds clear, Great!!!

As Always, Talking to You in Adult Terms