Not Interested in Dating: Chubby Chasers

I know you read the title and said but Diva you’re plus size, how could you not date guys in to plus size women? Umm preferences and attractions is one thing, fetishes are another.

Chubby Chasers are people who have a Fat Fetish. Fat fetishism is the strong or exclusive sexual attraction to overweight or obese people. As well as traditional attraction, the topic also incorporates feederism and gaining, where sexual gratification is obtained via the process of gaining body fat. Fat fetishism also incorporates stuffing and padding, whereas the focus of arousal is on the sensations and properties of a real or simulated gain (Thank You, Wikipedia). You’ve seen them on talk show in extreme forms, over feeding women to make sure they stay fat (That is called Leblouh or gavage. It is the practice of force-feeding teenage girls and including girls as young as five, in areas, where obesity was traditionally regarded as desirable). Extreme or not, I think they are kind of weird. Ok wait the one I encountered was weird.

A month or so after I graduated college, I was leaving a job interview and this rather handsome & intelligent guy approached & spoke to me with interest. I gave him my phone number. He called later that night as he had promise. He was Christian, American (this will be my next blog stay tuned), & gainfully employed. His “Baby Daddy Equation” (another blog topic) score was 2. It was under 3 so, I was good with that. So, we were planning a first date to the State Fair of Texas. Open spaces and as close to my house as possible are important on the first 3 dates. Then he said, “Yeah that’s good. Not a lot of healthy food at the fair. Get you a few corn dogs, a turkey leg, a funnel cake, a candy apple, some taffy, and some cotton candy.” I said “You mean or not and. Because that’s a lot of food”.

Then he said “No I meant and. Gotta get your weight up. I’m a Chubby Chaser. I like my ladies big, big”. I know I had the craziest look on my face because I felt like I was in a crazy house at moment. He kept talking describing his perfect woman and she was much bigger than me. He said something about Weight loss surgeries were the “trick of the devil”. Then he started describing all kinds of sex acts he wanted to do to my “rolls” I finally fell out laughing out of nervousness and told him I was no longer interested. We’ve never spoke since. I went to the State Fair with my friends and only had a turkey leg and some lemonade, I think.

I know I am not some men’s cup of tea.  

I also know I’m many men’s glass of wine. If you ever go out with my Bestie Boo, LJ and me, he can pick out the men that he feels are my type (they all seem to look like Cedric the Entertainer in the 90’s). Sometimes he’s right and has gotten displaced during a line dance so they can be near me. That is Preference. Fat Fetish is if those guys continually send over plates of happy hour snacks to me at the table and are no longer interested because I got up to dance. I’m no longer sexy to them, I guess. That is crazy. I’m more than just a plus size woman. If I lose weight I will still be me. If a man cannot love, heck just like me because of my weight, he Never liked/loved me. I understand preferences, I have some.

So if a man only wants me because I’m fat and I have to stay that size or get larger, I will never date him. I want a man who wants me at my best. Weight gain or Weight loss does not measure a person’s sexiness. No, I won’t date a guy that’s not into plus size ladies. That is stupid. Like asking for heartache. But I don’t have to date a guy just because he loves me heavy.  Especially one who gets his jollies because I am that. I have a better self-worth not to be some freaky-deaky toy. Sorry Chubby Chasers, this chubby lady is not interested in you.

You creep me out. Go chase another one.

As Always, Talking to You in Adult Terms