On the Dope Science Show!!!

I'm so excited to tell you this information. Yes, I Was On A Podcast!!! That podcast is the Dope Science Show With Science Steph. t is one of my favorite podcasts. Stephany Lowe is such a sweet & knowledgeable lady. In her words, she is "Making science a daily conversation. We are all dope scientists"

Her main show is a fun science-inspired show. That has covered topics like Sickle Cell Anemia, Space ~vs~ Atlantis, Artificial Intelligence, & even a little Love. She also has two shorter shows called Dope Science Minute & Hit the Street. On Dope Science Minute, Steph talks about the science behind topics like Koalas & the movie, Get Out. Hit the Street is a lady of the street style show where she interviews strangers at a day party spot in LA about things like Memories & Evolution.

On this episode featuring myself, we talk about Black Female Characters in TV & Film who are Awkward & Nerdy. The kicker is sometimes while enjoying these characters we don't see them as such. We just see them as a part of that weird monolith called "The Black Woman". The interview is based on a blog post I wrote. HERE is the link if you have not read it. It is a Fun show full of Blerdette love and some memories of the 80s, 90s, and early Millennia. She also announces a live tweet event featuring some of the entertainment's great Blerdettes. The hashtag will be #BlerdetteTV.

So, listen to Episode 30

Android Users

https://m.soundcloud.com/thedopescienceshow

iTunes Users

https://itunes.apple.com/us/podcast/the-dope-science-show-podcast/id1157965145?mt=2
Google Play Users
http://bit.ly/2yiNrtz

And show your love. On Apple, Leave a 5 Star Rating, or On Soundcloud, Hit like❤ & Leave Comments. And listen to other shows she has up. Treat your ears to some goodness.

To know more about Science Steph & The Dope Science Show, Visit

http://www.thedopescienceshow.com/home

Hope you enjoy it & I will see you on Twitter, on November 5 for the 1st week of the live tweet event!

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Ooh Shut Up!!! Scary Movies are Scary!

Dear Horror Movie Lovers,
If I say it's scary, my racing heart & I say It Is Scary.
Alright,
My Frightened A-Word

I don't watch horror movies. The last movie I watched that I consider horror was Skeleton Key. I prayed through it with all the lights on at 9 am. I will leave a room or hum during a horror movie commercial. I know it's not real, but I still get scared. I also am not a fan of my heart racing while I am sitting & watching a movie. That's a sedentary activity, I need my heart in a resting state.

I knew I had a problem after seeing the movie, Tales From the Hood.  I saw it in theatres when I was in high school.

I had a serious crush on Joe Torrey then. That movie was not scary to watch at all. But hours later, home alone with my brother, G, I got scared. Around 11 pm, I was washing dishes while my grandparents & mom picked my sister up from work. The pilot on the water heater reset itself and all I could think about was Clarence Williams III turning into the devil & taking Joe Torry & the other two to hell. I left those dishes, rolled G into the lit living room, and sat in there until our family got back. Yeah, I knew I had a problem at that point.

There are other instances through my life that say horror & I are Not friends

• For 6 months, I was scared to eat ice cream & yogurt after seeing "The Stuff" as a little girl. Threw a bowl of Blue Bell on the floor and my grandmother took a switch to my butt. *hangs head in shame* Yes, once I disrespected Blue Bell. Texas, Forgive Me!!!
• I hid my Learn How to Dress clown because of the movie, "Poltergeist".
  
  I smashed him deep down in the toy box. A lost library book brought him back to the top. Now, I wonder was that why I wore velcro sneakers until the 3rd grade.
• Freddy Krueger will Forever be the scariest horror movie villain. Only a psycho maniac would mess with a person's sleep. Like seriously, I can avoid the woods. I can avoid clowns. I can avoid colleges. I won't buy talking dolls. But my sleep, My Sleep??? That's Evil!!!

Scary Movies Are Scary!!!

But anyway, enjoy Halloween in a safe & fun way. Black, Brown, Red, & Yellow face is still RACIST.

I'm watching "The Worst Witch" on Halloween. Let me know if you want to join me.  It's Not Scary. Oh, can anyone bring me a couple of packs of SweeTarts & a Caramel Apple Laffy Taffy or two? My taste buds would appreciate it.

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Y'all and That Kink Shaming

When I was asked would I ever talk about sex on this blog, I started to say "No". Kink Shaming is one of the reasons why. Ignorance & self-shaming are of the reasons I have observed that people shame anybody. And that is truly a shame.

Before I continue, I need all who ran to this post for some hot, steamy, gossipable info to Leave!!! Thank you for the click, but this not a place I have sex & you guys are not the man/men I wish to be intimate with. My personal opinion about any "kinks" discussed will not be seen here. Again, Thank You for the Click!!!

I had no desire to talk about this. Then the actress, Gabrielle Union said she had engaged in anallingus with her husband & some kind of info came out about a radio personality named DJ Envy engaging in pegging.

My social media timelines erupted. It's amazing how the rapists & sexual predators of Hollywood barely get a grumble from some. But let someone say they engage is sexual activities that are not even shown on Cinemax, the internet becomes a judgemental opinion city.

And what was the wildest part, some of the most opinionated people during this kink shaming time were self-professed Freaks. I always have want to say this. Define Freak! Heck, Define Kink, too! Whatever the definitions are for these loosely used terms, I would hope it included an understanding that there are probably levels to kinkyness. And even if it is not, Judging others is Wrong.

I saw a guy, who was kink shaming Gabrielle Union say, "Nipple Rubbing is My Sh*t". I thought about a comedian I heard years ago joke that nipple play made him feel vunerable & he wasn't into it. I wonder if that comedian has Facebook. I kid, I kid! That comedian wouldn't dare kink shame that guy. LoL

One day, Everyone Will (morally & legally) Like What They Like and It Will Be Alright!

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Without My Flugga Mugga

God picked another pretty flower for his eternal bouquet. That flower was my brother, G. I know one day was going to be a day. I just thought maybe 10, 20 years later.

I'm sad. I was putting toiletries away and his body wash came up and I lost it. Twice I almost prepared his plate, like I always did. And that was just Day 1.
The thought of the "Rest of My Life" mocks me. It knows I don't know what lies before my family & I. All I know to do is to rest on these two facts.

1. Because of Cerebral Palsy, Doctors said he wouldn't live to be 5, 10, 15.

2. Because he is omniscient & all knowing, God proved he would live to see 49.

Fact 1 has had me watch my miracle of a brother surpass every surgery & ailment that this world threw at him. Fact 2 tells me, God had this all in control since his Day 1. All of this in his hand & we will understand it better by & by

My brother, G has left this world leaving my family & me a lot of lessons & memories. Even inside jokes like, Flugga Mugga. Hope that Flugga Mugga is eating peppermints & potatoes while getting up to "push play" because the tape ended.

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Purple & Pink Clothes, Again?(October Awareness 2017)

Because You Never Know! That why I only wear pink & purple in public in October. You didn't ask, but I told you anyway. No, in offline land people have noticed & asked me about my outfit color choices in October.

October is the month where we talk more about Breast Cancer & Domestic Violence awareness. If you are new to my blog(Welcome), these are two topics that are very near & dear to my heart.

I have several people in my life who survivors of breast cancer or suffered from domestic violence. I have yet to do a walk(Keyword is Yet), but years ago I decided to let my look honor those I care about. When I wear makeup, I create a face using the colors pink & purple.(Reason is HERE) But I don't wear makeup all the time, I do wear body coverings all the time. And because of my stereotypical feminine style, I have enough purple & pink to wear most days of the October. Oh & I forget my pins are still on the previous tops.

But yes, it's all because you never know. You never know that your cashier ringing your groceries is a ten year BC survivor.

You maynever know why a friend is helping a friend with their makup is because of a blackeye caused by a lover's fist. That guy you have nicknamed Man Boobs, might have a lump and is scared to see a doctor. But your insults causes you not to know. And you'll never know when you look at national commercial, you would see the face of a former classmate, who once thought they were stupid for being a DV victim.

But you do know that we all should be educated, mindful, & awareness. So, Let Us All Be Those Three Things. Because you don't know, if it could be you next.

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159 Equals No Life Balance

It's a Saturday and I am typing this post. A personal blogging rule of mine is "No Blogging on Saturday". With so many quiet moments on Saturday, it is easy to fill those with typing my opinion. And I try to choose to leave quiet moments, Quiet. Keyword is...

But this brief & rare break in this rule is inspired by a lady who filled her quiet moments with work. She worked so much, she passed away at 31 years old from Congested Heart Failure. I saw THIS story, the night before and my heart was saddened.

We humans, don't know balance. Right now the quote, "Work hard to Play hard" is making me cringe. Because we honestly believe that the way to live for generations. We grow up watching parents & grandparents toil long jobs. They wanted all needs met & some wants fulfilled. And think about all the hours of homework we were given when were younger. We actually taught at early ages to work, work, work.

The flip side is when we play, oh we really play. How many weekends can dancing & drinking the stress away do we really have. And since the studies tell us we can't "Catch up on sleep". We fill work free, silent hours to binge on the shows everyone is talking about. We are tired from work but playing causes us not to get the proper amount of rest & sleep also

We Must Find Balance. Our bodies are tired. 159 hours of extra anything can't be good. If lightly scheduling all the activities of the day is needed, make the plan. And pencil in a nap. We can't keep killing ourselves. It's Not a Natural Cause to the End of Life.

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You're the Inspiration

Did you start singing the Chicago song, because of the title. LoL I hope you did. Just reminds me of  my 80s childhood.

I've been very bloggy(chatty) lately.

And if I never tell you all Thank You, let me tell you now.

Thank You to You All!!!

This platform was just an outlet for my thoughts. I hear & read so much and needed somewhere to purge. I'm not a complete empath. But like many people, I do have different levels of empathy. I know everybody doesn't want to care about what you care about, when you care it. But I had to get my thoughts out and here is where they go in online land.

The Citizens of the World are my Inspiration. The good, bad, & the in-between in us all could be a post on this blog. I don't post it all because life is not lived in order to have a blog. Life is for Living. And world thank you for living, so I can keep thinking.

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It's the God in Answering Questions

I have a question to answer.

Q: What is your "Christian" opinion about Christian public figures like Marvin Sapp doing a song with R. Kelly or Tina Campbell voting for Trump?

A: *sigh* I don't have a "Christian" opinion, I have an Outspoken_Diva opinion. Side Note: One day I am going to be bold an talk about the "against" Christianity tone. It is amazing how harshly people talk about how harsh others are. Humans are some Harsh beings, I guess. 

You guys know I was raised not to put Christian public figure or leaders on pedestals. It takes the sting out of their disappointing human news, a lot. Marvin Sapp's song, "Closer" is on my boycott list. He admits to being conflicted. I was actually waiting on him to use the unproven stories/forgiveness/court acquittal reasons for why he is working with R. Kelly. I still will not be moved. I loved the song sung by Reuben Studdard, "I Need an Angel". Then I found out R. Kelly wrote it and like other songs by Kelly, I can't enjoy it anymore. And I liked Marvin Sapp, but the song's message can't outweigh the messenger this time. If I'm blocking my blessings, let the Lord tell me about it.

I don't measure a person's Christanity on how they politically vote. I will judgementally measure their Common Sense on how they vote. (Pray for my deliverance from being that judgemental.) Why did she vote for him based on his Christianity? I don't know. But I do know Tina Campbell didn't campaign for the 45th President of USA & is not making harsh & hateful statement against those didn't vote for him. So, I won't boycott her music. I actually agree with her on praying for the 45th President of USA. USA is my home. I need my home protected, especially while he in the White House. I also don't want him killed. Let's be honest, USA has yet to fully recovered from President John Kennedy's assassination. We don't need that craziness. As for Tina Campbell, I put her in the corner with Travis Greene & Chrisette Michelle. She needs to think about her actions long & hard, then we will call her ro come play.

As usual, send your Questions to C.OUT.SPOKEN.DIVA@gmail.com. I'll answer them with my OUTSPOKEN_DIVA opinion, that you seem to want.

As Always Talking to You in Adult Terms.

Dating Debates, Discussions, Judgements, I'm Tired

In a dating culture where Netflix & Chill and Firestick & F-word is a proper date, people judging different date activities behooves me. I saw this meme on my TL on Facebook, because my niece, blog name is Alura reposted it. She answered it "right" and now there is blog post without an auntie-niece dating discussion also. LoL

But just like I gave my opinionated judgement about the latest version of "Having a Blockbuster Night", we feel like overly debating or discussing how & where to date is the right thing to do. Why can't people date opinion free?

So what you wouldn't to go to restaurant that serves mostly cereal. Somebody (me) wouldn't want to go hiking for a date. I think I saw someone say they didn't like going to the movies. Places like Studio Movie Grill were made because many think "dinner & a movie" is a quintessential classic date. I bet that someone like going other places for dates.

We All Experience Dating the Way We Want!!!

Stop looking for opinions. That's all these "Let's Debate" memes cause. And the sad part is somebody is validating their dating life based on these opinions. If you want to go eat cereal, then hike up the hill, and cool down with a meal & film, Do It!!!

Date the way you want to Date!!!

As Always Talking to You in Adult Terms!!!

On Being Pro-Side Hug

Dear Outspoken_Diva in September 2017,

     You will be defending Side Hugs in October 2017. Child...Brace your spine. And when did you start deleting tweets? This could have had a different tone, but you don't have receipts. Letting your Lessons from 2016 slip from you. *tsk, tsk*
Love You Girl,

Outspoken_Diva After September 2017

Raise your hand if you side hugs people with a genuine heart, like me.❤ Now, take the forefinger of that hand and point at the people that hug, kiss, & say caring words to others, but don't mean it or even do it out of rote habit. Thank You!!! The popular slang as I write this is "I'm a Real One". Well let me be a "Real One" & tell why I am not just Pro-Side Hug, I'm a Side Hug Master.

I am Not in the Smothering Business. You've seen me, I have a large bust. But I am very careful with mine. I refuse to be a stereotype of a large woman. I can just see me looking like somebody's "big mama", jiggling from side to side while the person I'm hugging is turning blue.

I'm Being Respectful. Tell me when has a side hug looked inappropriate. My ex-turned pal, Rom-Com(His Story is HERE) hated for me to side hug him when he was a single man. We had this kind of discussion, years ago. Hey, I was just keeping it G-rated between us. After his father died, he sent me an email telling me he totally understood side hugs at that point. His now wife, then fiance, saw us one-arm embrace after the service and didn't trip. She also saw a former sex buddy of his give him a full embrace and was very upset. So actually, Side Hugs Keeps the Peace!!!

And of Course, Accidents Happen. Do you know how many times my bust has been sideswiped unintentionally? Do you how many awkward looks are the result of those occurrences? It's rather hard to accidentally rub up against a boob while giving a side hug. Believe me, I'm a Master, I did my research.

It just looks like a Buddy Hug to me. I hug people like this all the time. Buddy Hugs are like more intimate waves. Nothing more, darn sure can't be less.

It's not I don't ever give full embraces. I just give side ones more. So, Y'all can, can it on this Side Hugs are Fake Hugs issue. No, Fake Hugs are Fake Hugs. And again we all know there are some very fake full embraces out there.

Look at Jesus and Judas...wait that fake hug resulted in saving souls(if you believe like I do). Well, I can't think of any other widely known fake hugs, so I bid you guys adieu with a BIG Side Hug from my Heart.❤

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The Process to Doing Better (OUTSPOKEN_DIVA'S Favorite Recipes)

I remember the first client I received that didn't cook. It was the day I had to really take to heart on why I chose a career in the food & nutrition industry. I don't understand adults who don't cook. But my personal opinionated judgements don't belong in my professional life. And not one client pay me to wag my finger about why they are coming to me for help. So, I had meet this client at his/her level of cooking & develop a plan to help them. In helping this client, I helped myself understand some(keyword) of the people who don't cook.

Many look at cooking & think it is hard, expensive, & time consuming. I will have to agree to that feeling 40% percent of the time. Have you looked at cooking shows? How many times have we, "home cooks" turned off a cooking program feeling the same way? Combine that with the confused mindsets on dieting & eating healthy & I knew I had my work cut out for me. This client could prepare some process foods, so I started him/her there.

Processed food are not all bad, in my opinion. Adding fresh or frozen vegetables to many canned soups & rice products is an easy trick to make these items a little healthier. For a quick lunch on the go, I like adding spinach & chopped or shredded carrots to chicken & rice soup. I also like adding dried fruit & toasted nuts to some side dishes also. They add more texture & raise the protein profile to the dish. Here my favorite recipe.

Easy Wild Rice Pilaf

Ingredients

• 2 tsp canola oil
• 1/4 cup finely chopped onions
• 1/4 cup finely chopped celery
• 2 boxes Long Grain & Wild Rice mix (Rice-a-Roni, Uncle Ben, ect)
• 1 cup orange juice
• 3 cups water
• 1/2 cup dried cranberries
• 1/2 cup pecans roughly chopped

Directions

1. Pour the oil into a medium size pot and heat it over medium high heat.
2. After oil is heated, add the onion & celery to the pot and cook over medium heat until onion are clear.
3. Combine rice, contents of seasoning packet, juice, & water. Stir well.
4. Bring contents to a boil, reduce (low to medium-low) and simmer covered 25 minutes or until water is absorbed
5. Once rice mixture, stir in cranberries & pecans. Serve Hot!

Eating better can be done but not quickly. The thought of turning on a dime to healthy eating is drastic & off putting, to say the least. And in a culture where a lot of processed products are cheaper than fresh products, it's not reality for a portion of the population. Every little step help gets us to our goals. Maybe that why some use the word, process.

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