Let Me Talk About Kelli From Insecure

If you don't watch or are behind on the HBO show, Insecure, why are you here?

It's not a secret in Offline Land that I didn't start off as a fan of the character Kelli from Insecure. Oh yeah, welcome to the Uber Woke, Plus Size Edition part of my mind. I have major problems with fat girl tropes in Entertainment,

• Low Confidence
• Jolly & Comedic
• Extremely Mean
• Boisterous
• Loud
• Non-Dating Sidekick
• Oversexualized/Under-sexualized

and Kelli was hitting several of those points when we met her in Season 1. I was having a hard time discussing the show with others because they were enjoying her in this one dimensional form. I couldn't get passed that we were only seeing her funny sarcasm & high intellect in sex in the show.

Then we heard her mention a podcast and saw her attempt a marathon in Season 2 and it seemed like the writers(with one being the lady who plays Kelli, Natasha Rothwell) wanted to give us more insight into Kelli's world.

I know Kelli is not an A character for the show, but we needed more story points from her. She has a nice job on accounting. Kelli has ties in the housing market. She's not oversexed but owns her sexuality. She seems to now be Ms. Crunch Numbers by Day & Madame Turn Up by Night.

And she has other emotions that don't involve comedic happiness. I wanted to hug her after the baby shower. Now, can we find out why Amal & she do not like one another? And I wonder should we be waiting on a chance to hear an episode of her podcast. It's like seeing her with her hair up was a good added level.

Glad, they're pulling back the layers of Kelli. Now to uncover why is Tiffany so bougie. And hoping it doesn't have a long stereotypical history in classism and colorism. Shallow is rarely memorable. Every character should get some levels of depth. You know something to fall for.

As Always Talking to You In Adult Terms

Only Good For...

Dear Black Pro-Life Coalition & Afiya Group,

"Abortion is Self-Care" is debatable to me. I will say I understand what you were trying to say. But I do agree with the statement, "Abortion is not healthcare." I am speaking to the battling billboards you both have that are discussed HERE

Oh but your billboards are still extremely tone deaf. You are arguing about what is wise for the reproductive & emotional health of Black women in Dallas via abortion. Abortions are not the Only thing Black women do. If you want to argue what is self-care & healthcare, where are the billboards to encourage regular well-woman check-ups for Black women?

Where are the billboards to take a flu shot in Oak Cliff? Where are the billboards to promote the self-care tips to sleep more & drink more water in Plesant Grove? Where are your billboards that encourage healthy mental health for Black women?

Your messages are clear. And it is very damaging to Black women. Only focusing on whether Black women should have abortions is Not healthy for Black women. Both of your messages encourage stigma & shame because, in the heart of two areas of Dallas where Black women live, the medical advice you care about is abortion. Just like the only beverages, Black people drank in the 90s was malt liquor. Oh, the billboard messaging of yore...

*sigh*

Well, this Black woman chooses to ignore you both. That is my self-care option for me to be mentally healthy. Because mental care is health care, also. And choosing not to let sneaky poisonous billboards dictate my self-worth is the best therapy for me.

As Always Talking to You In Adult Terms!!!

Nice & Creamy (OUTSPOKEN_DIVA's Favorite Recipes)

I like finding healthier alternatives to fatty treats like Nice Cream. Nice cream is a frozen dessert without dairy, eggs, or sugar in ice cream. I am a big fan of ice cream, but I am not a fan of bananas and anything that taste like its flavor. Bananas are too sweet for my taste buds. But they are a good cream alternative. There are tons of recipes that use them. Most nice creams aka ice cream alternatives rely on them a lot. I knew that 

• Mango
• Papaya
• Pear
• Chia Seeds
• Fresh Dates
• Nut Butters
• Unsweetened Applesauce
• Avocado

were good substitutes for bananas in smoothies but I didn't know if they translated well as nice cream. So, I was so happy to run across this 55 calories, Eating Well recipe on Facebook. It is banana-free & very easy. And of course, I brought my buddies at Diet Solutions (Facebook page is HERE) along for this taste bud ride.

Mango-Pineapple Nice Cream
Ingredients

• 1 16-ounce package frozen pineapple chunks 
• 1 cup frozen mango chunks or 1 large mango, peeled, seeded and chopped
• 1 tablespoon lemon juice or lime juice

Directions

1. Process pineapple, mango and lemon (or lime) juice in a food processor until smooth and creamy. (If using frozen mango, you may have to add up to ¼ cup water.) For the best texture, serve immediately.

This nice cream is very good. I thought it was going to be more like a sorbet, but it is a little creamier. It is refreshing & light, also. Now, I want to try peach nice cream. Peach is the only fruit flavor ice cream I like, so that should be interesting to try. 

As Always Talking to You In Adult Terms.

Maybe I Should Have Became...

*sigh*...a School Nurse. Nursing was my first major in college if you didn't know that already. Clearly, I couldn't educate any worse. I see the foolishness on the internet and I almost went back to school. And I have a feeling these mindsets and practices aren't new. Now because of social media, we see them publicly discussed.

I know when I was in school, Don't reuse a condom was said. But when the CDC has to tweet this factual advice, it must not have been said everywhere. It is a signal to me that reuse is more common than I could ever think to realize. We see there are still new HIV and AIDS cases rising. And we see there are drug-resistant versions of curable STDs mutating. I personally thought about the lack of use, not the misuse. And the misuse can be blamed on two factors in my mind, cheapness & laziness. And with a pack of 3 condoms being less than $2...you know what I'm going to make a meme.

I will say when I saw this after sex meme on a timeline, the person posting it was admonishing it. They saw it as disturbing as I saw it. For ladies, urinating after sex may feel slimy. But that is not how or when the egg is released from the body. Menstruation is the regular discharge of blood and mucosal tissue(known as menses aka the material the egg clings to in the uterus) from the inner lining of the uterus through the vagina. Let's use common sense. If a monthly egg is sticking to the menses when they are shed, the egg falls also. But I will say that according to this incorrect meme's depiction coupled with menstruation, menopause should occur in women sooner. But sadly that's not how it works. That's not how any of this works.

Oh, I'm sorry to the squeamish & prudish, I didn't type a warning. But I wanted everyone to read this. Humans can't afford to be stupid, dumb, & half-witted all the time. We have to smarter than we are. Our future depends on it.

Always Talking to You In Adult Terms!!!

Thoughts on My Thoughts

There will be a day I will stop this crazy thing I call, "Thoughts of an Outspoken Diva". When that day comes I don't want anyone coming to me asking if one post was actually about them. Actually, I don't want anyone asking me that ever. That is something some often ask, "Do people behind the scenes think you are talking about them". I would like to say No, but I have never asked. I don't ask, because I know in my heart I didn't. I also think that if anyone was offended, they could have talked to me. But if that is the case, that makes me delusional and the offended, a liar.

The sad part is we live in a world where no matter your aim, anyone can misconstrue it. That's why the memes I posted are floating around social media like they are gospel. I mean there is some truth in them, but in these days and times, many rely on their emotions to determine what they believe.

This blog has always been about my thoughts. It might feel like a soapbox I hop on, but trust me my opinion is just that, my pure opinion. If this blog is used as a weapon to hurt others, what does that say about my thoughts? I unload many clips on here, but that's to make room to shoot at stuff I have to have on my mind. This is a mental release.

As Always Talking to You In Adult Terms!!!

Random Shocker, Advice, and A Why (Answering Questions)

At least these don't have a theme. Themes make this seem staged. And my dears, I am no thespian. I just answer y'alls questions.

Q: Which do you prefer?

Marvel vs DC?

Star Trek vs Star Wars?

Mickey Mouse vs Bugs Bunny?

Care Bear vs My Little Pony?

Theater vs DVD & Streaming?

A: Oh WoW!!! You know I love random questions. *takes a deep breath* Here Goes Nothing!

Slowly admitting I'm a tad bit more of a Marvel fan. But will Never argue like those extreme fans.

Movies: Star Wars but Shows: Star Trek (And Picard & Next Gen is my favorite series installment)

Neither(Eeyore & Foghorn Leghorn)

Both (And Strawberry Shortcake, Mon Chi Chi, & The Wuzzles)

Depends on the Movie. I classify movies into 4 categories; Theater, DVD, Premium Service(Cable, Netflix, Hulu), & Basic Cable(BET, TBS, TNT). And how I feel about the movie determine my comfort level.

Q: I'm going to an ex-boyfriend's wedding. I was invited and I am not crashing. If asked, do I tell people I am the groom's ex?

A: Unless the Groom introduces you as an ex-girlfriend, the answer is No. No matter what is the reason or circumstances you were invited, you just know the groom. "Oh, I know the groom", is a nice vague answer. Don't be a wave maker. The event is not about you.

Q: Would you ever be a vlogger or start a podcast?

A: I played with starting a vlog. Then I understood why I shouldn't

How I would look
vlogging😆
From my bed,
Wrapped in a sheet

• I will want my quality to be like the YouTubers who have been on the site for years. Me taping from my phone would not be suitable for me.
• It is time-consuming. Quality means Editing. Editing means Time. It is easier for me to type & add some pictures.
• I talk too much. You guys have no clue how many sentences I delete in a blog post before hitting publish. Imagine me trying to delete the sentences I say.

And the same thing can be applied to having my own podcast. Typing is just easier to convey my thoughts to the masses.

If you have questions send them to C.OUT.SOKEN.DIVA@gmail.com. As you see, I will answer.

As Always Talking to You In Adult Terms!!

Hot Chip Education (A Submitted Article)

A client, Anna asked me to give my personal & professional opinion on this article HERE. Thank you, Ms. Anna, for this one and for being the first reader to suggest an article.

I really hoped when I saw "Memphis mother says hot chips to blame for daughter’s gallbladder removal" was going to be a story that a one time serving of Hot Cheetos or Takis caused problems for the daughter. But of course, it was not. Instead, I see these quotes from the articles,

"She loves them. Every time I go out she says, 'Bring me back some Hot Takis, bring me back some Hot Chips.' I want to make her happy, so I brought them back. She was eating big bags and would take them to school with her," Craighead said.

The Craigmont High student estimates she was eating around four bags of hot snacks a week.

Also when I saw this, I thought it was going to be click-bait. No, this article is trying to educate but it's actually blaming the chips. But with so many burritos & cake recipes, with Hot chips as the primary ingredients, I understand using that angle. But unless food science is able to find the addicting causing ingredient, blame the snacks is moot. Until we all start teaching & monitoring what children including teens are eating we will have "...eating 4 bags..." and a parent confidently say they say they buy the big bags blaming what comes in those bags.

I won't bash the chips. It is a Known Fact that ALL Junk Food is not good for the body especially in large amounts. Anything we eat excessively will harm us. We could eat four apples a day for one week and I can promise you the words diarrhea & cramps will be a part of your vocabulary.

I can imagine the gastritis excessive eating spicy snacks could cause. I can see the child's gallbladder having being removed because of the excessive amounts of the fatty snacks and probably other fatty foods.

The chips companies are doing their supply and demand job. And guess what? Snacks foods have a nutritional label. Look at one from Takis. 13 chips is the serving size and there are 5-6 servings in a bag. Do the math and multiply the bag by 5. Then multiply that answer by 4. That's the damage being done for a week.

I want the human misuse and all the behaviors & actions aiding it to be blamed. Anyone who uses common sense & reads the article understands. And because of the removal surgery, I hope mother & daughter understand that one day. Get well, love.

As Always Talking to You In Adult Terms