Cancel Culture is Like Comedy

It is Subjective!
Yeah, I said it. Cancel Culture is based on personal feelings, tastes, or opinions, just like what we think is funny. What is Cancel Culture? Let me define for the not as hip as me. Yes, you can laugh. It is the phenomenon of no longer morally, financially, and/or digitally supporting celebrities, events, songs, films or TV shows, or things that are deemed unacceptable or problematic. (Thank You, Wikipedia) Cancel Culture is not new. For years, I just said "I'm boycotting...", but you know pop culture(Blame the Millenials LoL) and it's naming stuff. And I think arguing or discussing intensely on who & what to cancel is a waste of time.

I use Comedy because it is one of the most negatively passionate debated forms of entertainment of the times. In my experience, people are quick to say or react who's or what is not funny.

How many conversations have you had on favorite comedians? Now, compare that to the conversations on who in comedy that you don't like. I bet dollars to donuts the ratio is off. But comedy is maybe set up that way. There are acceptable levels of heckling & booing that get to pass through. Negativity boosts it sometimes.

Negativity fuels Cancel Culture. Instead if pumping up what we are for or like, we are quick to talk about the stuff & people we are deleting. And it's all based on our experiences, feelings, opinions, & perceptions.

For example, let's talk about the Katy Perry face shoe incident. I looked at the black shoe by itself, could be seen as blackface. And because the racist images put out by Gucci, Burberry, Prada was in the news at the same time, Katy Perry's products were automatically canceled by some. I saw the shoe with the same face in the color, beige and saw a goofy face on a shoe. I couldn't cancel the products. I just don't want her to make face shoes anymore.

That is my subjective feeling. And to argue with me about is futile, in opinion. I mean there are known liars, killers, bigots, rapists, child molesters, sexual harassers & thieves with apologist fans & support.

Save your fuel to pump up those who aren't. Oh wait, that not negative enough to do. Oh well, go take them down. And Cancel Culture, you have unwittingly made your mark in our lexicon & way of debate. Hope, you're proud of yourself.

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I Will Rather Start Over

When I leave this blog world, know that I never dealt with fake numbers & views. This week I looked at my stats & views. I do that every quarter. Weirdly, I had 3 posts with abnormally high numbers. They were the last posts that I posted on Google+. And I almost went with the surge in viewership being because the site was being shut down. But that reason didn't sit well with me. So, I just erased & reposted them. The posts are:

 THIS

 

 THIS

and THIS

One post had 342 views. WTF I know crap when I see it. The post (3rd highest viewed before I ever posted these 3) I did when my brother died has 107 views. And most of those were because my sister posted it on her Facebook page. And they stopped a week after the service. These posts were posted in January and were still "being viewed" until I deleted the old links. I am Not saying I'm not worth 300+ views. But I will say I am Worth views that are Consistent & Real. Not high views because of a weird glitch or hacking.

If you guys want to hover & click on any of the "This", and re-read those posts again, Please, Be My Guest. I would appreciate that. If you don't, that is fine. You know I don't have a blog for the views. And shout out to you guys, my readers. Thank You for your Real views. Maybe next blog year(July) you guys will get a nickname. All because you guys are Real Ones!!!

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He, She, & B

I see this picture of these three adult-age people  I frown. That is B. Smith. She is a former restaurateur, model, author, and television host. I enjoyed her show, B. Smith With Style when it was on the air. 

Also in the picture is her husband Dan Gasby and his girlfriend, Alex Lerner. Yes say, "Oh" but don't shrug it off. B. Smith has Alzheimer's disease and has no clue what is going on. And her husband has become defensive about having a live-in girlfriend while taking care of his wife. HERE is one of the articles about him, the girlfriend & B. 

There is one key point that I don't see in any of the stories where Dan & B had a prior discussion that having a live-in girlfriend is okay.

I wonder that not because Gasby needed permission, but because what if B. has a lucid moment one day. That does happen. There is also Terminal Lucidity where some people with mental decline have mental clarity and memory shortly before death. I'd rather not have to explain that situation but hug and savor the clear moments that we have.

"I love my wife but I can’t let her take away my life!" Dan Gasby wrote on Facebook.

I know Dan Gasby was probably lonely. I understand. I came back home to help my mother with my late grandfather and brother & ailing grandmother, years ago. Being a caregiver can be very isolating. It is a life few understand.

So, I understand him having a friend to talk to and having some free time away from his current life. But a live-in just seems disrespectful. I think Dan Gasby feels some guilt. If he didn't, he wouldn't be defensive. He would've revealed Ms. Alex Lerner and went on to live life. His Facebook statement might as well say, "It breaks my heart my wife doesn't recognize me, but a man has needs".

Maybe not the case. But he put the "story" out. Have a feeling a little discretion would help him.

*sigh*

Learn how to tell a story!

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Christian Love Music?

Anyone who follows me on social media knows that the title is click bait. This post is just to further my feelings about the talk about "Us Against the World, The Love Project" by David & Tamela Mann that I stated on different social media sites. If you don't know, gospel singers, David and Tamela Mann released an R&B love songs album. I am probably in the minority of people (not the 1st time) who didn't criticize them before or after listening to it. I was not opposed to the project. I listened to it for a few days on Spotify. And it has a few 2-Step worthy tunes, in my opinion. I really liked Signs the most. 🎶Love is the language And you speak it fluently Through your actions🎶

There is a complaint going around that there aren't any new love songs in R&B. There is a lot of sex music, but where is the love? And think about how many love songs in the known history of the genre are sung by never divorced married couples.

The only married couple who made an R&B love song that comes to my mind is Ashford & Simpson. (If you can think of another, leave them in the comments) And they were "Solid as a Rock" until Nick Ashford left this world. Now another couple, The Manns that seems to truly love one another make some tracks and the world picks fun of or find fault with it. *sigh* Humans...

But of course, the criticism was because The Manns are Christians and pigeonholing them is what fuels most of the dislike. I feel like the critics have the problem, not The Manns. There is no profane language in any song. Listeners will not hear about the bedroom behavior of David or Tamela.

And they aren't the first Christians to have a love song album. Have you ever heard Bishop T.D. Jakes's "Sacred Love Songs"? I was 21 years old when that & book it accompanies came out. It gave me the song my mother will walk down the aisle to at my wedding called " From Mother to Daughter. And he via the voice of Marvin Sapp gave us ladies a lesson about satin sheets on the bed. Some of you men need to thank Bishop Jakes every time your lady buys nice cotton percale sheets.

Oh well, those are my thoughts. Have you heard "Us Against the World" by David & Tamela Mann? Let me know in the comments. And remember, you can't have Good Love slipping everywhere, because of Satin Sheets Slide.

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Define Cheating and Then Go on With Life

My dating life probably thinks the amateur sociologist in me is cramping its style. Oh well, it will be okay. Here is an upside to dating when you're older...Having Mature Conversations. Oh, you still have to deal with "Hey! How Are You?" conversations of mundane death. (Remind me to discuss that one day) But once you can get past that there are some good conversations that you were not having when you were younger.

I'm listening to a podcast about emotional affairs and it reminded me of a recent conversation about cheating. One of my dating qualifications for dating is for a guy to be monogamous and know why he is. An interested guy needed clarification. I gave it to him and it leads to the question, "What is Cheating to You".

Cheating is any interaction with anyone that one is attracted(sexual, emotional, and/or spiritual) to that is hidden from one's significant other(SO)(exclusive boyfriend, girlfriend, partner, or spouse). That's my simple definition to handle what we feel the need to make complex. Can you show or discuss your text messages with your work bae to your SO?

Would it make you nervous from guilt if your SO ask to join your prayer partner & you in prayer? Did you passionately kiss your former neighbor when you guys met up for dinner? Did you sleep with the wait staff personnel who slipped you their number? Cheating is not that hard to understand. You know what shouldn't be done with others outside of your relationships. Some are obvious. Some need to be discussed so parameters can be placed. And that's not just for monogamy. One of the reasons why I'm not polygamous or in open relationships. They need quite a few.

Anyone older can say they had this conversation about cheating when you were younger? Was it before you or you're SO cheated? 

So, what is your definition of cheating? Let me know in the comments. Don't cheat yourself out of a possible conversation.

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She's Funny

We love to talk about the women who inspire us in the month of March. March is Women's History Month, so it is to be expected. Well, let me talk about some women who inspire me. Female Comedians inspire me a lot. How can any person that makes you laugh not inspire you?

I was probably first inspired when I saw a black lady put a yellow top her head & act like a little girl who wanted long blonde hair. I actually knew that little girl growing up. Then I saw a lady hosting a talk show. She said, "Can we talk". So, I had to listen to what she wanted.

Then there were these ladies whose acts were mirrors & ladders of my life. I was a black young woman with a foul mouth, who could hula hoop & thought church ushers who caught the holy ghost while serving were hilarious. Yes, these ladies were encouraging a future F*cking Lady. Now, these ladies are my friends in my head.

I relate to going out with painful shoes & shapewear on and hating to go the public rest because of the thin toilet paper. But because of the driver friend, we made it home. Hurricane names make me chuckle, too. And delusional people & pressure point massages are not that enjoyable at all.

Yeah, I just covered some the punch lines of

Wanda Sykes

Whoopi Goldberg
Tiffany Haddish

Sommore

Leslie Jones 

Adele Givens

Joan Rivers
Ellen Degeneres 
Loni Love

 

Small Fire(formerly known as Small Fry)

and Honorable Mentions Sam Jay & Aisha Tyler. 

They are some of my favorite female comedians. I told you guys putting a smile on my face is very inspiring. Hover & click their names and enjoy.

Also, let me know who are your favorites in the comments. I might like your faves, also. And I want to laugh some more.

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Settling These Soup & Stew Debates

Yep, time to settle some food discussions you guys (and me) insist on fussing about. And there is nothing like a good ol' cozy debate about soups & stews. Did you know our society lightly bicker on the definitions of soup & stews? Soup is primarily liquid food, mostly served warm or hot (but may be cool or cold), that is made by combining edible items like. meat or vegetables with stock, water, or milk.

My Favorite
Breakfast DIY Cold Soup

A stew is a combination of solid food ingredients that have been slowly cooked in liquid and served hot as a looser gravy or a thicker soup. Those definitions should also answer, Is Soup a Drink? I don't care if you put the gazpacho in a mug, it's still soup. Also, Is Breakfast Cereal a Soup? I swear I had to think rather hard on this. But Yeah, you can refer to it as Breakfast DIY Cold Soup. Cereal is Soup. Now, Gumbo, Chili, Chowders, & Bisques are Stews. They're slowly cooked and thick.

Now, let's cover the most soup & stew arguments that people engage in.

I blame commercials for the Campbells ~vs~ Progresso discussion. Most consumers are pretty settled on which brand they favor. Progresso is a soup starter, in my opinion. It lacks the rich flavor of Campbell. So, Campbells win that round. And it is committed to making soup. There are so many varieties of Campbell's soups, what is not to like?

Onto the Wolf Brand ~vs~ Hormel chili debate. The iconic Wolf Brand is the best.  The only chili better than Wolf Brand is my cousin, blog named Chef's chili. It has a consistent meat texture. It is spiced perfectly. It also has high nutritional value, since it includes a considerable amount of Vitamin A and Vitamin C, as well as 8% of calcium and 20% magnesium. Hormel is cute but the stringy meat puts me off.

But Hormel do not frown. Your Dinty Moore Beef Stew is the stew that I try to pattern my recipe after. I first had it in daycare and I have been a fan ever since. I think the secret is in the beef broth & tomato paste combination. Applause to you guys for the Best Beef Stew.

And last but not least let's talk the Red ~vs~ the White. No, I'm not talking about wine. I'm talking about New England ~vs~ Manhattan Clam Chowders. I don't know if my Southern tastebuds get in the way, but Manhattan gives me Gumbo, My Favorite Stew that missed the mark. I totally prefer New England Clam Chowder. It's creamy and the potatoes, celery, & clams give it a nice texture.

Oh before you ask, the Best Soup is Chicken Tortilla Soup with Lime.

Now, get in the comments and discuss this. What soup & stews are your favorites? No Arguing, of course. My opinion is gospel truth on here, so feuding is futile. LMBO

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