Let's Talk Cabbage(OUTSPOKEN_Diva's Favorite Recipes)

This is probably a boring title, but all others are possibly stereotypical or culturally ignorant. So, Boring it will be.

I love how cabbage is prepared in Caribbean restaurants. Though being a Southern American, I never liked leafy vegetables boiled with pork products. It decreases it of its benefits.

• Low in fat
• Low in carbohydrates
• Contain an abundance of vitamin c
• Lowers blood pressure
• Packed with vitamin K
• Helps to lower cholesterol levels
• Improves digestion

Sauteeing & Steaming does keep more of the benefits. So, my discerning palate (don't like coconut oil) & dietary needs made the recipe suitable for me.

Caribbean Style Cabbage

Ingredients

• 2 tbsp of canola oil
• 3 garlic cloves, chopped
• 1 small onion, sliced
• 3 sprigs of thyme
• 1 cup frozen mixed vegetables (carrots, peas, corn)
• 1/2 a head of cabbage, sliced
• 1/2 scotch bonnet, minced (or use 1/4 tsp of chili powder)
• 1/4 cup vegetable stock or water
• 1 tbsp of butter
• 1 tsp  black pepper
• 1 tsp allspice

Directions

1. Heat the oil on medium heat then proceed to saute the onion, garlic along with the sprigs of thyme until soft and tender.
2. Add the cabbage, mixed vegetables, and scotch bonnet, fold, and stir. The pan may seem overcrowded but the cabbage will reduce as it heats through.
3. Continue to stir and fold until the cabbage reduces in volume, this should take up to 5 minutes.
4. Once reduced, lower the heat and add the water, ready for steaming.
5. Cover the skillet with a lid and steam for 15 minutes (10 minutes or less if you want crunchy cabbage).
6. Remove the lid and season with the allspice, black pepper, butter, and salt to taste and stir.
7. Serve accordingly.

Now, I want some cabbage, a beef patty, and a Ting. There is a nice cookshop in my path on my way home. I may pick up a plate. This is why I usually eat before blogging about food. LoL

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Settling These Drank Debates

I asked you guys on Instagram, what topics did you want me to debate and Alcoholic Beverages was one of them. Here is the kicker, I'm not a major drinker. I can't even truthfully say I am a social drinker anymore. I can be in social events(even Brunch) and won't drink. And have a great time. But I will voice my opinion, anyway. Because these hot takes don't tell themselves.

Whoever made this meme deserves a full arm hug from me. Yes, a hug with Both arms. I don't understand the love for Hennessey. Why are folks willing to over-pay for mediocrity? Previously, I thought because I don't drink dark liquor straight but preferably with Vanilla Coke was why I didn't. So, I tried it by itself. And I stayed baffled. At least the price tag of Paul Masson says it's from JC Penney. It doesn't play like KG is favored quality. But if y'all want to give Henn, Ted Baker praise, praise on.

Speaking of cheap, I don't understand wine brands changing to twist tops. Twist tops cheapen the look of the bottle in my opinion. Recently, I saw that Cupcake replaced its cork and it broke my heart.

Cupcake is one of my affordable favorites. It's just like the brands that have the names Red or Pink Moscato on their labels and not Roscato or Rouse Moscato(Who surprisingly enough have twist tops, also). Bring the consumer's knowledge of the product up. Don't dumb yourself down.

And we all are trying to live a Champagne live. But let's tell the truth. Champagne taste like salty wine with bubbles.

Yes, I said it. I can't begin to imagine what "Swill" Sophia Petrillo created. Because even the "good stuff" has slight saltiness in it. But I won't be too opinionated about champagne. It does taste great in mimosas, poinsettias, & bellinis And those are nice drinkable items during brunch.

Finally, let's talk about this peer-pressured social past time with drinks called Shots. I wished shots were Never invented. The song by LMFAO & Lil John is good.

But I can't remember a time where I've had one & foolishness like N&V, falling & reenacting BBD's Poison video like I have good knees has not occurred. And nobody before ordering shots asks who would like one. The shots buyer comes back to the table and expects (demands LoL) everybody to take it. Shots need to be shamed out of popularity, point-blank period.

Y'all can come in the comments and give your opinions about alcoholic beverages. I will ban you from the blog if you slander;
Vodka Punch
Moscow Mules

Paul Masson & Vanilla Coke
Amaretto Sour
Pinot Noir
Pinot Grigio
Oak Leaf Sweet Red Blend.
And the ban will be forever and ever. LoL, No it won't. But please if you do drink, Drink Responsibly!!! I Care that You Live.

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Light Skin Privileged(Answering Questions)

Time to answer your questions. And this one is a doozy.

Q: Do you believe in Light Skin Privilege? Have you ever used it to your advantage?

A: I hate Colorism. There are several posts on here stating my disdain.  If you have been with me from the beginning of this blog you know it goes under my belief, "Massa Really Screwed Us Up". And I do call it out when it comes up in my presence. I have an older relative I will stop mid-conversation if colorism comes up. And yeah, I do believe "Light Skin Privilege" exists. But I have never purposely used it to my advantage.  I hate the fetishized conversations that some like to have when "complimenting" my lighter skin. I'm not exotic.

I'm a Black American. My family's story has slavery all through it like most Black Americans. Also, my Light skin perpetuates many to assign me as a "Good Girl". I remember the first time I heard, "I know your cute light self ain't cussing. You're supposed to be playing nice". That adult didn't say crap to the girl, who was darker that was cussing also. Back then I felt non-human. Wonder what lesson did that girl learned. And of course, I have seen the lingering pain colorism has affected others. My sister & I avoid this one cashier's line when we grocery shop. She dotes on my sister's light brown eyes & my skin color to the point she starts self-hating herself. That's no advantage. It's heartbreaking to see & hear.

So, why would I ever use my light-skinned privilege to take advantage? It Hurts!

Thank you for the questions. I can't answer them without you guys. And if you ever have questions you would like for me to answer, send them to C.OUT.SPOKEN.DIVA@gmail.com. And I will answer them.

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Bored of the Games? (Prose Corner)

I do be bored. Being on a dating app is just part of the game for me. I humble females. And Miss "CuteandReady" needed to be taken down a peg. We were supposed to meet earlier this year, but I had a wreck. I tried to follow her on IG and she came into my DMs and told me off. Something about me having her phone number didn't give me the right to find her all over the internet. I decided to take the high road & be silent, but she declined me anyway. Then her dating profile went away, too. She came back a few weeks ago after a few months. I sent her a hello and she told me I must be bored and went off again with her words. She was right, but I couldn't let her know that. Somehow I begged for a second chance at a first impression. I called or texted her every day, I think. Then finally after a week, I told her I wanted to meet up. She picked a Starbucks not far from either of us. I get there and she was there with her book club.

Fellas, if a lady ever tells you "I Pay Attention", you might need to check if she does. I told "WaitOkayGo" that, but this player didn't listen. He may have had a wreck the first time we were to meet, but that is not the whole story. He asked me out but was silent every day until that day. And I only found out about the wreck, because I was running late. Two days later I didn't hear from him, I deleted his number. A week later he found my IG. I told him off once. I think I told him everything cliche "diss" except, "I ain't no back burner chick". And He still tried to follow me 3 more times after that. And yes, I took down my dating profile. I only online date twice a year, for a month. It amazes me how engaging some people are online, but will pass you by offline. It's strange. He may be the answer to my amazement. So when I came back to the dating site, he hit me up. I gave him a 2nd chance and he communicated with me well. But many times I let people naturally tell me what I need to know. In his ramblings, he mentioned he's just bored online & scrolls and laugh at how serious some of the ladies were at finding love online. That struck a nerve. So, when he said he wanted to meet up, my serious behind and I decided to protect our hearts but hurt his feelings. And he didn't even stay & pull up a seat. Just Rude!

Playing Can Get You Played!!!

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Didn't Forget July 3rd, 2019

I was busy on that day. That is also the day I "founded" my business, 15 years ago. So, celebrating that took precedent. But you guys know I have enough for you also.

There will be an addition to the blog. Poetry Corner will be a partner called Prose Corner. I write short stories of many genres & moods from time to time. One day, I remembered writing short stories with my high school friend, Kim (I need to look her up. Wait, I saw her grandmother in Walmart once and gave me the stink eye. Maybe I should leave her be.) about our celebrity crushes. (I think they call that Fan Fiction, now.) And now I am inspired to release some of my adult age writings. (I said some. When I leave this world, 1 of 3 certain friends will release some of the unreleased works. LoL I know they will.) I can't wait for your "feedback"

Happy Blogiversary to Thoughts of an OUTSPOKEN Diva. Here to many more posts. And Thank You for Reading It!!!

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Toxic Church Lady Syndrome

I am just going right in. Jenna, a 19-year-old lady got fat-shamed recently by an older church member named Bonnie Sue at the Swansboro United Methodist Church in North Carolina. You can read about it HERE. When Jenna said, "Who are you", this blog post started writing itself in my brain & spirit. I'm not going to discuss fat-shaming or even church modesty. I'm also not going to talk about the possible "obvious" racial lens one could look through when watching the video tweet. I want to talk about what I call Toxic Church Lady Syndrome.

Toxic Church Lady Syndrome runs rampant in the church. Bonnie Sue suffers from it. It's the self-righteous, judgemental, negative, & fault-finding behavior that some women in church display. They hide behind church by-laws & misinterpreted scriptures to justify their opinionated actions. And it probably one of the top reasons many leave the church. I grew up with my share of Toxic Church Ladies. My internet joke of a name "ShowsMyKnees78" is because of a run-in with a Toxic Church Lady.

Toxic Church Ladies love to finger wag at what they believe is wrongdoing. But they never check their disrespectful tones and attitudes. Homosexuality may be wrong to them, but they have no right to call anyone a Sissy. A woman may be an unwedded mother. She still shouldn't be brought before the church to apologize. Is that child or disabled person really making that much noise? That constant "Shhh" is just as loud. Also, I don't like sitting on the front row, but if I have to I don't need a lap scarf. If the ministers were *hiding behind the cross" how am I tempting him? And what is the frantic deal with neckties?

There is no Love in None of That. I understand enforcing the rules and whatnot. But I need Toxic Church Ladies to sit down and truly read & study the B-I-B-L-E. One scripture that comes to mind is Matthew 7:1. That scripture should stop all our nasty opinions about others. Also, I want them to learn tact, discernment, & discretion. Bonnie Sue wouldn't have had to resign, had she considered those things & the beloved slogan, WWJD. Nothing was wrong with Jenna's outfit. But a lot was wrong with Bonnie Sue and her Toxic Lady Syndrome.

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You Can Feel It All Over(Black Music Month)

My nephew CJ, (formerly known as Monkey Toes) is a teenager now. He refers to my beloved 90s music as old school music. Once I showed me being offended and asked, "Then, what do you call 60s & 70s music"? He said, "Oh, now those are The Classics". *sigh* He knows how to compartmentalized eras of music as a teenager. I am so proud.

So, when I watched this animated show called Motown Magic on Netflix, I constantly thought about CJ. If this show was out when he was little, I think he would have had fun watching it. Motown Magic follows a wide-eyed & imaginative, 8-year-old Ben as he uses a magic paintbrush to bring the street art in a fictitious town named Motown to life.

Young viewers will get to learn about family love, creativity, and embracing self-esteem & individuality with musical tunes like ABC, My Girl, and Superstition interwoven in each lesson. It is a colorful program for the whole family to enjoy. Seriously, adults can sing their memories as the little ones learn pieces of music history.

If you ever go on social media and see young people loudly wonder who Dionne Warwick is, you'll understand why a show like Motown Magic is important.

If you see a viral video of Smokey Robinson slow grinding on stage and see the comment, "Who's Paw-Paw is that"?, you'll understand why a show like Motown Magic is important. You'll understand why a show like Motown Magic is important, as soon as hear "Before I Let Go" as Beyoncé's song and not a cover of the Maze featuring Frankie Beverly classic.

Yeah, I use the word Classic. And would rather my nephew use it, also. That means to me, he understands some music came before his time. And he understands he should respect it. That's the kind of respect You (and I) Can Feel All Over.

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