So...You Want a Web Series Update

What? I have been watching Web Series. I just didn't tell you guys about them.

Makeup X Breakup

It's the series finale. It's on a new channel, BETHer. And all the storylines get wrapped up well.

Pillow Talk

From the creators of Tough Love, comes the tale of Lyric "Lady Jones" Jones and her friends, Robin & Nina.

See how a Love Coach and friends navigate the love world. And keep your eyes peeled for some familiar faces from Tough Love.

Hello Cupid 3.0

Yep, Black & Sexy has remixed one it's OG shows. This time the show moves from the dating site to the dating show world. Three men + Three Women = Shenanigans in the Name Love. Will Cupid successfully shoot his arrow?

The Lesbian Homie

This was really a "comedy" skit that turned into an interesting story. Enjoyable, Funny, & rather Thought Provoking. The only drawback is it is clearly written by a man, and I hope they consulted some ladies from the LGBT+ community. 

Black Girl in a Big Dress

Enter the mind of a cosplayer that loves the Victorian world of corsets, teas, ladies, & lords.

It's the world that Adrienne's heart is in. Even though her physical life is still in the modern world.

Hover & Click each title and Enjoy! And let me know if there are others I should be watching in the comments.

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🎶When You Hear of My Homegoing...🎶

...know that you shouldn't be hearing that song at my service.  I talked about some of this on Twitter. With the unfolding funeral drama of Atatiana Jefferson, the young woman killed in her home by a Fort Worth police officer at what was supposed to be a welfare check, my mind keeps going to making my wishes known in the event I leave this world like Atatiana, Botham Jean, and too many others did. I trust my family, but grief is a funny thing that foolishness likes to creep up in. I don't want some crazy fight that will include probate court. And I don't want sly civil rights lawyers & activists and the media to make my memorial services an event that doesn't represent me. They should make sure I get justice for my unlawful & illegal murder, only.

Just like if I die in any other manner, my services should be 45 minutes to an hour(90 minutes and I am Gone)
Processional & Final View: Highway to Heaven (The Upbeat Classic)
Scriptures Old & New Testament(Except John 14(One day I'll talk about this)
Sing-Along Time1:

Jesus Promise by Chicago Mass Choir
So Good by The Williams Brothers
(My Family loves to Rock Out to These Songs at Funerals)
Read the Obituary Silently
Sing-Along Time2:
He Brought the Sunshine by The Clark Sisters (If there is time sing Expect A Miracle, too)(I Love The Clarks)
Encouraging Word Eulogy (10 Minutes)
Recessional: I Bow Out Gracefully by John P. Kee

And if the Dallas/Fort Worth, Texas, & US Civil Rights lawyers & activists don't know the songs and only know John 14 for funeral scriptures, tell them my loved ones will join them at the rally after the repast. Because making sure my killer is properly punished is still
an objective.

I felt sorry for Michael Brown's(Killed by the police in Ferguson) mother, Lesley McSpadden. Cameras were all in her face as she cried so hard at his services for hours. That's not what I want for anyone when I leave this world. My services shouldn't be "We Shall Overcome" moment. Because in the grand scheme of it all...I will already have.

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He Stole More Than Just Money

Hold on, guys. Read THIS while I talk to Future Fiancé.

Hey Future Sweetheart,
Repeat after me, The Marriage is Important, NOT The Wedding. Oh and remember your Fiancé is Not Ride or Die.
Alrighty!
I Love You!!!

So, refreshing to see a good "Did Y'all See That" article. These are the kind of things this blog was started on. There are legal ways people pay for weddings that I frown on. So, robbing a bank would probably make me irate.

Why rob a bank when you know you couldn't afford the wedding or the ring? I don't comprehend planning a wedding that you can't afford. People teased a couple for having their wedding in their front yard. I know a few couples that had receptions in their apartments' clubhouse. I went to one of them. It was rather cozy, nice, & quaint.
But guess what no one, No One went to jail while trying to finance it. I really felt sorry for the bride-to-be.

Imagine seeing your fiancé's face everywhere stealing money at a bank. Imagine calling him and finding out why he was involved in the robbery. He stole more than just money. He was stingy with the truth about his money. He cost her a wedding & a marriage. But he saved her from heartache & headache that being married to him could have brought. One day, her life will go on & be grateful for the protection his theft caused.

What do you guys think? Tell me in the comments.

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This is For...(OUTSPOKEN_DIVA's Favorite Recipes)

...my cousin, Celeste, college bud, Lil' Bit, and family friend, Latifah. I posted this meme & how I related to it because I want to be a pot of Green Stew on Facebook. And well, these ladies asked about the stew, so I decided to share the recipe on here.

What is Green Stew? It's a pot of every green vegetable in vegetable stock. It's one of the healthiest, yet coziest dishes I eat in cooler weather. Also like many soups, stews, & chowders, I really enjoy making it.

Green Stew

Ingredients

• 2 tbsp Olive Oil
• 2 Leeks, white and light green parts, thinly sliced
• 1 medium Onion, diced
• 3 stalks Celery, diced
• 3 cloves Garlic, minced
• 1/2 cup Green Beans, fresh or frozen
• 1 head Broccoli, trimmed to small florets
• 1 medium Zucchini, cut in half-moons
• 1 head Cabbage, chopped
• 1 cup Spinach, chopped
• 2 cups Turnip Greens, chopped
• 1/4 cup Green Peas, frozen
• 4 leaves Basil
• 1 1/2 Tbsp Sea Salt
• 1 tsp Pepper, fresh ground
• 6-8 cups vegetable stock or water
• 3 tbsp fresh Basil, chopped

Directions

1. In a stockpot pot or Dutch oven, heat the olive oil medium-high high heat.
2. Add the leeks, celery, onion, and garlic, saute for 3 minutes.
3. Add the vegetables, basil, salt, and pepper.
4. Stir and cook for 5 minutes.
5. Add the stock or water and bring to a boil. Lower the heat and simmer for 30 minutes.
6. Remove from the heat and stir in the chopped basil.
7. Serve and enjoy.

Please note that these are the green vegetables I like & am not allergic to. If you prefer different leafy greens or asparagus, put that in your pot. Also to the meat-eaters, you can add a little grilled chicken to your bowl and like this soup.

Thank you to Celeste, Lil Bit, & Latifah (Yes, those are blog names) for your interests. And hope you guys & anyone who wants to try this recipe, Enjoy!!!

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I'm Tired of Seeing This Lesson!!!

I hate it when I see extra stories within a big headline. And sometimes my mind won't let me move past it. Amber Guyger, the former police officer in Dallas who killed her neighbor, Botham Jean because she thought his apartment was her apartment. She has been convicted of murder & will serve 10 years. Since the story broke, Amber said she missed the clues that she was in the wrong place because she was tired from working a long shift. So tired that you park on the wrong level of the parking garage, I believe. So tired that you don't see a red doormat, was iffy for me.  Clearly, I was on pins & needles to see how this narrative was going to hold up. But Day 1 of the trial the "I'm So Tired" story was debunked for me thanks to an Officer Martin Rivera.

He was Amber's former partner and ex-Lover that she was texting after work while walking to the door, and after she shot Botham Jean. Some of their exchange was about hanging out later that night. Some of their exchanges also revealed explicit & sexual conversation. Texts that were deleted, also. Rivera testified the deleted the texts between him and Guyger from the night of the shooting because,

"That's not something that I would want to be reminded of," Rivera said. "And I don't keep messages saved unless it's of importance to me."

At that point, I knew Rivera was also a selfish jerk. I hope he is fired. As the trial progress, we found out Rivera was married. And even after Guyger killed Botham Jean, she found time to text Rivera and even sent sexual messages to him days later.

At that point, I could've asked Amber Guyger, "Was the peen that bomb".

Momma, my mom has a quote, "We all have dark moments in our lives" about the foolish stuff we've done in the name of love & lust in the past. So, I won't judge her on the fact that her lustful sins & choices look different than mine. But I'm sorry but if Amber was not messing with Martin, Botham Jean's may still be living his life. I know this is probably a stretch to some. But a man's life is lost because she was setting up sexy time with an ex-lover. A man is gone because she was sending sexy communications with a married man. A man is dead because you felt randy for a man who said your messages weren't that important to him.

Amber, was the peen really worth all of that?

She has her whole life to ponder it all. I hope she learned what is life worthy before the trial. This has to be one of the most drastic ways to learn to want more in lust, love, & sex. I just pray that somebody else in relationships & rapports that are totally morally, emotionally, & mentally beneath them see this lesson before something tragic happens.

*sigh* Well, now back to being upset with the verdict, amazed with the forgiveness from Botham's brother & praying for peace & better days to living life in this world.

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Beyond My Opinion (Answering Questions)

Sing with me! 🎶Someone asked a question...🎶 Shoutout to the 90s gospel fans that know the tune. Today's question is not the reason why we sing but and answer none the less.

Q: Saw an article you retweeted about "Meatless Meats*. How do you feel about them?

A: This article HERE was shared to me of Facebook and yeah I retweeted on Twitter. It's an interesting on meatless meats possible impact on the health of humans & nature. Personally, I don't see Beyond Meats & Impossible Burgers any different than other processed foods. So, Moderation is probably best. The only veggie burgers I eat are personally made by me with such foods like carrots, zucchini, & walnuts.

I've never had Morning Star or Boca brand substitutes. And probably won't consume these newer meatless products, either. Professionally, I have clients who can't have meat and I have suggested these products and places that properly serve them. I mean everyone should have variety in their diet. And they say that the newer meat substitutes are ok in taste, but they also still do miss beef. And they only eat vegetable substitutes like cauliflower in place of chicken. Hey, sometimes there's nothing like the real thing.

Ok Nobody has asked, but I am telling you anyway. Why is the submission conversation somehow has to include "Single Women"? I don't know about others, but the "rule book" the folks like to refer to, The Bible (in Colossians 3:18) says "Wives submit to Your Husbands" and other things that describe true husbands". Dates, Girlfriends, & Fiancés are not Wives.

That's why there is a process called dating & courting. And they have "levels" that should make true submission to true marriage leadership easier. I bet if you talk to them, Many single women know that. How about angling that submission talk over to the wives dropping the ball. Why don't you aim over to the heads of the household who expect it but don't do the work to earn it? Yeah, my opinion is very "#notallsinglewomen". But do you expect it any other way when this "submission conversation" is so generalized & missing a lot of details?

Well, that's all I have. Send your questions to C.OUT.SPOKEN.DIVA@gmail.com. I promise to give you an answer.

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The Witch Hunt for Caster Semenya

The Track and Field World Championships will be in Doha, Qatar later this month. It is time for me to talk about the one thing that makes frown about this meet.

Thanks to the IAAF ruling on hormone levels, as of this time, Caster Semenya will not be racing in the 800m.

Intersex people (formerly known as Hermaphrodites) are individuals born with any of several variations in sex characteristics including chromosomes, gonads, sex hormones, or genitals. It is the "I" in the LGBTQIA+. And 800m Gold medal Olympian, Caster Semenya from South Africa is an Intersex person. She has higher levels of testosterone in her body than the average woman. But biologically, she is a female human, a woman. In my mind, she has been the homie since I saw her dust the competition at the World  Championships in 2009. Yes, before the IAAF had her go through a gender verification test & her intersex results were leaked, I have been a fan.

With Niyonsaba

I've also felt like American Olympian, Michael Johnson, Caster Semenya was tested because of her race. Have you ever looked at Women's 800m race Have you ever seen the competition who complains about Semenya winning? And well the 2018 IAAF rule, that states "that women who compete internationally in events from 400 meters to the mile(1609.344 meters) will have to maintain natural testosterone levels below a certain limit in order to be eligible to compete" (Female athletes can take hormone therapy to lower their testosterone. But is that natural) was made to get Caster Semenya off the track. Oh and I know other runners like Francine Niyonsaba of Burundi are being affected also. But whose name has always been attached to this case?

And I Stand with Caster Semenya every time she appeals this ruling.  She will be missed in Doha this year. I just read HERE, she has signed onto a South African female football(soccer) team and will still fight to run track. I Stand for that too. But I will not be in favor of hate and unfairness. And that is what all the testing, procedures, & ruling have been.

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