So, What's Coming Soon? (Answering Questions)

You remember the post, The Comment Section, Teaser, and Announcement. If you don't, look at it HERE. Well, the video below is what I teased you about.

That sounds fun! Do you have any other questions? If you do have questions send them to C.OUT.SPOKEN.DIVA@gmail.com. I will answer them.

Correction: Autopsy of a Decade was the Watch Night sermon by Bishop Jakes. Not Anatomy. Watch it HERE

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It's Been a Decade, Huh?

While everyone was taking the 10 Year Challenge, I was reflecting. Might as well, because I pretty much look the same, I just have a better camera to take selfies with. And I decided to share with you all Ten Things I've Learned During the Years of 2010 and 2019.

Life is to be Lived. As long as blood is pulsing through veins in my body, I Must Live!

Being "Woke" can be very exhausting. Know what you know and Rest on those facts.

Many don't want to change. They're comfortable being dumb, entitled, mean, narcissistic, obtuse, and worthless. Continue to shift away from them.

Say what you need to say and nothing more.

Grief Pain hurts a lot more as I get older. Yet the continuous Healing work feels more fulfilling. 

My Descriptive Definition added some new words to help aid it

I'm so Petty, I don't want to use that term anymore. I'm that Trivial.

I don't know how to "feel some kind of way" about anything. I'm sure about my feelings even if it's weird.

I'm an Open Book, but Not an Easy Read & the Cliff Notes to My Story Weren't Created. Either others should raise their comprehensive skills or they won't know my story.

I Truly Believe everyone should have their own happy dance. We should also find any reason to do it as much as possible.

Steps to Mine

2 Steps to the Left

2 Steps to the Right

Hip Roll, Hip Roll

Snap

Hip Roll, Hip Roll

After all of that & more in this decade, I Still Have Joy. If the Lord says the same, I'll see you next decade, 2020. And I will learn more to add to these things. I Promise!!!

Oh, one more thing...I'm Not 4 anymore, I have to stop sitting in the "Criss Cross Applesauce" position.

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I Don't Give a Share! (Oh Watchmen!)

Who is watching the show, The Watchmen? It is a good show. I never read the graphic material and only saw the movie is spurts. The live tweets about the Tulsa & Black Wall Street Bombing are what made me check it out. (I learned about it in college.) And of course, in my true fashion, my mind watches TV also and that is how this post hatched. 

Now, you don't need to watch the show, The Watchmen to read this post. 

Oh, wait!

I Need the Following people to leave this post:

• People don't want to read any spoilers from the show, The Watchmen Watch the show and come back.
• People who are offended by sexual talk
• People who are here just to gossip

Thank you for the clicks but I don't need you negative yap.

Let's say this is for open-minded, non-problematic adults.

On the show(who's background material is a 1980s comic) Watchmen, there is a character named Agent Laurie Blake.  Laurie is an FBI agent who was a Watchmen vigilante in the 80s & 90s. We meet her with a large briefcase. In it is a space-aged sex toy called Excalibur that is fashioned after her ex-boyfriend, Dr. Manhattan/Jon. It was an "eff you" gift from another ex because she was still pining for him. Dr. Manhattan/Jon, because of a lab accident is a post-human god.

He is thought to be on the moon, but he is on Earth in human form living by the name Cal Abar(Yes, the name Excalibur was a hint). Cal/Jon/Dr. Manhattan now has a wife named Angela, who is a current vigilante, Sister Night. When I found out Cal was Dr. Manhattan, I thought about Laurie's adult device. This was my tweet.

Now, here is my question for you guys. If your significant other's ex had a sex toy made in shape of your significant other's genitalia, would you be uncomfortable or upset?

I would be uncomfortable. Yet, my brain and bank account would have to overrule my emotions. I would buy all patents, patterns, and/or schematics of that particular adult device. Not to make money, but when the device(s) wear out or break, nothing can be replicated. I know I have the real thing. I just don't want anyone having my real thing while I currently have it. I Don't Share Like That!!!

Now, get in the comments on here or the social media site you see this on and let me know how you would feel. And if you watched the show, let me know that also. 

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Cursed With Generational Talk (Answering Questions)

You ask and I answer. The kind of give and take I choose to engage with. Let me see what you want.

Q: You post a few boomers vs millennials memes on social media. How would you explain the battle?

A: You all know I have decided to identify as a Xennial. And when it comes to generations blaming one another, my identity really shows. I passionately care enough about "Boomers vs Millenials" to make fun of it. Let me break it down on how I see it.

The Greatest & Silent generations made the American Dream Kool-Aid for Everone to drink. Could that Kool-Aid be a tasty drink that may not be as nutritious as we are taught it is? It sure is!!!

But Boomers, who are numerous in physical bodies lapped this Kool-Aid up at its full strength and realized the Kool-Aid wouldn't last at the rate it was going. So, they decided to make fewer numbers of the next generation, who are Generation X and part of the Millenials and "afforded" them education to figure out how to make more Kool-Aid. That next generation told the previous generations the Kool-Aid can't be replicate. The older generations over-produced the drink and the ingredients are depleting. They gave them two solutions, one good & one bad. Make New Drinks or Add water & more addictives to the Kool-Aid. Both solutions are given green lights.

But Boomers hate the results of both solutions. The bad (watering down & more addictive) results in things like participation trophies, mass entitlement, & retirement age getter older & older. The good results in the movements like Me Too & It Gets Better & all income brackets figuring out different sources to make money. Boomers realized the added additives were harmful and had them removed. And now the younger Millenials and Generation Z members see all they have left is the murky water of the American Dream to consume. Rightfully so, they are upset. And now we see the "Who is to Blame" Fight.

My mind is tired but that's how I feel. But that's what happened when we based the affordability of the American Dream on capitalism. Now the money & resources are running out and we scrambling.

Well, do you have any other questions? If you do have questions send them to C.OUT.SPOKEN.DIVA@gmail.com. I will answer them.

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Mindfulness in a Keepin' it Real World

Just saw this question, Is Mindfulness Lying? and I honestly didn't know how to answer that. I try to be as mindful of what I say & behave as much as possible. In my late teens and early 20s, if I said something careless about anyone or anything and I got shocking looks I said, "But I'm not lying". Of course, I curved doing that toxic mess, but over the past few years I have been reminded of something Stumpy, the Worst Boyfriend Ever said, "I don't give my opinion about someone because some people think that is a go light to unload their opinion about me".

There are a lot of times I feel that statement to my core. For the past few years, some have gotten upset with me because when they want my personal opinion I ask " Do you want my opinion or do you want a yes person" before they even get the dilemma out. I also know someone who is doing good with a weight loss journey. Some time ago, they said more than twice, I was getting fat and none of my friends said anything. I finally said "Well, I wouldn't want someone just saying that to me. So, I just didn't". I know I have given a helpful exercise motivation to this person before. Saying a statement more than once will trigger me to actually give my opinion, and chance that it was actually warranted without consequence.

We live in such a time where I often don't know when to say anything. Heck, having a blog like this one or posting as I do on social media takes chances that I don't trigger anyone. Sometimes, I'm successful. Many say society is too sensitive to the truth. I think we've kept it real for so long we don't know when to take it on the chin or actually come in guns blazing.

And I think that's where mindfulness comes in to protect us. It is a tool to make sure we all don't come off as jerks and a-holes all of the time. It comes in to put our bluntness in check sometimes. Because whether we admit it or not, we All have "can Dish it but can't Take it" moments more than we like. I think when we understand & accept that human flaw we might see the truth in Being Mindful.

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In the Name of Line Dancing

Oh 2019, I was trying to end the year without being a goofy know-it-all. Then here comes The Bible Slide & the talk about it and well here I am.

As a Christian, I am not a big fan. But most secular songs that get a sacred makeover get a pause from me. Remember the remake of Music Soul Child's Love to God. *sigh* Yeah, I do. I also only know one "cool" "Christian" line dance. That is the Hallelujah Slide. I found that one after I was introduced to The Gospel Slide (Jesus Apostles' March). Which sounds a little hokey, but it gives me a good workout.

Now as a line dancer, I am not mad at The Bible Slide. It is simple enough to move my body along with it. I don't like complicated line dances. Yeah, it's corny, but it's based on the Cha-Cha Slide. The Cha-Cha Slide has been described as a ghetto Hokey Pokey by comedian, Martin Lawrence. And whenever I hear it come on I see it as such, even as I am going down low, all the way to the floor. So, The Bible Slide has no other choice but to be seen as goofy too.

Will I be adding this to my workout/line dance list? Nope!!! This tune is over 5 years old. I've been bopping around, getting finer without it just well. But I will dance to it at any of my church friends' or family parties. Oh and thanks to whoever it was that was scouring Youtube to find this "New to Us but Old to You" dance. We need a new discussion.

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Settling These Holiday Dessert Debates

There are desserts and there are holiday desserts. To me, holiday desserts have a little bit more love & joy in them. It is the time of the year where we tend to exhibit those two particular ingredients more in our lives. Maybe they rub off into the mixing bowls somehow.

For this post, I asked my followers what was their favorite desserts to have during the holidays. There was a tie. Apple Pie & Pecan Pie were mentioned the most. Pecan is a Texas favorite. We have a pecan tree in our backyard.

I have picked & shelled my fair share of it's prized ingredient over the years. Americans love their Apple pie. I can always tell when my grandmother wants me to make one. She will peel the apples with her 90+-year-old hands and have them in the refrigerator waiting for me. LoL Thank you to my followers who answered the question. Y'all are such sweeties.

And in no particular order, here are My Top 10 favorite holiday desserts

Ginger Breadmen - I love the smell of those little guys. They are probably one of the most iconic dessert symbols of the holidays. I don't think I ever see these eaten any other time of the year.

Sweet Potato Pie - Until I ever eat a piece of pumpkin pie, you will never know me to not pick this pie. It is a very simple pie to make. Add a little spray of whipped cream...Deliciousness!

Baklava - My grandmother ordered this one Christmas out of sheer curiosity. It was a hit with a few family members, including myself.

It is a very rich dessert. And there is nothing like eating it layer by layer, in order to savor the goodness.

Ooey Gooey Bars - In desserts named correctly, this one is one of them. It is ooey & gooey. Thank you St. Louis for sharing this gem.

Mexican Wedding Cookies - My youngest aunt won't make them anymore. I tried, but fail to make them light enough. So in the rare times, I see them in the store days after Thanksgiving, I buy two packs. Also known as

-Italian Nut Balls

-Russian Tea Cakes

-Polvorones

-Viennese Sugar Ball

-Snowdrops

they are buttery with a nutty hint in flavor. Maybe, my aunt, blog name Stump will surprisingly bless us with these one day, again. I'll let you guys know if she does.

Rum Cake - As a child, my grandparents were buddies a lady who owned a funeral home who brought us rum cake every year until she died for the holidays. It always came in a can. I think you could get drunk just by taking the top off. Whenever I take a bite of a potent piece of rum cake, that is a memory that comes to mind.

Holiday Fudge - I remember the show, Eve and the running jokes was how no one liked Shelly's holiday fudge. Either you like fudge or you don't. I do!

Ambrosia - The best salad ever. Stop staring at that sentence like that. It's a Fruit Salad. Traditionally, it has coconut in it. But y'all know I'm not the traditional type.

German Chocolate Cake - The only way I like chocolate cake & coconut. Chocolate cake is bitter to me. Coconut is too sweet to my tongue. Put them together and I like this dessert.

Mixed Berry Cobbler - Juicy & tart berries under a nice crust...What is there not to like! It's pie with no bottom crust. Why mixed berry? Because I tend to make apple randomly during "Baking Season". I only make mixed berry for the New Year.

Now, get in the comments on here or the social media site you see this on and let me know what are your favorite holiday desserts.

Remember this season is about love & joy. They make our hearts feel better. And who doesn't want to feel that?

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