You're Musty, But I'll Date Ya

I need to update my side-eye pictures because I gave this Smell Dating meme one when I saw it. Shout out to my friend, Pink Red for sharing this on Facebook. My brain needed this hilarious jolt. I have several WTF questions & thoughts, but first proper research.

• Smell Dating has been out since 2016. It is the first mail-order smell dating service. Right now their first-round for registration is closed, but people can sign up for the second round.
• It is based on the science of pheromones: the chemical signals that most creatures (including humans) send out to entice mates. 
• The shirt cost $25.
• One receives several pieces of t-shirt without any additional information than the smell, not even gender.
• One makes their selection(s) and then are given the contact information of their selected.

I don't negate pheromone science. Perfumes & colognes are based on it. A great smelling man has turned my head a few times. I am not bashful to tell a guy he smells great. Also, I have a male friend whose natural scent made me offer him my very feminine scented deodorant. His girlfriend, at the time, though nothing of him being musty. I also won't even negate the $25 price tag. T-shirts & postage cost money.

Smell Dating nor my source articles, this ONE, this ONE, & this ONE, answered my one burning question, Who can wear a shirt for 72 hours straight without washing their body in between? Not using deodorant is not a problem. I was raised poor. Water & baking soda is a workable thing. Trust Me! But I don't care how long a 3-day weekend of nothing we think it feels like. Chafing is painful, ask babies & old people. Also, random gender-less choosing is unfair. You find out if your choice is a he, she, or they until you see the contact info. I think sex orientation & sexual identity questions should be at least on the t-shirt strip package. Pheromone attraction may be ancient. But I live in the current world, possible bigotry is real. And who wants to pay $25 to find out they know how to sniff out possible new, favorable scented friends in the end? Umm, that's Smell Friending. (I will sue for this idea. Give me my credit.)

I'm not going to say, "a sucker is born every moment" when it comes to people who have & will try to Smell Dating. I don't want to offend. I just won't be the Charms Green Apple Blow Pop. Now, let me bathe and smell clean. Mr. Right may find me in the Offline world, today.

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Whose Wedding is it Anyway?

Remember when I discussed the wedding that took place in the back yard of some project apartments. What about the couple that got married in their front yard? Well, add a proposal in a South African KFC and a wedding in a Walmart in Adamsville Al to the list of marital ceremonies, the masses decided to pick on.

People love to tear apart love.

The South African couple was mocked by a journalist who posted the picture to Twitter. The journalist didn't know or care that KFC was the lady's favorite lunch spot. But the couple got the last laugh. The couple married the last day of the year 2019 with the help of sponsors like Uber, Audi and of course KFC.

The story of Adamsville couple renewing their vows in a Walmart is sentimental, also. They met at that store. The picture was posted a few times on my Facebook timeline. I bet dollars to donuts they didn't go into the debt that many do when having their ceremonies. I was just amazed at the folks I know teasing this couple that whine about being single. I was also wholly surprised at the married folks I know that didn't have glamorous ceremonies or proposal background themselves, picking at them. Oh well, Electric Slide in the Electric Department.

*sigh*
I don't care where a couple gets married. It could be in a mobile wedding chapel. God, True Love and Pure Intentions is all I care about.

Dear Future Husband,
I am just going to assume you didn't make fun of these folk. If you did, chalk it up to mistakes you learned from the past and don't tell me.
Love,
Mrs. Love Love

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So, What's Coming Soon? (Answering Questions)

You remember the post, The Comment Section, Teaser, and Announcement. If you don't, look at it HERE. Well, the video below is what I teased you about.

That sounds fun! Do you have any other questions? If you do have questions send them to C.OUT.SPOKEN.DIVA@gmail.com. I will answer them.

Correction: Autopsy of a Decade was the Watch Night sermon by Bishop Jakes. Not Anatomy. Watch it HERE

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It's Been a Decade, Huh?

While everyone was taking the 10 Year Challenge, I was reflecting. Might as well, because I pretty much look the same, I just have a better camera to take selfies with. And I decided to share with you all Ten Things I've Learned During the Years of 2010 and 2019.

Life is to be Lived. As long as blood is pulsing through veins in my body, I Must Live!

Being "Woke" can be very exhausting. Know what you know and Rest on those facts.

Many don't want to change. They're comfortable being dumb, entitled, mean, narcissistic, obtuse, and worthless. Continue to shift away from them.

Say what you need to say and nothing more.

Grief Pain hurts a lot more as I get older. Yet the continuous Healing work feels more fulfilling. 

My Descriptive Definition added some new words to help aid it

I'm so Petty, I don't want to use that term anymore. I'm that Trivial.

I don't know how to "feel some kind of way" about anything. I'm sure about my feelings even if it's weird.

I'm an Open Book, but Not an Easy Read & the Cliff Notes to My Story Weren't Created. Either others should raise their comprehensive skills or they won't know my story.

I Truly Believe everyone should have their own happy dance. We should also find any reason to do it as much as possible.

Steps to Mine

2 Steps to the Left

2 Steps to the Right

Hip Roll, Hip Roll

Snap

Hip Roll, Hip Roll

After all of that & more in this decade, I Still Have Joy. If the Lord says the same, I'll see you next decade, 2020. And I will learn more to add to these things. I Promise!!!

Oh, one more thing...I'm Not 4 anymore, I have to stop sitting in the "Criss Cross Applesauce" position.

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I Don't Give a Share! (Oh Watchmen!)

Who is watching the show, The Watchmen? It is a good show. I never read the graphic material and only saw the movie is spurts. The live tweets about the Tulsa & Black Wall Street Bombing are what made me check it out. (I learned about it in college.) And of course, in my true fashion, my mind watches TV also and that is how this post hatched. 

Now, you don't need to watch the show, The Watchmen to read this post. 

Oh, wait!

I Need the Following people to leave this post:

• People don't want to read any spoilers from the show, The Watchmen Watch the show and come back.
• People who are offended by sexual talk
• People who are here just to gossip

Thank you for the clicks but I don't need you negative yap.

Let's say this is for open-minded, non-problematic adults.

On the show(who's background material is a 1980s comic) Watchmen, there is a character named Agent Laurie Blake.  Laurie is an FBI agent who was a Watchmen vigilante in the 80s & 90s. We meet her with a large briefcase. In it is a space-aged sex toy called Excalibur that is fashioned after her ex-boyfriend, Dr. Manhattan/Jon. It was an "eff you" gift from another ex because she was still pining for him. Dr. Manhattan/Jon, because of a lab accident is a post-human god.

He is thought to be on the moon, but he is on Earth in human form living by the name Cal Abar(Yes, the name Excalibur was a hint). Cal/Jon/Dr. Manhattan now has a wife named Angela, who is a current vigilante, Sister Night. When I found out Cal was Dr. Manhattan, I thought about Laurie's adult device. This was my tweet.

Now, here is my question for you guys. If your significant other's ex had a sex toy made in shape of your significant other's genitalia, would you be uncomfortable or upset?

I would be uncomfortable. Yet, my brain and bank account would have to overrule my emotions. I would buy all patents, patterns, and/or schematics of that particular adult device. Not to make money, but when the device(s) wear out or break, nothing can be replicated. I know I have the real thing. I just don't want anyone having my real thing while I currently have it. I Don't Share Like That!!!

Now, get in the comments on here or the social media site you see this on and let me know how you would feel. And if you watched the show, let me know that also. 

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Cursed With Generational Talk (Answering Questions)

You ask and I answer. The kind of give and take I choose to engage with. Let me see what you want.

Q: You post a few boomers vs millennials memes on social media. How would you explain the battle?

A: You all know I have decided to identify as a Xennial. And when it comes to generations blaming one another, my identity really shows. I passionately care enough about "Boomers vs Millenials" to make fun of it. Let me break it down on how I see it.

The Greatest & Silent generations made the American Dream Kool-Aid for Everone to drink. Could that Kool-Aid be a tasty drink that may not be as nutritious as we are taught it is? It sure is!!!

But Boomers, who are numerous in physical bodies lapped this Kool-Aid up at its full strength and realized the Kool-Aid wouldn't last at the rate it was going. So, they decided to make fewer numbers of the next generation, who are Generation X and part of the Millenials and "afforded" them education to figure out how to make more Kool-Aid. That next generation told the previous generations the Kool-Aid can't be replicate. The older generations over-produced the drink and the ingredients are depleting. They gave them two solutions, one good & one bad. Make New Drinks or Add water & more addictives to the Kool-Aid. Both solutions are given green lights.

But Boomers hate the results of both solutions. The bad (watering down & more addictive) results in things like participation trophies, mass entitlement, & retirement age getter older & older. The good results in the movements like Me Too & It Gets Better & all income brackets figuring out different sources to make money. Boomers realized the added additives were harmful and had them removed. And now the younger Millenials and Generation Z members see all they have left is the murky water of the American Dream to consume. Rightfully so, they are upset. And now we see the "Who is to Blame" Fight.

My mind is tired but that's how I feel. But that's what happened when we based the affordability of the American Dream on capitalism. Now the money & resources are running out and we scrambling.

Well, do you have any other questions? If you do have questions send them to C.OUT.SPOKEN.DIVA@gmail.com. I will answer them.

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Mindfulness in a Keepin' it Real World

Just saw this question, Is Mindfulness Lying? and I honestly didn't know how to answer that. I try to be as mindful of what I say & behave as much as possible. In my late teens and early 20s, if I said something careless about anyone or anything and I got shocking looks I said, "But I'm not lying". Of course, I curved doing that toxic mess, but over the past few years I have been reminded of something Stumpy, the Worst Boyfriend Ever said, "I don't give my opinion about someone because some people think that is a go light to unload their opinion about me".

There are a lot of times I feel that statement to my core. For the past few years, some have gotten upset with me because when they want my personal opinion I ask " Do you want my opinion or do you want a yes person" before they even get the dilemma out. I also know someone who is doing good with a weight loss journey. Some time ago, they said more than twice, I was getting fat and none of my friends said anything. I finally said "Well, I wouldn't want someone just saying that to me. So, I just didn't". I know I have given a helpful exercise motivation to this person before. Saying a statement more than once will trigger me to actually give my opinion, and chance that it was actually warranted without consequence.

We live in such a time where I often don't know when to say anything. Heck, having a blog like this one or posting as I do on social media takes chances that I don't trigger anyone. Sometimes, I'm successful. Many say society is too sensitive to the truth. I think we've kept it real for so long we don't know when to take it on the chin or actually come in guns blazing.

And I think that's where mindfulness comes in to protect us. It is a tool to make sure we all don't come off as jerks and a-holes all of the time. It comes in to put our bluntness in check sometimes. Because whether we admit it or not, we All have "can Dish it but can't Take it" moments more than we like. I think when we understand & accept that human flaw we might see the truth in Being Mindful.

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