Testing Position Inquiries(Answering Questions)

If you don't like sex talk and/or have boxed me in...LEAVE

You asked questions and I answer them. Well since thoughts of this time of the year lean towards the dating & for some, sexual sides, I decided to post these particular questions, now. Alright, here goes it.

Q: Do you have any favorite or go-to first meeting questions for a date or potential suitor?

A: I like to ask questions and listen to reactions. Because People Lie!!!

• Where is home? You never get basic answers. They will like or dislike their area. Also, you can hear what they are not saying about their living situation. That's why I use the term home and not live. It evokes emotion.
• Why this particular dating site or online dating in general? This is my newest favorite. Of course, it's for guys I meet online. I learned it from a couple of white guys trying to pursue me. Also, if/when you guys talk on the phone ask this question again and see if you get the same answer.
• Do you read? You guys know I believe "Can't Read & Don't Read are the same thing. Either Way, You're Not Reading". I'm not interested in a guy who won't read(and Audible is starting to be 60% acceptable to me). And he shouldn't lie, because I will ask for his favorite or last book.
  

And now you guys know why I am single. LMBO

Q: What is the best sexual position?

A: Well, I told you guys I wouldn't shy away from sexual questions on here. Well...

The best sexual position is the one that gives the person the best comfort & orgasm at the same time. No one person is the same. I being a BBW probably wouldn't think Folded Missionary is the best. People who love kissing might think Doggy Style is disconnecting. Couples of different heights may not enjoy standing up while having intercourse. Oh, and if you meant to ask what was my best or favorite one, I will say this, "If we aren't going to have sex, you don't need to know".

The following video is NSFW. Also, the volume gets lower as the video progresses so...Just Put Some Headphones On. LoL

This Post's Video Question & Answer

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We Are Waiting on Us

There are times I love the Memories feature of Facebook. This is one of those times. I wrote that on my wall 8 years ago. More than likely the late, great Luther Vandross's Wait For Love was on my mind. It's my favorite Luther song and it makes my mind wander. Ooh, let me turn on that and some of his other tunes for some blog help.

I remember not too long ago

I was just a lonely person with a lonely heart

And I was hopin' there could one day be

Be a chance for me to

Get the love that I'd been missin'

Sometimes love takes a long time

Wait for love and you're gonna get the chance to love

Wait for love, wait for love, oh my

I know Luther was more than likely talking about amorous love, but self-love waiting for us to love ourselves could fit well with these lyrics. Self-love is waiting for us to:

• Move our bodies more
• Drink more water
• Eat more vegetables & fruit
• Decrease our sugar intake
• Turn off all the screens & noise & sit in a quiet moment for 30 minutes
• Pour more positive inspiration into yourself
• Read more
  
• Increase our comedy input & laugh more
• Find more constructive & professional outlets to release negativity

And I use the word our because while I was coming up with this list for this post first thing this morning, I hadn't had my usual 1st cup of water. That was 30+ minutes.  Can't love this blog more than properly waking my body up. But slip-ups happen. And self-love doesn't happen overnight. I guess I should add another thing or two that self-love is waiting for us to do.

• Beating ourselves up if We are doing our best at the moment
• Never stop working on our self-love process

And to quote the tune that Luther Vandross sang with the also late, great Gregory Hines,

I wanna be loved

There's nothing better than love

What in the world

Could you ever be thinking of

It's better by far

So let yourself reach for that star

And go no matter how far

To the one you love

To love

Nope like the song, There's Nothing Better Than Love. Recently I read, "Showing love is about sharing life with someone else". That is very true, but it share some life with yourself also. An empty cup can't pour into another. Plus, self-love helps you show others what & how to share with you. So regularly, take the time to drop a little life in you. You will love what you did. 

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Travel, A Dating Requirement

Here are some Travel Facts about Outspoken_Diva.

• My "Bucket List" travel destination is Australia. I want to see the Rabbit-Proof Fence & go to Sydney. Blame the movies, Crocodile Dundee & Rabbit-Proof Fence for my curiosity.
• I'm not a fan of beaches. And my feelings about taking a cruise are minimal. Beaches are just big sunny, dirt parks, in my opinion. And until somebody shows me they went somewhere other than the beach when the ship docks, the big boat life is not for me.
• I like to see landmarks, museums, and eat where the locals eat when I travel. I enjoy seeing & experience what the area is "known" culturally.

I don't get to leisurely travel every year, but I like making attempts to achieve my traveling wants. I used to think all adults had travel dreams & goals. In 2019, I met two potential suitors that changed that thought. One had never been on an airplane and had no desire ever to get on one. One was willing to travel, but when I asked him about where would he like to go. He was "just willing to travel". After him, I quietly added "Must have & want to fulfill Travel Goals & Desires" to the Dating Requirements. I don't want to be involved with a man who is weirded out (his words) about planes & not one that I am making travel decisions for.

Then I saw this post on a social media travel group, I follow. WoW! I've heard a couple of different podcasters lightly touch on this topic. There are people that feel like you should not buy popular sneakers and get a passport, instead. Some people feel like that is a bougie or snooty mindset.

Some could think they're better than. But the question that looms for me is, are we even having respectful travel discussions in our dating lives at all? Are we just discussing what we would like to do based on our past experiences and judge others or sticking our proverbial noses in the air for not wanting what we want? Can we have mature discussions about travel without sticking our proverbial noses in the air?

I would hate to hear any guy I'm digging to tell me my travel ideas aren't enough. Maybe they're enough for me. Maybe his ideas are just not my style.  Also, I don't want anyone to change or "raise the standard of" the places you would like to see if that is not your truest desire. That seems like that should be common sense, but have you ever heard a couple argue out of town and you hear, "I didn't want to come here anyway" in the end. It's eye-opening to hear.

If you want to take Greyhound everywhere, don't let me stop you. Do you want to travel throughout your home country before you venture to foreign lands? Go ahead! Just got a third passport because you filled the last page of the second one? Get your stamps & venture forth.  Travel shouldn't be a subject anyone judges anyone on. 52% of adults reported having unused vacation days at the end of the year in 2017. Looks like judging is the last thing, we need to do. Listening & learning from others would be a better use of that time. Relax & find somebody you can travel with by using a kind heart & mind.

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Settling These "Healthier" Fast Food Debates

There are two types of food ignorant people that I try my hardest not to backhand. As a nutritional consultant & person who uses her common sense, the statements  "Oh I don't cook with salt, I use Lawry's" and "I stay away from fast food"(while holding a Starbucks cup and a Chipotle wrap) grate my nerves. Lawry's first ingredient listed is salt. So, they are using salt. And if you are at a restaurant and no one takes your order while you are seated, that is fast food.

I'll cover my salt-free seasoning stance, one day. But now let's talk "healthier" fast food options. Yes, I put quotes around healthier. Some more than others, but all fast food have some processed elements in them. I don't shun fast food. I have clients who arrive for my assistance that don't cook. I can't expect them to go cold turkey. But we can all make a few better choices. Here are my go-to's.

McDonald's

I know the fries smell so inviting. I know having an iconic Big Mac is mouth-watering.  But the 6 piece McNuggets and Side Salad at just 298 calories makes your waist happier. Add a ketchup packet and it is 15 calories more. And it's all on the value side of the menu. Fewer calories and less money.

Pizza Hut

If you are a Supreme pizza consumer, this switch up shouldn't be too hard. Veggie Lover's Thin N' Crispy Crust (1 slice of a medium pizza) is just meatless and 180 calories. Oh please, don't add wings. Two naked, bone-out wings are 160 calories. Who just eats two wings? Let's not lie to ourselves. Go meatless for a meal.

Burger King

Most high caloric burger places have the same healthy "Take The Cheese Off" hack. I just prefer Burger King because flame-broiled is a less fatty cooking method. A hamburger is the clear best choice at 220 calories. But if you want to splurge a little more, a Whopper Jr topped with mayo, ketchup, tomatoes, onions, lettuce, and pickles have 310 calories. Imagine the drop in calories if you take off the mayonnaise.

Taco Bell

If anyone asked me. This is actually my favorite fast-food spot, so I will tell you 2 of my favorite options. Any menu item from Taco Bell can be made more nutritious by making it “fresco style.” Fresco Style replaces the cheese, creamy sauces, sour cream, and/or guacamole with pico de gallo aka more veggies. Making my faves, Chicken Soft Taco Fresco Style, 150 calories, and the 7-Layer Burrito 340 calories.

Most male adults generally require 2,000-3000 calories per day to maintain weight while female adults need around 1,600-2,400 according to the U.S Department of Health. So, "healthier" choices like mine help you not go over.

Cook!

And though I don't wag my finger at fast food, I still believe it should only be eaten in Moderation. No one should eat fast food every day. Maybe twice a month is a better plan. If you would like more resources on "nutritious" fast food picks, check out these resource articles HERE & HERE.

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Pastor Ghosted My Faves, Last Year(Answering Questions)

Time to answer your questions. What do you guys have for me?

Q: You didn't do a Faves of 2019. I low key missed it. Did you like anything?

A: Yeah I really liked a few things in 2019

There was the book, A Princess in Theory: Reluctant Royals by Alyssa Cole. Look for it HERE. Which was weird because I stopped reading romance novels. Blame me being Woke to seduction actually being rape and a lot of romance lean heavy to gender, cultural, & racial stereotypes.

But this book was different and I enjoyed it a lot.

And of course, there was that one song.

Ever been in a relationship rut and have to remember why you are still with that person. Keepsake by Morisha Daneè (Listen to it HERE) is that song. The line "This love's my ministry. Our love is like poetry", told me this love is trying to have a powerful foundation. I first heard Keepsake on the show Hello Cupid Season 3. And mark my words. I was a fan of Ari Lennox when I only heard her stuff on web series. I have the same high hopes for Morisha Daneé.

This Post's Video Question & Answer

And here are the articles about the pastors I talked about in the video.

I Feel So Distant

After 5 Years, Pastor Resigns

If you do have questions send them to C.OUT.SPOKEN.DIVA@gmail.com. I will answer them.

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You're Musty, But I'll Date Ya

I need to update my side-eye pictures because I gave this Smell Dating meme one when I saw it. Shout out to my friend, Pink Red for sharing this on Facebook. My brain needed this hilarious jolt. I have several WTF questions & thoughts, but first proper research.

• Smell Dating has been out since 2016. It is the first mail-order smell dating service. Right now their first-round for registration is closed, but people can sign up for the second round.
• It is based on the science of pheromones: the chemical signals that most creatures (including humans) send out to entice mates. 
• The shirt cost $25.
• One receives several pieces of t-shirt without any additional information than the smell, not even gender.
• One makes their selection(s) and then are given the contact information of their selected.

I don't negate pheromone science. Perfumes & colognes are based on it. A great smelling man has turned my head a few times. I am not bashful to tell a guy he smells great. Also, I have a male friend whose natural scent made me offer him my very feminine scented deodorant. His girlfriend, at the time, though nothing of him being musty. I also won't even negate the $25 price tag. T-shirts & postage cost money.

Smell Dating nor my source articles, this ONE, this ONE, & this ONE, answered my one burning question, Who can wear a shirt for 72 hours straight without washing their body in between? Not using deodorant is not a problem. I was raised poor. Water & baking soda is a workable thing. Trust Me! But I don't care how long a 3-day weekend of nothing we think it feels like. Chafing is painful, ask babies & old people. Also, random gender-less choosing is unfair. You find out if your choice is a he, she, or they until you see the contact info. I think sex orientation & sexual identity questions should be at least on the t-shirt strip package. Pheromone attraction may be ancient. But I live in the current world, possible bigotry is real. And who wants to pay $25 to find out they know how to sniff out possible new, favorable scented friends in the end? Umm, that's Smell Friending. (I will sue for this idea. Give me my credit.)

I'm not going to say, "a sucker is born every moment" when it comes to people who have & will try to Smell Dating. I don't want to offend. I just won't be the Charms Green Apple Blow Pop. Now, let me bathe and smell clean. Mr. Right may find me in the Offline world, today.

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Whose Wedding is it Anyway?

Remember when I discussed the wedding that took place in the back yard of some project apartments. What about the couple that got married in their front yard? Well, add a proposal in a South African KFC and a wedding in a Walmart in Adamsville Al to the list of marital ceremonies, the masses decided to pick on.

People love to tear apart love.

The South African couple was mocked by a journalist who posted the picture to Twitter. The journalist didn't know or care that KFC was the lady's favorite lunch spot. But the couple got the last laugh. The couple married the last day of the year 2019 with the help of sponsors like Uber, Audi and of course KFC.

The story of Adamsville couple renewing their vows in a Walmart is sentimental, also. They met at that store. The picture was posted a few times on my Facebook timeline. I bet dollars to donuts they didn't go into the debt that many do when having their ceremonies. I was just amazed at the folks I know teasing this couple that whine about being single. I was also wholly surprised at the married folks I know that didn't have glamorous ceremonies or proposal background themselves, picking at them. Oh well, Electric Slide in the Electric Department.

*sigh*
I don't care where a couple gets married. It could be in a mobile wedding chapel. God, True Love and Pure Intentions is all I care about.

Dear Future Husband,
I am just going to assume you didn't make fun of these folk. If you did, chalk it up to mistakes you learned from the past and don't tell me.
Love,
Mrs. Love Love

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