Child...Don't Ask(Answering Questions)

This post should have been the 2nd or 3rd Answering Questioning video on this blog. Oh well, it is here now. I know you asked the question. I answered it. Oh, you didn't see it on the blog. Here's why. Hope I'm not too stern. LoL

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A Fictional Character? That's Very Telling... (October Awareness)

Let me be honest. I am writing this post in September. I am writing this in September because this is when I saw the foolishness. And maybe by October, there will be people who will think this post is overkill. I won't because speaking against Domestic Violence(DV) and harmful attitudes about it is never overkill.

There is a show many (including me) watched this summer called P-Valley. I talked about it HERE. Domestic Violence is a part of one of the storylines in that show. Spoiler Alert!

A character, Keyshawn a*k*a Miss Mississippi points a gun at a man who cares for her, Diamond so that he would stop beating on her abuser(who is also racist, by the way), Derrick. It was painful to see. But Social Media lost its collective mind. And forgot one real fact,

There are Keyshawns among us every day.

Seeing the comments about the situation made me sad.

"She's a dumb b*tch"

"The List of People Who Can Go to Hell: 

5. Keyshawn"

"Give Hailey the gun back, your silly *ss don't know who to point it at"

Those are the few I could stomach to share. 

I am sad because they are not reserved just for that character of this show. I know they are not. This is how some people talk to and about domestic violence victims in the real world.

And it is a shame. No matter how much advocates, like the writer's room of P-Valley, teach & preach about the psychological perspective of DV victims, numerous people still want to finger wag the sufferers.

But folks like P-Valley because it "keeps it real". But that storyline is not fake, as well. And actual victims, the Real Keyshawns saw & heard the comments on the vlogs & podcasts, the GIFs, & the tweets. But the other sad reality is that some of it came from current & surviving victims, also. My heart goes out to them all.

This Mindset Has to Stop!!!

*sigh*

Can't believe this was the direction this October Awareness post had to go. You know what... while you're being mean to a fictional victim of Domestic Violence, make sure your loved ones and/or you are doing self-checks for breast cancer. Also, ladies, go get your mammograms. Be proactive in your awareness of Breast Cancer & Domestic Violence.

Save the Tatas

Keep Your Cruelty to Yourself

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Ladies, Don't Test Him

Watch this discussion HERE.

Is it me or it that ladies who were involved with men that were ever suspected or later revealed to be a part of the LGBT+ community can say some of the most ignorant stuff? I know a bi-sexual woman who believes (maybe, hopefully, it is "believed" at this point) there are no such people as bi-sexual men. It was a guy she dated who ended things because he was coming to terms with his sexuality that she blamed for her stinking thinking. So, what Lisa Raye said was not unheard of to me. But it still immature to say the least and rather toxic.

What if you do take Lisa Raye's advice?

It proves nothing. There are heterosexual men who like their butts touched. Also, some sexually informed heterosexual men know that a male orgasm can be achieved via the anus. And it could also get somebody hurt. There are men of both homo- and hetero- sexuality that don't like their butts touched.

I saw a woman pat a male stripper's towel wrapped butt once while he was talking with some ladies. That guy said, "Hold on Y'all", rose, and went directly to her and told her not to do that. That was not fun or sexy to him. Also, there are some ignorant violent men out there too. Touch their bums and they might feel the need to hit you. Not to excuse those actions at all but is that how you want to be answered?

What is wrong with having a conversation? I mean ask him and listen to his answer. Listen to what he says & doesn't say.  And don't wait until you suspect anything. If you are getting to know one another, get to learning. Listen to his tone also. People who are less discriminating with a person's past may raise an eyebrow hearing, "I ain't with that gay mess" for an answer to a same-sex experience question. But I rather hear that than some fool putting his hands on anyone because a person physically tested his sexuality.

Oh and I almost forgot about the unhygienic population of men that don't wipe or wash between their butt cheeks, properly or at all. Go ahead and test to see if the man is gay, bi, or like butt play. You'll mess around and have crap on your hands.

I think it's safe to say... Don't Take That Advice from Lisa Raye

And I hope I am preaching to the choir. I really pray I am.

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Pastor ~vs~ Panther (Answering Questions)

Believe it or not, I really like fun questions. It's probably why I rushed this one out so quickly after the last Answering Question post. Hope it put merry in your heart. Yes, I said merry.

Q. Verzuz announced Patti Labelle ~vs~ Gladys Knight. And I saw that you're Team Gladys. What makes Gladys better that Patti to you?

A. Transparency Moment: I was having this conversation with a church bud & blog reader while loading a video. And they ask to include this question. Request Granted!

Patti Labelle ~vs~ Gladys Knight or Battle of the R&B/Soul Aunties for me is a decision of sound ~vs~ impact. Patti Labelle is good with the vocal acrobatics. When I was in the 8th grade, I did a research paper on her. I made a 98 (grammar errors). Her song, "You Are My Friend" makes my tear ducts leak. I played it a lot when Football Nerd passed away. But it's probably the only one that gives me feeling.

Then you look at the body of work for Gladys Knight. "You're Number One in My Book", "You Are the Best Thing That Ever Happened to Me" (In which Reverend James Cleveland & The Clark Sisters remade into a  Gospel song), and "Midnight Train to Georgia" speak to my life. My family probably would send a cyborg to the 1990s and clamp my teenage lips shut when "If I Were Your Woman" came on if they could. I just love that slick line,

If you had the strength

To walk out that door

My love would overrule my sense

And I'd call you back for more.

Gladys could have my man if she could that. And my love-lorn self loved it. Basically, I just connect more to her music. Oh and Gladys Knight is an alto like me. But hey at the end of the day, the fans win. Like we usually do.

This Post's Video Q & A

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Is Uncle Clifford Still Looking For a Cook at The Pynk?

*Spoiler Alert*
Playwrite Katori Hall created a nice gem for the small screen. I haven't reviewed a TV show after its first season in a long time. No show is exempt from ever getting the ax abruptly. So, I started to only review shows if they have a series finale. But P-Valley got me so hyped I just had to review its 1st season.  

If you are living under a rock without access to the Starz network, the show, P-Valley (based on a play named Pussy Valley) several people(including a non-binary owner, a daughter of an aspiring pastor, a real estate lawyer, an abuse victim, and a mysterious lady) who work at or around a popular but failing strip club in a small town in the Mississippi Delta called Chucalisa. I was a fan of the show after the 1st episode. And I think I should hand out some rewards and give my Season 2 suggestions to the creator & writers.

My Favorite Character:

Hailey Colton a*k*a Lakeisha Savage a*k*a Autumn Night a*k*a September October 

As a card-carrying member of this particular brigade, Stop Underestimating The Pretty Girls!!! Only one person heard what she said and that was Gidget. And I think she is scared her a little. Uncle Clifford & Andre didn't take her financial words seriously. Big L, Diamond, and Mercedes just thought she was doing the bare minimum in order to finesse. That mindset almost cost her. Mercedes does come around. Hopefully, the rest will. Because Pretty Girls Make the World Go Around!!!

Most Disliked:

3. Patrice Woodbine

2. Lil Murda

1. Mayor Tydell Ruffin 

I have one word to describe all three of them, Stereotypes. Patrice is a stereotype called Church Folks. Those are the misconstrued definitions of Christian. Lil Murda is the stereotype of trendy hip hop. Gold Grill, mumbled slanguage, and faking who he isn't and what he doesn't have is not hip hop. And the Mayor(I can't stand him the most. Hope he gets so upset about the casino deal, he has a heart attack and dies)is the stereotype of a flashy Southern politician that believes if you pull yourself up by your bootstraps you will succeed(or as I called them "bootstrappers").

Reason Why I Could Never be a Cougar:

LaMarques 

There is a difference between Lil Murda & him. He's immature. So immature that he didn't even know the dangers of living his truth. So, until LaMarques get a true knowledge of himself, Uncle Clifford & he will Never work. Maybe LaMarques will kill Lil Murda, one day. Then I will be a fan of them together. 

Most Shocking Storylines

Mercedes & Daquon a*k*a DJ Neva Scared

Episode 3 blew my hair up. Daquon is a high school student. I was hoping he was 18 and a senior. Nope, he's 15 years old.

The non-used mother hen in me started paying attention to that DJ Neva Scared doesn't see much passed the DJ booth. He's rarely seen in the office during payouts. Then we found out Mercedes is the birth mother of a pre-teen. Next season I need some backstory on the rapport between her, her child's father (who is deceased) & and his wife, who is the custodial parent to the daughter. Because right now, I see a sexual abuse/molestation situation that is trying to be normalized as adultery. Also, how did she lose custody of her daughter, Terricka?

My Favorite 'Ships:

Mercedes & Mane and Hailey & Andre

What? I like a nice hood love story. He likes her. She's attracted to him And they Respect one another's hustle. Now as for Andre & Hailey, I understand people realizing that they were with the wrong people and finding the right one. Even if it starts off very sketchy & scandalous. And I blame the casino deal for the sketchiness. And Andre, your wife saw the both of you.

Relationship That Made Me Proud:

Uncle Clifford, Big L, & Diamond

In a world where toxic masculinity runs rampant, it was refreshing to see a non-binary person have a healthy relationship with two heterosexual men. They don't mumble gay slurs under their breath. She doesn't push herself upon them in a flirtatious manner. It is a respectful boss-employee relationship.

Favorite Song on the Show Other Than the Theme:

*sigh* Blame my dislike of y'alls fave on Drunk Lauren for singing Fallin' to death in episode 5. And I'm not a major Trap Music fan. The tithe song Patrice sung in episode 1 was hilarious. It's definitely better than when preachers beg for the offering. But my favorite was Mount Everest by Labrinth that was playing at the end of episode 7. So much so I bought it from Amazon. And yes that mountain is not better than me at all. LoL Oh Profanity Warning!

Alright, let's talk about what I like to see in Season 2.

Again I want some backstory on how Mercedes became a mother.

More character development on Diamond and his attraction to Miss Mississippi & the character Gidget and she learning the truth about her romance.

A Battle of the Churches for the souls in sinful Chucalisa

I want a little exposition on Daquon a*k*a DJ Neva Scared. What does his schoolwork look like? How do his parents know Uncle Clifford?

Could there be local Delta Devoted gang members in Chucalisa? I am watching all rings & jewelry henceforth.

Can we get a Male Revue night? Corbin & Andre will need jobs after the first casino deal falls apart. An since they fail at their security jobs during Murda Night, Diamond & Big L owe Uncle Clifford for being distracted.

I want Uncle Clifford to learn financially from Autumn. I want The Pynk to prosper. I would hate for her to eff off the money that saved the club.

(Side Note: I will be diving into opinions about Mississippi aka Keyshawn and her abusive relationship in October. Blame your comments I see & hear.)

Well, let me as Uncle Clifford says, "pooch on" & gather recipes for Hailey & Uncle Clifford to try for when I interview for the cook position. I'm not pole ready, but still want to work at The Pynk. And I want them to enjoy everything they taste. If not, then I'll be the new life coach in Chucalisa. Lord knows the town needs one.

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Settling These Most Talked About Food Debates

We all Love our food opinions. I've said this before, but it bears to be repeated. I don't know if there is a week that I don't randomly hear or give a food opinion. Oh it is nothing for me to tell anybody

1. Mayonaise is a good condiment for sandwiches especially the ones with cheese on them.
2. I don't like Banana Pudding & Peach Cobbler.
3. I prefer box & stovetop mac & cheese over baked macaroni & cheese.
4. Sweet Tea is a glucose experiment. Put some lemons in that pitcher.
5. Ranch Dressing is Overrated. (I recently have ranch-flavored sunflower seeds. My taste buds want to windmill whoever created those.) 

And I stand firm on my statements. But they're not common. The common & most argued food opinions are the topics I laugh at sometimes. People really have continuing discussions on these. But I am here to settle them once and for all.

Exactly

Pancakes or Waffles Waffles & Little Smokies is my favorite breakfast. And that is how strong I feel about this pastry with syrup pockets. Now, I'm trying to remember the long time I had my favorite breakfast.

Coke vs Pepsi They are not alike. Coke is stronger. Pepsi is sweeter. I only like one flavor of Pepsi, Wild Cherry. But several flavors of Coke with my favorite being Vanilla. So, Coke it is. 

Dark vs White Meat Chicken I like white meat better because it isn't oily. If I must choose to eat dark meat, give me a leg and not a thigh.

Oh Probably a 4.5

Drums or Flats? One of the laughable food debates I see all the time. I prefer my wings whole. But if you ever want to gift me wing portions, give me drums with bleu cheese dipping sauce.

Oh let's talk Turkey...

Roasted, Smoked, or Deep Fried

In this order

1. Deep-Fried
2. Smoked
3. Roasted

What is the best flavor of Starburst? Pink, Red, Yellow, or Orange? Pink or Red

Does pineapple go on pizza? Nope! Stop ruing the ham & Canadian bacon.

Hot Dog...Sandwich? Yes! It is meat between two pieces of bread. That is a sandwich.

Corn or Flour Tortillas? There was a wise little lady that worked for Old El Paso who had the solution for soft vs hard. Both!!

Collard, Turnip, or Mustard Greens? *sigh* I prefer turnip or a Turnip-Mustard mix. I prefer the peppery taste over the bitter. Plus the only reason why collards are popular is because of the price comparison to the size of the leaf.

Salt or Sugar on Grits? I don't eat grits. I really don't like the taste of hominy. And guess what grits are made of...?

So, I let my social media followers decide. Though my family eats sugar, the majority of my Instagram & Twitter(a unanimous vote) voted for Salt. And I think that sugar vote was from my cousin. LoL

Mayonnaise or Mustard Potato Salad? I only know one restaurant that makes good mayonnaise potato salad and that's Baker's Ribs here in the DFW metroplex. So, that means I prefer mustard. Wait, have you guys mixed store-bought mustard & devil egg potato salads together. It's rather good.

Orange Juice Pulp or Pulp-Free? I am Team Pulp. Actually, I am probably the captain of that team. I want the glass version of an orange with a straw in it. Have you ever juiced oranges? So, freshly squeezed juice has pulp in it. Plus pulp helps regulates the blood sugar in the body.

There are other debates that I thought would be fun as memes. My answers are in each caption. 

Edge

So, what are your preferences? Answer in the comments below or on the social media site you see this on. I would like how wron... I mean how we may differ.

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Nice Inspirational Eye (Answering Questions)

Yeah, I have answers to your questions. Hopefully, my answers won't cause you to have more questions about those answers. And I think just confused myself.

Q: I love your eyes on photos at a recent graduation you attended. What products did you use?

A: Oh, this old look... LoL. Thank You! It's a simple drugstore(mostly) look from eyeshadow pencils. If you are new(ish), I use mostly pencils because I have a talc allergy. And guess what is in most eyeshadows.  I warmed my crease with NYX's Jumbo Pencil in Rust. Then used Wet n Wild's Color Icon Multistick in Burning Bridge & NYX's Jumbo Pencil in Strawberry Milk. Lastly, I lined my eyes with Marc Jacobs Highliner Gel Eye Crayon Eyeliner in Blaquer. Ooh, my Strawberry Milk is getting low. Time for a new one. Oh and don't forget to blend & blend.

This Post's Video Q & A

Don't forget, if you have any questions, email them to C.OUT.SPOKEN.DIVA@gmail.com or leave them the comment section below or on the social media site where you see this post. I will answer them.

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