A $75 Plate...It's Wedding Season

HERE is the story this post will be referencing. You're invited to the wedding & after you RSVP, the bride thanks you & then ask you to pay for your dinner at her wedding. Oh, dinner is $75 PER PLATE.

I have a few thoughts.

It is Tacky to ask anyone to pay for a meal After you have them RSVP. Maybe those involved in planning this event are ignorant of what an RSVP is for. It is tasteless to have people reserve a spot and not tell them there is a price tag after the fact. No matter the price tag, I would nicely tell the bride to cancel my RSVP because of that deception.

If people are paying, they are no longer Your Guest, they are Your Audience & their opinions & expectations will have to count. In my family, there is a saying that is said while planning weddings, "If You Ain't Paying, You Ain't Saying". I never complain about wedding food at the wedding.

Trust me sometimes the meal is hit or miss. I've even had a wedding cake that was not baked fully. But I didn't pay for it. But if I do...I might Boo loudly if the plate is not up to snuff.

At some point, we have to have what we want & want what we have. This couple saw the plate price & knew it was not in their budget. Let's tell the truth society has sold people on these dreams of these lush weddings that come at a hefty price. I wish people would buck society and be realistic. And if they have any guests with complaints or opinions about what is not at or done at their nuptials, they can borrow my family quote from point number 2.

Matter of fact that is how I will ease out of this post. Because nobody invited me & tell me how much for a plate. But do let this be a warning to anyone wanting to invite me to their future union of matrimony.

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Accept When I Decide to Accept Your Apology

This post is brought to you by an interview of a castmate of the show, Ready to Love, the Potomac season. There was an incident where a male castmate touched a part of a female castmate's body inappropriately (HERE is a clip). The guy left the show. Some leaked text messages came out and the guy has an interview with a vlogger to talk about his side of the incident. (Watch it HERE) IMO, had he had only a 25 - 30 minute chat, this post wouldn't be typed. But the guy kept talking and one of the things he said was that he apologized to the lady but she acted like it was not enough and continued to be very hurt.

The man's feelings about the woman's reaction to his apology are not uncommon, unfortunately.

I'll never understand why apologizers think Forgiveness is automatic. Find me the rule, statute, or ordinance that says one has to. There is a popular quote by Marianne Williamson that says "Unforgiveness is like drinking poison yourself and waiting for the other person to die". I agree wholeheartedly with this quote. But it is for people who are not forgiving at all. It's not saying for anyone who is or will do the recovery work on the road to forgiveness. And it does not shy away from the fact that some people will choose to die from the toxins of not forgiving people that wrong them. So, if a person gives a genuine & honest apology it is not on them to say how & when they're forgiven by another human. That onus is on the forgiver. But in my opinion, most times individuals that feel that one should forgive them & move past immediately, aren't truly regretful for their wrong actions. Sometimes forgiveness is a feat. There are some hurts that sting for a moment and the healing may take some time. Stop rushing folks along so that one can be let off the hook.

And I'm Not Sorry For Feeling This Way!!!

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She, A Melanated Magistrate Presevered

And was Confirmed to be Justice on the Supreme Court of the United States.

That's the Post! Oh, and I am Happy!!!

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Advisor (Answering Questions)

Ok first things first, I slipped up on the video. I forgot to say Greetings & Salutations at the beginning. So before any of you get in the comments, I Know. Ok! Time to give some advice.

Q: Hi I'm a graduating senior in high school. I've been accepted to 4 colleges and have selected the one I will be attending. I have not told my friends because they feel you don't have to go to college to be successful. How do I tell them I am going to school because what I want to do in life needs a degree? And can you not do this one on video, please?

A: First I would like to give you a Congratulations on your accomplishments. Very good job. As for how to tell your friend that you will be going to college, I will talk to you as if I were talking to a senior in high school version of myself.

1. Start believing this statement, "If I have to hide the real me to hang around them, these are not the people I need to hang with.

2. At least a month before you leave, you need to tell your friends your truth and stand in it and accept their reaction. They should understand that this is your life. If they don't, remember that you will meet new people in college.

3. And Stop Hiding The Real You.

Hope This Helps. And again Congratulations!!!

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Y'all knew I talk a lot. Straight answers should tell a questioner I'm not interested in answering.

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March is...

...Women's History Month and this one was an interested one. Well, at least in my eyes

A Black woman's honor was defended on live American television. In a world where after turning 5 years-old girls & women with melanated skin are thought to be not as innocent & gentle as other races of women. There is even researched data to state this. As for the whole context of who, why, & how her honor was defended, I will delve into it. I am just stating it was

The first Secretary of State, Madeleine Albright passed away during this time. The first time I voted was in 1996. I put Bill Clinton in office for the second time. He appointed Madame Albright in that office. I tell you guys all the time, I Pick Winners. And now I can publicly say, I Determine the Trajectory of History. LoL Seriously, Madeleine Albright, before, during, and after being in a high office, was a champion of women. Albright supported Hillary Clinton during her presidential campaign in 2016. While introducing Clinton at a campaign event Albright said, "There's a special place in hell for women who don't help each other". That was a rebuke of younger women who supported the primary rival, Senator Bernie Sanders. It was "startling and offensive" to her. Rest In Peace to Madeleine Albright.

As of the time of this post, who has watched the second season of Bridgerton? It's a decent season. I won't be providing any spoilers. But I do wonder if those in the show's camp put this season with this month in mind.  And even though the show has shown quite a few ladies living fully and it has literally narrated by the free opinionated Lady Whistledown, Episode 6 made me think it was. So many emotions, decisions, & situations women go through were expressed by every female character in that episode. There is a scene between Lady Bridgerton & Lady Danbury that was humanly real. I wanted to hug both of them. But they basically had to soothe themselves. Like we, women have to do, sometimes.

And let me talk about Ketanji Brown Jackson. President Joe Biden has nominated her to the Supreme Court. Her confirmation hearings before the Senate Judiciary Committee opened on March on the 21st. It was difficult to hear some of the committee members ask the judge questions.

Especially Ted Cruz mischaracterizing passages in two children's books "Antiracist Baby" by Ibram X. Kendi & "Stamped (For Kids): Racism, Antiracism, and You" by Jason Reynolds, Ibram X. Kendi, and adapted by Sonja Cherry-Paul to question her about her stance on the university graduated level teachings, Critical Race Theory. But Judge Brown Jackson answered & reacted to all questions & statements with intelligence, grace, & confidence. It's hard to watch people who don't even champion in their professional industries conduct an interview for a position on the Supreme Court of the United States. They don't even know the right questions to stump her. Well, it's all down to the vote. And I for one do not want to just be grateful to be nominated. I want Judge Ketanji Brown Jackson in the highest court in the land to interpret the laws. Ohh April...

Well, as March marches past us, I will remember the events that made me feel like being a Woman was more enjoyable than usual. The events that make me feel like I'm not beloved just because of my biological makeup. My mind & heart gets some love too. Especially since they are running the show.

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Ooh Ahh the Villian's Hall Pass (Answering Questions)

Answers need Questions. If not, it is Who Asked You content. But you asked so I...

Q: I saw your answer under this post on IG and I agree with it. I think they are Overrated. But why did you pick Boyz II Men?

A: I feel like I am the Only warm-blooded American that stopped listening to the radio because they play the same 5 folks and songs all the time. And Boyz II Men is probably the main catalyst for me to turn the knob in the Off direction. Pop & R&B music media ran their melodic crooning into the ground to me. The only song I will listen to without any visceral disdain is "Ooh Ahh" from their 1st album. And because All of their tunes are going, I will have to bid it adieu, also.

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I have a feeling Muh Diva will hear about this one. LoL That's why I brought up the topic in conversation with her weeks ago. 

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Talk About It Tuesday (It's Private)

2022 Me still approves of the actions of 2004 Me.

If I Have to Tell You to "Shut Up", I Don't Want You There. 

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