The Weight of the Ring

I don't talk a lot about my job. I own a small company in the food & diet sector. If you are a reader, you've probably have figured out its name. And yes, there are a few days a year where I put my head down and wonder about my career choices. I think we all have them. Mine usually come after days worth of clients coming in unprepared or I discover a female client wants my help so that her fiance´will propose.

The latter baffles me from no end. Starting year one with my first referred client, I seem to attract ladies who do this. I'm not one to say I've never changed for a man I was seeing. I mean I have a whole POST about doing it. But I still worry about women who feel like if they were slimmer, their SO will propose. I really worry about women who have heard their finances say they will propose to them if they lose weight.

Usually, I choose my money over opinion. I'm plus size in the food & diet world. I'm unmarried. My clients don't pay me to give them advice on their personal lives. But recently, I chose opinion over money. My client's boyfriend came with her to an appointment. The meeting was going well until he said, "Keep working with Ms. *my bio last* and I bet you'll look nice enough for a ring." Before I knew it, I ask him what was he working on for her to accept a ring from him.

He chuckled. She didn't and continued with her questions for me. They left and I put my head down to think. "Should I have said that"? "I bet you'll mind your business next time". "Well, let me re-calculate the budget". Yes when I put my head down, my mind wanders far. Well, I gambled and got to keep my money. The client is still my client and comes prepared. And is she is still dating the guy? I don't know. That didn't come up in her last assessment.

Wishful Me wants the boyfriend to change his mindset about love & body shame. I definitely want my client to change her mindset on self-worth. Changing how one thinks is less painful than heartbreak. But if a break up brings about healthier behavior, heartbreak it is. Healthy minds do influence healthy bodies. And crazy enough, sometimes it's not just your body. But that's my hopeful thought.

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