Ghosting! It's Interesting, Isn't It?

I read a major cultural publication refer to it as a millennial phenomenon and that gave birth to this post. I might be a Gen Xer that agrees with Baby Boomers that Millenials have done weird things to brunch. But I am the first to say their need to give names to everything is great. Ghosting, the practice of ending a personal relationship by abruptly and without explanation withdrawing from all contact is not a new action. Even though most times ghosting is in reference to the dating world, this word could be used in other places in life. Technically, for example, an absentee parent ghosted their family or a business partner can ghost with the money. Disagree with me in the comments. We can discuss other ways people ghost in life there. I'll leave this post to dating relationship & promise not to make other styles of ghosting post. I Promise!!!

Yes, I've ghosted men and been ghosted by men. I'm not bragging about being a ghost a time or two, because I know my ghosting was an immature way to show my frustration in a dating rapport. If I am not being heard and feel won't be heard, instead of saying that and leave, I cut off all communications. I'm doing better. Y'all pray for me as I continue. And when I disappeared, I stayed gone. It's the ghost hunter types I left that eventually track me down via mutual people or places in our lives. Those guys were genuinely concerned about my well being and my heart melted into learning to talk before I leave. Oh, staying is still not the goal, well maybe once. And I'm still single.

And yes, being ghosted is a crappy & confusing feeling. I can call & text only up to a week, for me to catch the clue. I prefer closure and even with being ghosted I figure out how to move on and close doors. Yet, it's my luck that my "ghost" always want to come back to haunt. They somehow snatch open the doors I did the emotional work to shut and say "Boo" by apologizing & wanting to catch up. I've never had a guy who ghosted on me to stay gone. That annoyed me. But I guess you never know you are truly healed until you fully face the problem. And any person who ghosts is a problem.

I am chuckling! Of course, me ghosting a guy & me being ghosted by a guy would have different outcomes. Outcomes are just as different as the reasons and excuses we have for ghosting. But ghosting actually needs to be ghosted. We all need to be adults and communicate, so we can work things out or break up. Lots of feelings and hearts wouldn't get bruised and much time could be saved.

As Always Talking to You In Adult Terms!