How to Bust Your Lover

This probably should've been titled "A Lady-like Influence". But that didn't sound as interesting. Oh well, listen & read anyway.

My favorite in the jazz music genre, Nancy Wilson passed away recently. I grew up listening to her music. As I got older, her music gave me a blueprint on how to handle love like a lady. Because face it I grew up being a good girl not always successfully relating to the dating world. And for 75% of my love life, I've acted like a lady. No matter how the dating rules change, I handle romantic rapports with as much regal decorum as possible.

But it's that 25% where life's stories get interesting. I've only had to do the breaking up in one of my committed relationships. Most of them mutually ended or somebody was ghosted. So, I just knew I would handle it like the song featured, "Guess Who I Saw Today" by Ms. Nancy Wilson. It's one of the songs she gained her notoriety with and it's one of my favorites. I "studied" the lyrics as a teenager. Well one morning in my mid-20s, my then boyfriend's infidelity evidence was in my possession. If you know me or a long time reader, I've never snooped on a lover yet the needed reasons to break up are always provided to me. I called him and he didn't answer. When he did, I started out mild.

Him: Hey Baby Girl.

Me: Baby Girl is Dead.

Him: Do What?

Me: I have something for you to hear.

The rest of the straight to the point story is obvious. My sister said briefly she heard me say, "It's over you bastard" from two aisles over. *sigh* I was not supposed to get loud on the phone in the grocery store. But I had to end his foolishness right then. Hey, it was not my fault. He should have answered the phone when I was calm.

Don't Confront Your Lover Like Outspoken_Diva. Bust Your Lover Like Nancy Wilson.

Maybe the next time a situation that calls for some Nancy Wilson wisdom, I will remember my studies. Like if I ever have to fight another woman for a man. I want to remember the lyrics to "You Can Have Him" and not fight. Or if somebody asks to quantify my love for my man, I need to say,

"My love has no beginning, my love has no end

No front or back and my love won't bend"

from her song, "How Glad I Am".

I have to hold onto my studies because Ms. Nancy Wilson, "There Will Never Be Another You". You were the song stylist we needed to keep balance to life and love. Rest Well, Lady.

As Always Talking to You in Adult Terms