First, let me talk about some observations I noticed for this time of the year. Went to happy hour recently and there were tickets to a "Bitter Ball" on the table in our booth for Friday, February 9, 2019. I guess they are trying to help hook folks up by the 14th. My friends and I shook our heads, snarkily chuckled and said, "Nobody is going to that". The next day, I saw Galentine's Day cards while shopping. And there is February 15th that is declared by some as Single Awareness Day. Now, many complain that Valentine's Day is a commercialized holiday created by greeting card companies. *sigh* Looks like the money-oriented are trying to hone in on the singles also this time of the year.
No matter which day you celebrate or who celebrate with it, it won't truly feel good unless you have Self-Love. Yep, it is time for my yearly post about it. And apparently with something called a Bitter Ball popping up, somebody needs it. And as long as I see an obvious need, I will post about it.
Are you "clichèing" or defining Love?
Y'all know I love a good quote. But many folks are misused or half-heartily ruling too many lives.
Nothing like someone saying "If you can't handle me at my worst, you don't deserve me at my best", to justify their crappy unloving BS. I bet if Worst & Best were defined and the whole quote was actually used, something in our lives can be identified.
Have you ever define yourself as Love.
Love is patient and kind; love does not envy or boast; it is not arrogant or rude. It does not insist on its own way; it is not irritable or resentful; it does not rejoice at wrongdoing, but rejoices with the truth. Love bears all things, believes all things, hopes all things, endures all things.
I listed a definition of Love that is provided in the Bible. There are also some very good non-Christian definitions out there, this is the one I like. Personalize it with replacing Love with your Name(and it). Then write it down in a prayer journal or a piece of paper taped to your bathroom mirror to remind yourself, You are Love.
What unloving habits could you work on?
When you feel down in the dumps what unhealthy thing do you turn to? Drink too drinks that aren't water. Soullessly eating snacks & desserts while looking at the TV and social media. Call someone up just to gossip & backbite.
Try doing the opposite. Write about positive things in a journal. Turn on some music videos on Youtube and dance. Nobody is watching, so let loose. And replace one soda, glass of wine, shot of liquor, or whatever and drink a cup of water. Those are baby steps, but imagine taking those steps day by day.
Yes, it is work. So is making a playlist to sit and blubber with every weekend. So is making an online dating profile that has one picture of you and four snarky dating memes. So is watching & listening to "desirable in the looks department" personalities talk about a generalized love day after day. But we do it. So, why not put in some other kind of self-love work?
As Always Talking to You in Adult Terms.
Nothing like someone saying "If you can't handle me at my worst, you don't deserve me at my best", to justify their crappy unloving BS. I bet if Worst & Best were defined and the whole quote was actually used, something in our lives can be identified.
Try doing the opposite. Write about positive things in a journal. Turn on some music videos on Youtube and dance. Nobody is watching, so let loose. And replace one soda, glass of wine, shot of liquor, or whatever and drink a cup of water. Those are baby steps, but imagine taking those steps day by day.
No comments:
Post a Comment