He, She, & B

I see this picture of these three adult-age people  I frown. That is B. Smith. She is a former restaurateur, model, author, and television host. I enjoyed her show, B. Smith With Style when it was on the air. 

Also in the picture is her husband Dan Gasby and his girlfriend, Alex Lerner. Yes say, "Oh" but don't shrug it off. B. Smith has Alzheimer's disease and has no clue what is going on. And her husband has become defensive about having a live-in girlfriend while taking care of his wife. HERE is one of the articles about him, the girlfriend & B. 

There is one key point that I don't see in any of the stories where Dan & B had a prior discussion that having a live-in girlfriend is okay.

I wonder that not because Gasby needed permission, but because what if B. has a lucid moment one day. That does happen. There is also Terminal Lucidity where some people with mental decline have mental clarity and memory shortly before death. I'd rather not have to explain that situation but hug and savor the clear moments that we have.

"I love my wife but I can’t let her take away my life!" Dan Gasby wrote on Facebook.

I know Dan Gasby was probably lonely. I understand. I came back home to help my mother with my late grandfather and brother & ailing grandmother, years ago. Being a caregiver can be very isolating. It is a life few understand.

So, I understand him having a friend to talk to and having some free time away from his current life. But a live-in just seems disrespectful. I think Dan Gasby feels some guilt. If he didn't, he wouldn't be defensive. He would've revealed Ms. Alex Lerner and went on to live life. His Facebook statement might as well say, "It breaks my heart my wife doesn't recognize me, but a man has needs".

Maybe not the case. But he put the "story" out. Have a feeling a little discretion would help him.

*sigh*

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