Travel, A Dating Requirement

Here are some Travel Facts about Outspoken_Diva.

• My "Bucket List" travel destination is Australia. I want to see the Rabbit-Proof Fence & go to Sydney. Blame the movies, Crocodile Dundee & Rabbit-Proof Fence for my curiosity.
• I'm not a fan of beaches. And my feelings about taking a cruise are minimal. Beaches are just big sunny, dirt parks, in my opinion. And until somebody shows me they went somewhere other than the beach when the ship docks, the big boat life is not for me.
• I like to see landmarks, museums, and eat where the locals eat when I travel. I enjoy seeing & experience what the area is "known" culturally.

I don't get to leisurely travel every year, but I like making attempts to achieve my traveling wants. I used to think all adults had travel dreams & goals. In 2019, I met two potential suitors that changed that thought. One had never been on an airplane and had no desire ever to get on one. One was willing to travel, but when I asked him about where would he like to go. He was "just willing to travel". After him, I quietly added "Must have & want to fulfill Travel Goals & Desires" to the Dating Requirements. I don't want to be involved with a man who is weirded out (his words) about planes & not one that I am making travel decisions for.

Then I saw this post on a social media travel group, I follow. WoW! I've heard a couple of different podcasters lightly touch on this topic. There are people that feel like you should not buy popular sneakers and get a passport, instead. Some people feel like that is a bougie or snooty mindset.

Some could think they're better than. But the question that looms for me is, are we even having respectful travel discussions in our dating lives at all? Are we just discussing what we would like to do based on our past experiences and judge others or sticking our proverbial noses in the air for not wanting what we want? Can we have mature discussions about travel without sticking our proverbial noses in the air?

I would hate to hear any guy I'm digging to tell me my travel ideas aren't enough. Maybe they're enough for me. Maybe his ideas are just not my style.  Also, I don't want anyone to change or "raise the standard of" the places you would like to see if that is not your truest desire. That seems like that should be common sense, but have you ever heard a couple argue out of town and you hear, "I didn't want to come here anyway" in the end. It's eye-opening to hear.

If you want to take Greyhound everywhere, don't let me stop you. Do you want to travel throughout your home country before you venture to foreign lands? Go ahead! Just got a third passport because you filled the last page of the second one? Get your stamps & venture forth.  Travel shouldn't be a subject anyone judges anyone on. 52% of adults reported having unused vacation days at the end of the year in 2017. Looks like judging is the last thing, we need to do. Listening & learning from others would be a better use of that time. Relax & find somebody you can travel with by using a kind heart & mind.

As Always Talking to You in Adult Terms!