But Not in Love With Love Jones

I never have been. I won't call it trash, but it is overrated, to say the least. Don't get me wrong it is a beautiful visual. But Love Jones is not the boy meets girl feel-good story for me. I have felt that way since I watched it 20 plus years ago. I remember watching it alone on premium cable the summer after it premiered. I was home taking summer classes at the community college downtown. I was in a sweet, budding relationship. And even wore my hair the ways Nia Long wore her hair in the movie. I was a flipped hair & side part under fanatic. I don't know why I used the word, Was. Lol But I still remember feeling like I Never wanted a Love Jones type of love. 

And for years, I kept my assessment of this beloved movie to myself.

Within the past year, I heard others in my Xennial (Late Gen Xers & Early Millenials) age peer group say that they feel the same way. I felt like I finally found my tribe. So, before I wrote this post I decided to watch Love Jones with 40+ eyes. Because I think the last time I fully watched the movie was maybe 8 years ago. I knew I felt like:

• Darius Stalked Nina.
• Nina was messy.
• Hollywood broke Friendship Code & was not chin-checked hard enough.
• Matter of fact, why was Hollywood ever in the friend group? What did he bring to the table?
• So, no one thought a married Savon hung out with the homies a little too much.
• A black woman choosing love in the rain over her hair getting rain-drenched is soul-crushing.
• Shelia was the wisest person of them all.

My opinion still holds up!!!

I wish people would tell the truth. Fans of Love Jones only call this movie a classic in the Black Community, because of the cast and soundtrack. Oh, the soundtrack is great. The acting is good also. And though my thighs still need blues in the left & funk in the right, the story itself is not relationship goals folks should want, in my opinion. The only lessons I always take away from this movie are:

• When you meet someone and they use timing & complicated in the reason they are unavailable to date, Believe Them.
• Pay attention to the advice coming from your friend circle.
• Learn to detach your heart from your sex organs if it's going to be just a "sex thing".
• Poetry is a creative but not sustainable way to effectively communicate.

So, do you like the movie, Love Jones? How do you truly feel about it? Let's chat about it in the comments below or on the social media platform you see this on.

As Always Talking to You in Adult Terms!!!