Shoutout to Foundation church for being warm & Outspoken_Diva-defined normal, recently. Just a bunch of acceptable "Who", "Child...", a confused "How are You", "Hey...", lots hugs & chuckles. *nice sigh*❤ Let's call them the inspirational backbone for this post.
Reunion Season is upon us. I avoid the people of my past a lot. It's not that I am so hurt, contrary to popular beliefs. I'm just not a fan of that particular social norm. I like pure interactions, not "Let Us Hang-Out & Catch-Up Because Traditions Say We Should". It's Weird!
I wasn't raised with structured Family reunions. We gather when we gather. And I know the family I know and I am good with that. School reunions since the 10-year high school one get a No. Thanks to social media, I'll see them at the 50th. I see church past at weddings, funerals(service, not the repast), and random public run-ins while shopping or visiting others.
I'm horrible at keeping up with the past. And when I know I have to be around the past I worry about
- Greetings
- Reminiscing
- Keeping Up in the Future
I know look the same, but others do not. And I loathe & cringe at, "You act like you don't know me", because if I say, "I don't", I'm the a-hole. Believe me, people can be harsh when you don't remember them.
What is wrong with honestly not remembering? What's wrong with knowing maybe you changed physically? What's wrong with a good old, "Hey! How are you?" Is the art of the greeting dead? Can it be revived?
- Hi!
- Hey!
- How are you?
- How are things (with you)?
- It’s good to see you.
Let's work on those. And if the person is honestly confused say, "Oh, you don't remember me. I'm *insert your identity*" with some understanding & decency. Stop being rude! That's uncalled for. Remember each human brain is different and not wired the same. Charge to their heads and not their hearts.
As Always Talking to You in Adult Terms!
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