NY Times's Popeyes to Marriage

Actually, it might be KFC to Marriage. And that's not the most interesting thing about THIS story. Go read it and come back. Because I Feel Like Y'all Need to Know What I See.

*sigh* Girl Finally Met Boy in Popeye's parking lot with some KFC and married him a little over 2 years.

When I see stories where my basic standards for relationships wouldn't be met, I am learning to ignore them. The keyword is Learning. Because I want this story to delve deeper. Even though it is based in Boston, this story needs the People of New York treatment. Because I see a plot hole. Mr. Boyce's feelings & plans seem hushed after the date.

-"...month after their first date, in late June 2020, he asked her to be his girlfriend. She agreed, but not before asking him to make it known that he was, as she put it, “off the market.”... “She said, I’m going to need you to move in six months,” Mr. Boyce said. “I was like, What are you talking about? I barely know you. Six months later, I was moved in.”

I am happy she gave him a requirement to be his girlfriend. She could've easily become one of his ladies. But what I need to understand is what made him trust her plan. I'm not saying since he was the man he should be making The Plan. But this does look like he had no plan and went along with what was already laid out.

"By then, the two were also engaged. Mr. Boyce proposed that December, while they were visiting Barbados for the holidays. His friend and colleague... thought that the trip would be the perfect moment for a proposal, so much so that, on his own, he bought an engagement ring for the couple"

So again, who wanted the couple to be engaged? The Friend or Mr. Boyce? The article makes us assume there were conversations between the two buddies. But with such an important step in a couple's life, it is vital that this stage wasn't happening because a colleague thought it would be cute.

"...Mr. Boyce and Ms. Wade moved into a home that they built together..., completing the first step of the shared vision through which they first connected."

Shared Vision? 

I hope the entire best for this couple. Especially better than how they are depicted in this quick article to me. Because I read he's 44, she 34. He first dates 6 women at once, and canceled on her twice with their first date was in Popeye’s parking lot where they ate some KFC because the line was long. At her urgency, six months later, he moved into her place and his pal bought the engagement ring. And they now are married & share a home that was visioned. *sigh* I would hate to see what is not seen said really not be said. 

As Always, Talking to You in Adult Terms!