Love Provides Air Conditioning

These questions are for my fellow BBWs & BMHs. Do you see a decline in date offers in the Spring & Summer? Have you gotten more "Hey Big Head" texts once the temperature drops?

This post has been a long time coming. The subject matter has baffled me for years. But recently during a work commute on the DART light rail, I overheard two younger-than-me ladies talking & this post had been birthed.
Right: Girl, F--- him. Bet he'll be in your face when it gets cold.
Left: By Big Girl season, I'll be busy. I ain't gon' want his a--.

All I could do was shake my heard & think, Is Big Girl/Boy Boy Season Real? I hope not. Please be a bad generalization based on their lives. But I see the memes & the tweets. Somebody believes in this.

I've known I live parts of life blessed, for a while. I've never been told, "You're Pretty For a Fat Girl". But I can not negate that many others in the community have been told that. Also, I've never dated a guy who verbally claims to have never dated a big girl before me. Either the dates plus size women exclusively or didn't have a type & dated across the weight board. So, I've never dealt with those backhanded compliments & situations. So, Big Girl & Big Boy season could exist and I legitly could never experience it. God, Life, Fate or whatever you believe in knows I won't handle that mess well.

If it does, Make It Stop!!! Fat Folks aren't the dating world's bed warmers. Get yourself another blanket, if that's the case. If one's attraction is not 365 days of a year, one is not attracted. And don't use sweat as an excuse. Love Provides Air Conditioning. Like has an oscillation fan. Lust at least a ceiling fan. And decency offers people a glass of ice water.

Big Girl & Big Boy season is backhanded. Fat folks don't have to get what they get when they get it. Eff That!!! Every Season is The Season to date a BBW or a BHM. Now run fetch me that glass of ice water, while I chill with the air conditioner, oscillation & ceiling fans running. I'm That Kind of Pretty Hawt And Tempting Lady.

*wink*

As Always Talking to You in Adult Terms

Stop Sniggling!!!

I was couponing and watching my nephew play with his remote control cars, Saturday morning when this post topic really settled in my spirit. It was born Friday night at the Ladies Choice Concert. My sister & I were waiting for Jagged Edge, Dru Hill, & Avant to hit the stage and watching people fill in their seats. Two fellow BBWs came and sat beside me. The seats at the Music Hall are not hip friendly. What theater seats are? I gather myself in my seat, making sure the lady had room to be her seat. The lady beside me eases herself in her seat.

About 5 minutes later, she starts sniggling (snicker + giggle) to her friend. "These seats are a trip". For another few minutes, she is sniggling so hard and so much she is shaking me. Ok, a few more minutes, I leaned forward to take an annoyed selfie. Then I quietly said to my sister with a straight face, "She's going to have to stop sniggling". And like that the sniggling stopped. A few moments later, she & her friend got up, went to talk to the usher and never came back. They didn't point in my direction so, it had be the seats. *shrug* The two seats beside me were empty for the rest of the night. Hey, gave me room to do dance a little. 🎶Beauty is Her Name🎶 LoL

We All Are in This Thing Called Life, Together. We have to work as unit, many times. Many times it is uncomfortable. Your reaction to your discomfort can help or hurt the unit. Sometimes we need to check if our response shaking others trying to work through the situation, unnecessarily. Again, we are all in this together!!!

I do hope the ladies found comfort somewhere, somehow. They said it was a packed house. Other than their seats, it looked pretty packed to me. It was really good. Dru Hill, alone did a 45 minute show. It even included some Sisqo music. I hope they didn't decided to separate themselves and went home. I'll Make You This Promise that it was a good show. And I, OUTSPOKEN_DIVA, Never Made a Promise, That I Can't Keep. Might as well chuckle at my corniness. Now, you can sniggle!!!

As Always Talking to You in Adult Terms