Blind Dates/Matchmaking Process (Not Interested in Dating)

It's cuffing season. How do I know? My singleness is bothering the desperate to in relationship, the kinda really want to be in a relationship, & all the matchmakers in my life. I shouldn't say bother. May I say, they really want me to be in a relationship. Some feel like Everybody should be in a relationship. Some feel like they're tired of being single so, somehow I should be too. But yeah, I have like more than a handful of people right now wanting to set me up on dates. I even had a friend to offer to write an online dating profile for me. I know their hearts are in the right place but their thought processes are very wonky.

Matchmaking & blind dating is a grey area. I've been there, got the T-shirt, and could pen a few novel loosely based on my experiences. Let me tell you guys something that I've never actually said. Though I have participated and still won't totally reject participating in dating based on the matchmaking process, I am Very weirded out by it.

When people want to "hook me up" with a guy, I never understand their motives. Especially, when the guy & I have never seen or met one another. I understand if he saw me and thought I was cute or vice versa. I understand if I mention more than 3x's a months that I really want to date. 3xs a month is a sign of wanting be in a relationship, in my opinion. Even when I in my moment of wanting to go on a date, I know I don't mention that more than 3xs a month. Matchmaking people just because what one thinks could be good for them, in weird to me. Again I know their hearts are in the right place. But it is hard to not wonder why do people feel like you can't find like, lust or love if you wanted to on your own. It's hard not to think that people think you don't know how to pick a possible companion for yourself. It's hard to ask them why do they think I need to be booed up. It's hard for me not to think people actually think I am so dogface, fat, mean, Christianity-based, educated, whatever that I will never date again without their help. It is very hard for me not to ask them, Why are you trying to hook me up.

I'm not saying I've never hooked anyone up.

But I've only played matchmaker when someone was interesting in someone else I knew or was really wanted to be in a relationship. I'm pretty oblivious to other people's romantic loneliness. That's something people have to say for me to pay attention to. Just this time last year, I found a good guy for a buddy of mine (who was really wanting to be in a relationship). They both were professionals, well read, liked traveling and had seen to have similar interest in religion, music, & comic books. I even found out they ran in the same circles and may have know one another. I told my buddy about the guy, my buddy looked the person up and was not interested. I backed off. and I don't revisit the idea.

I guess that might be my problem. I really want to many of these matchmakers in my life to back off. Most of them have failed already and don't even realize it.

I have a mental list of those who are Not allowed to hook me up on a blind date Some won't get a chance again. Some will never get a chance because of their thought of the types of guys they think I would like (based on their limited knowledge of guys I've dated (Only 1 of my friends knows all the guys I've dated in my Adult life). Some will not get a chance just for sheer annoyance of always wanting me to date. I've even decided to Never tell some of these people when I decide to get back on the market or that I am ever romantically lonely. Yeah, it's that bad.

So, blind dates are not high on the list of my dating pool of guys.  Now, if  you know dude is trying to holla, that's different. Pass the info and move on. I got it from there.

Matchmakers, don't come for me until I call for you. I love you! I truly do. But until then, stop trying to make me a match.

Always, Talking to You in Adult Terms