FYI: Never Text a Confession (or Any Major Life Changing Info) to Me

Okay anyone I have an offline relationship with know I am not a Major fan of text messaging. I do it because everyone else does it. I’m more of a pick up the phone and talk person. I believe I am a dying breed. *smile* Today I read an article about Michael Sam and his father says he was told by his son “I’m Gay” via text message. The article is Here . I was appalled. Why was a “dead beat” father drug up to be interviewed? That was messy. But more in importantly, why did the son Text his father? If he going to Tell his father His Truth, why didn’t he call his father and open his mouth and tell his father. He opened his mouth to tell the world, he could open his mouth and tell his father. (Now I say this presuming that this text is the truth. The article was one sided. If the father is lying, I’ll recant my rant about Michael Sam texting something important).

Yes, I have had my share of people text me “Life Changing” events. I had an ex officially stop dating me via text. Oh he introduced the idea to me with his mouth but the actually “I just want to be Friends” came in a text. Friend we are and he Knows not to tell me anything like that via text (I used to give him hell. Thank God for true forgiveness).

I also had a former best friend tell me she was gay via text. That text message is a why she and I have not talked since. Not the content of the text message but the fact that she texted me. She could have told me. She ended a conversation with me just to text me she was gay. That was low to me. She was one of the people I cried to when the afore mentioned ex broke up with me via text. So she knew how I felt about that. I guess my feelings didn’t matter in the end. My heart ached for a while because of that. It probably still has a tender point in it because of it. She will have to speak first (But because of other things she has done/not done since then, its best I don’t speak. What I will choose to say will make the devil tell me I’m wrong (Still working forgiveness there)). No, I will not text her response. That would be something wouldn’t it.

Texting important stuff is cowardice to me. In my opinion, when one text confessions, admission, & breakups, they are to chicken to tell the information. This is not a casual “Hey, It’s Hump Day” moment. This is “Life Changing” material. And if one thinks “Life Changing” stuff should be told in an “Oh Yeah” manner, then apparently one feels the text recipient’s feelings should be in a casual manner. That is how it was sent. Text messages show no feeling, emotion or mood. LoL’s & Emoji’s mean nothing. I have sent some mean spirited text and to soften the blow sent a smiley face. But was I really trying to soften it??? You know the answer. I can “dry text” with the best of them Oh emails and social media is not a way to tell me anything either. So don’t get cute. Open your mouth and tell me if it is important for me to know about. I want feeling behind the statement. Let me hear your emotions because trust me you will hear mine.

As Always, Talking to You in Adult Terms