I'll say this first, Experience & Observation are great teachers. There are times I feel like throwing in the towel and never picking it back up on dating. I know some of the rules have changed, but I am not convinced that the respect, honor, & common courtesy rules have. And I refuse to engage with any man that are not following them. And there are time that it seems like I seem to be the only one not willing to engage with the disrespectful. Now, days they call them F-word Boys. Oh but the past couple of weeks FBF subliminally came in and said "You are Not Alone". It felt good to see in this "Snap Chat Me the Puh" dating culture, I am not the only one offended.
I saw this meme and almost screamed. I refuse to have a Text Only relationship. Words have intentions. I am a talker and a listener. I am very sensitive to voice inflections. You can hear emotions in the voice. You can't read emotions. You can't read all intentions. That's why I am not a big fan on dating & texting. In his book, "Act Like Lady, Think Like A Man", Steve Harvey confirmed something I already knew. Some people hide behind text messaging.
A guy text "Are you busy, tonight". Now if dude is a player, he sent that to you and few others and he is waiting on who is available first. Now if Mr Player had called and you weren't available, you can usually hear it in his voice. He pretty much going to say "Oh ok" or "A'ight then" and get off the phone so they can find someone else to hang with. A man who wanted to hang out with you and only you acts differently. Some may ask what are you doing. Some may even talk you out of what you had planned. Well, at least that is my experience. Texting also misses Emotions. "I love You" doesn't feel the same texted like it does when you hear it. Oooh, especially the 1st one. And what if he/she did mean to text you. Apologizing & Taking that back will be hard as heck. Oh and there's another set of people that hide behind text. Perverts & idiots love to text.
A guy can't flash his penis in public to some chick he thinks is hot without the major chance of going to jail. But for some odd reason text messaging made several feel like sending unsolicited picture of their genitals is cool. Also, some will ask numerous intimate question upon the first greeting. Before texting existed I only heard "When you going to let me F-word" from thugs/thug adjacent & a low key pimps over the phone. Now, I had some of the most intelligent men text that, also. People hide via text. Communicate me via the phone or video chat. I have Google+. We can Hangout. LoL
Speaking of Social Media. Get out of my DMs. DMs are getting out of hand. Oh DMs is Direct Message. On Facebook, I would say, "Get out my Inbox". I don't date via Social Media. Let, me rephrase that. I don't date via Social Media where my name is OUTSPOKEN_DIVA. So, that includes all of them I have an account with but Facebook. My FBF are people I have at least met face to face once. So, if an interested man who is a FBF contacted me via my inbox, maybe allowed. But if you only know me as OUTSPOKEN_DIVA, don't ask me for my number.
Can we meet at a public event first? Let's meet at a local Comic Con event. Let's meet at an Empire watch party at a local theater. More than likely, I will be with a group of people & you will too. We can just greet one another and chit chat for the moment. Offline land is where I prefer to meet men. Hiding decreases in Offline land. Trust me, I am not as cool as my live tweet make me. LoL But you know that. So, find out what else I am about publicly outside of the internet before I let you into my personal world. Social Media is for socializing. Dating is not the only way to be social in my world.
Yep, you guessed it. I was on my way to the world of dating sites & apps. If I could get the users of dating sites to just be honest. Which "dating sites" are actually "hook-up sites"? I am convinced that free sites are hook up sites & paid ones are true dating sites. matter of fact, you will be helping me a lot if you let me know in the comment below. Oh and Thank You in Advance.
I've dated online before. I met my worse & one of my best boyfriends ever online. I've also wasted a lot of my time with online dating because I didn't know that the culture of the site. I was on Zoosk years ago. It was free then. That site was eye opening. Then I found out it known to be a "hook up" site and I closed my account quickly. I think Tinder is leaning that way. I know a lady who shared screen shots of an experience with a vulgar creep. I was offended for her. Oh and did she she tell him off? My Gosh, Yes, she did. But I should've known with an app that lets people first determine compatibility with swiping left or right to show like or dislike. I guess tinder knows dating's top surface is shallow as heck.
So yeah, I am maneuvering with technology and my dating life. Again I refuse to date the disrespectful. If that leaves me dateless, so be it. And my fellow ladies in the dating game, Stop indulging dudes' "Snap Chat Me the Puh" requests. If he wants to see it, he'll come over to see it. Stop letting folks take the easy way out. They get used to the standardless and don't know how to engage with us with standards of some kind.
As Always, Talking to You in Adult Terms
