The Fat Girls Are Easy Rant

I have to give a slow clap to the internet. I didn't see as many insulting fat girl are easy pictures & memes as I thought I would. Most of them were repetitive. And hopefully more won't pop up. I know wishful thinking.

Cuffing Season is here. And there are these dudes are looking for warmth. My fellow plus size, fat, & big sisters, Watch Out. There are some guys out there who will only date us just to cuddle up once it get colder out. Yeah, it is "our season" to Netflix & Chill constantly. 

No, it should not be. Men like this are a part a culture that one of my favorite bloggers, CeCe Olisa calls Closeted Chubby Chasers. You can read about them HERE. And I agree with CeCe, we must stop this behavior by not being available for this type of behavior.

But we know where some of this behavior stems from. Many people believe that Fat Girls are Easy. Big Girls are so Desperate & Lonely that anybody can have sex with us.

Plus Size women are Not Discriminating in whom they let bed them. The self esteem of these women is so low that anything go with them.

Whoever started that myth need to be punched & kicked along with the people who believe it. There is even a slang term for going after fat chick to bang called Hogging. I can't make THIS up. Oh yeah, while the world was appalled at no N-words in SAE, there was plus size coed brought to a party just because so some jerk could score with her for being her size.

If anyone ask me (and they never do) the belief that fat people are weak individuals will live longer than racism & feminism. And because there are not many big people having healthy relationship seen in the pop culture media it is quite easy for the jokes & negative beliefs to slide into being a norm.

I've never subscribed into the notion, of course. I'm not saying I've never had low self esteem but I don't think I ever been with any man that only wanted me as his fat notch on his belt. But if there was one, I pray to God he never confesses. I'm flunking that test because I'm going in on his piggy butt. I like to think I have discernment for these type of people. Plus, I've never deemed myself as that hard up and I've been fat all my life. But I know it is sometimes hard. Compliments & flattery feels good. It should feel good to everyone. But liking flattery should make anyone think you are willing to give up the cookie to continue to feel good. 

Yet, masses believe in a desexualized version of this culture of people. Blaming the victims is easier than to tell the aggressors that they are wrong. That's why we have to believe we are not this dumb stereotype. I'll rather a man to get upset and tell me I am stuck up and call me all kinds of vulgarities than to allow myself to let him make me into a statistical myth. Let me see, I'm female and me rule us. I'm Christian and church girls are freaks. I'm single so, I'm lonely. And Fat girls are easy. Oh wait, I'm a black woman. I have an attitude. That's what keeps my legs closed. 

Wrong!!! Stop the Foolishness and Grow Up!!!

As Always, Talking to You in Adult Terms

Baking with Yogurt (Healthier Soul Food)

A few years ago I read a study that said,
One cup of whole milk has as much saturated fat as 5 strips of bacon.
One cup of 2% milk has as much saturated fat as 3 strips of bacon.
One cup of 1% milk has as much saturated fat as 1 and 1/2 strips of bacon.

I had already switched to 2% milk by then. Now, I drink or put 1% milk on my cereal. I only use 2% for special holiday baking. I use non-fat plain yogurt for my daily baking uses, now. This idea came from a family friend suggesting I put sour cream in a failed pan of cornbread and a brand name yogurt commercial came to mind.

One cup of Sour Cream has 26g of saturated fat of its 45g of total fat content.

One cup of Low-Fat Yogurt has 2g of saturated fat of its 4g of total fat content.

Combine those with the fat grams on butter or oil was still too high for me. 

One cup of NonFat Yogurt has 0.2g of saturated fat of its 0.7g of total fat content.

So, it was a better choice for lowering the fat content in the baked goods in my home.

The first thing I tested on was Sweet Potato Pie. I loved making and eating this pie but it is very heavy. Once I learned how to switch the milk for yogurt it became a hit in my home.

Low Fat Sweet Potato Pie (Recipe found on Diet Solutions Facebook Page)

Ingredients

• 3 sweet potatoes

• 1/2 cup unsalted butter, softened

• 1 Tbsps vanilla extract

• 2 1/2 cups sugar

• 2 Tbsps pumpkin pie spice

• 4 eggs, beaten

• 1/4 cup water

• 1/2 cup plain nonfat yogurt 

• 2 (9 inches) unbaked 9-inch pie crusts

Directions

1. Wash and dry sweet potatoes. Put on baking pan unwrapped. Bake at 350 ° for about 1 hour and 45 minutes or until potatoes feel soft. Remove from oven, cool and peel. Keep oven at 350 °

2. In a large bowl, combine sweet potatoes, butter, sugar, vanilla and spice mix. In a small bowl, whisk together the eggs, water, and yogurt and blend into the sweet potato mixture.

3. Pour into pie shells and bake in preheated oven for 60 minutes, or until done.

Cornbread is an item on my "Burned Out" list for me but eaten in my home weekly. My 1st time using yogurt in cornbread is a blessed result of me praying that it came out ok. If you mess up cornbread in my Texan, southern, black home, your feelings will be hurt. I thank God for those results. Now, my household does not want it made any other way. Recently, I ran out of yogurt and used canned milk and they noticed. 

Yogurt Cornbread (Recipe Idea came from Taste of Home)

Ingredients:

• 1 cup yellow or white cornmeal

• 1/4 cup all-purpose flour

• 2 tsp baking powder

• 1/4 teaspoon baking soda

• 1 egg, lightly beaten

• 1 cup (8 ounces) fat-free plain yogurt

• 1/2 cup water

• 2 Tbsp. canola oil

• 2 tsp sugar

Directions:

1. In a large bowl, combine the first four ingredients.

2. In another bowl, combine the egg, yogurt, water, oil, and sugar. 

3. Stir into dry ingredients just until moistened. 

4. Pour into an 8-in. square baking dish coated with cooking spray. 

5. Bake at 425° for 16-20 minutes or until a toothpick comes out clean.

Easier Yogurt Cornbread (Recipe is my own recipe)

Ingredients:

• 1 (8 1/2 ounce) box corn muffin mix

• 1 egg 

• 1/3 cup yogurt

• 3/8 cup (6 Tbsp.) water

Directions:

1. Mix all ingredients well. 

2. Use either cupcake paper cups or a greased pan. 

3. Bake at 400 ° or according to box instructions for 20-30 minute

Whenever I attend a Soul Food theme luncheon or dinner I hope somebody brought either some vanilla ice cream with the cobbler or a pound cake. If not I opt out of eating dessert. So, this one is for the pound cake makers that understand that everyone does Not eat Banana Pudding or Peach Cobbler. Oh yeah, I don't like Banana Pudding or Peach Cobbler. LoL

Yogurt Pound Cake (Recipe from Cooks.com)

Ingredients:  

• 3/4 cup butter, softened

• 2 1/4 cup sugar

• 3 eggs

• 2 1/4 cup all-purpose flour

• 1/8 tsp. baking soda

• 3/4 cup plain nonfat yogurt

• 1 tsp. vanilla flavoring

• 1/4 tsp. almond extract

• 1/4 tsp. lemon extract

Directions:

1. Cream butter; gradually add sugar, beating well at medium speed of an electric mixer.

2. Add eggs, gradually; after each 1/4 cup addition, beat well. 

3. Combine flour and soda; add to creamed mixture alternately with yogurt, beginning and ending with flour mixture. Mix until well blended.

4. Stir in flavorings.

5. Pour batter into greased and floured 10" Bundt cake pan. 

6. Bake at 325 degrees for 1 hour and 5 minutes or until a toothpick inserted in center comes out clean. 

7. Cool in pan 10 minutes, remove from pan; allow to cool completely on a wire rack.

I also use non-fat yogurt in other dishes like nacho dips and mashed potatoes. Same taste as sour cream with less of the fat. Valentine's Day is coming up. Add a little non-fat yogurt in place of your regular dairy products in your baked goods. Give your sweetie's something to help them be here a little longer to love you for it. *wink*

As Always, Talking to You in Adult Terms