Beards

Who watches the show Let's Stay Together on BET? I do! I do! It's a fun show about a couples & family love. I love it. One of the storyline involves a college student who is in a paid relationship with a closeted gay professional athlete. Yes, she is a Beard. That what pop culture has decided to call a straight woman in a known relationship with a closeted gay man. It is to keep up a heterosexual appearance in public. Some are paid. Some are not. All are "helping" out a guy in a "lurch". Well now there is a hitch in this relationship, she's met someone. He knows she dating the athlete but he doesn't know he's gay. Also, the athlete does not want her dating other men. She needs to focus on her education that he is paying for or he will sue for breach of contract.

This is why I could never be a beard. I accept a man honesty to me because there are gay men in relationships with women and the women don't know. My issue with being a beard is squelching my desire to be with a man that wants me. I guess I have never been broke enough that the money and things my gay boyfriend pays that could block my true self, a heterosexual woman. If I was a beard, it's my luck my "perfect" man would come alone. I couldn't let being a beard block that blessing. A man who is not romantically involved with me could not dictate that I could not date another man who is. Now somebody just said "Maybe the datable guy would be okay with it". I don't want to date a man who is "okay" with that arrangement. I want a man who wants me and not some convoluted mess of a relationship I packing with me. I want a man who would think high enough of himself to be a "side piece". I want a man that would be bother with me, as a Beard.

So if you're going to be a beard look over the contract. Think about it with your whole heart.If it is something you agree to fully. Even though I could be a Beard, Could you?

As Always, Talking to You in Adult Terms