In Love, I'm Bilingual

I'm always trying to understand & better myself. For some time I heard a few folks talk about Love Languages. There are 5 of them.

• receiving gifts
• quality time
• words of affirmation
• acts of service
• physical touch

Of course, I wanted to know about mine. The obvious thought from others was words of affirmation. That's easy. I talk in quotes. That's what I do. But something felt like it was missing. So, I decided to study them for myself.

Here is a Tid Bit About Me: Books that make me re-examine my life & its choices sometimes cause me to put it down for a moment. I started The 5 Love Languages Singles Edition: The Secret that Will Revolutionize Your Relationships by Gary Chapman months ago. 1/2 of the first 20% was making me look at me deeply. I had to sit with what I read and ponder a bit. But after I took it all in I found out I am Bilingual in Love. My Love Languages are Quality Time and Words of Affirmation.

My mother worked a lot while I was growing up. Sometimes she even brought work home. But on weekends & her vacation days, my siblings and I spent the best quality time with her. We didn't get things all the time, but I am very rich in social & vacation experiences with her.

Now in my adult life, I see myself putting a value on my quality time. Living life gets very busy. It is why I prefer phone calls over text messages. It is why I check on people when I can. Do you know I have never required a gift to attend a birthday event of mine? Showing up & having a good time is the best thing. Now if you want to pay for brunch, drinks, dinner, or an outing, I won't hit your hand. Gifts are nice. But I love spending quality time when I can with those I love & like.

So, I'm not actually shocked that Quality Time is as equal as Words of Affirmation. The quality time is when I get to speak & receive those words of affirmation. Oh, do I recommend the 5 Love Language books by Gary Chapman? I sure do.

But whether you read it or not, let's hang out a little and encourage one another.

As Always Talking to You In Adult Terms.