Darla Neugebauer!!!

Okay if you are not caught up go read THIS and then come back.

*tuh*

In my opinion, that diner owner should not be sorry. I am ever in Maine, I will be stopping into her diner. After 15 minutes, I would've yelled at the parents. I'm sorry but children do not learn how to behave in public if you allow them to go crazy. If they don't feel well, stay home. That is Not fair to others trying to eat, shop, ect in peace.

Three things I Hate, Yes Hate for children to do in Restaurants, Planes & Stores.
1.Irate Screaming
2. Running Around
3. Kneeling in a chair 

I'm not saying that children should not be allowed to dine at restaurants. I just think they should not be allowed to run a muck in public.  I'm not saying you should vigilante smack any & all unruly children. That is going to far. I actually don't talk to the children of strangers. After I survey the situation (The child might have special needs or the child is screaming because the parent disciplined them, in which I understand & say nothing) I speak to the parent(s). Recently in a Big Box store, two children kept running in front of everyone's carts causing a ruckus. Finally I turned to the parents or adults they were with and said, "This is how your kids are going to get knocked the heck out off. They are running in front of everyone causing problems." I walked off not worrying about their reactions. I just know those little girls were not running around anymore. 

And this is not a race or culture issue. In my black family, I have a younger cousin who kneeled everywhere she ate. One family event, I made her sit on her bottom and I never said it again. Even my nephew has to be told to stand where I can see him from time to time in the store. So before someone say that it's that race or that race let stop you, Every Race of Children acts up in public from time to time. It is up to the Adults to help them to behave properly.

That is one of the reasons why I am Not a parent. Parenting, in my opinion is the raising the next generation to be viable citizens of the world. That is a daunting task. And letting a child scream for almost an hour at a restaurant is not leading her to be a good inhabitant. Ignoring cries also says those parents are selfish people also. They were not being fair to the other diners or the owner. The diner owner didn't curse at the child. She didn't even put them out. *slow clap" to Darla Neugebauer. Yes, it is easier when somebody else does it. But you did it and I respect you for it. 

As Always, Talking to You in Adult Terms

The Inappropriate Use of Baby Mama & Baby Daddy (I Blame Pop Culture)

Can someone explain to me why everyone with a child is now a baby mama or a baby daddy? I don't understand how a negative term started describing all the bad & good parents.

I feel like pop culture doesn't know know the origins and characteristics of the terms.

Baby Daddy is the trifling biological father of a woman's child. One who is has never married or been in a long-term, intimate relationship with the child's mother This man does very little for the welfare of the child(ren)

Baby Mama is an irresponsible mother who has not married her child's father, She very neglectful to their children. Some even use the child as pawn to be in the man's life.

Baby Daddy Characteristics

• He makes All The Petty decisions (Made sure the kids have name brand clothes), But leaves The Hard Ones for the mom (Go to Parent/Teacher Conferences)
• Has to be told or remind to do his fatherly duties
• He pays child support and not a penny more. 
• He says the statements, "At least, I take care of my kids" "Hey, I'm trying to do right by y'all" or "I'm doing stuff most guys ain't doing"

Baby Mama Characteristics:

• Child Support pays for her name brand clothes & hair but the kids yet clean are dress in second hand clothes
• Has drama or get upset with the new/actual girlfriend, new/actual wife, father's family & father's friends
• She says, "I'm gonna always be around. I have his child".

Please note these of limited to traditional gender roles. These characteristics can reverse genders, also.
These are also not the same people as Deadbeat Parents. Though thought to be similar, deadbeats do nothing for their children. Some act as though they do not have any children. Baby Daddies & Mamas do at least the bare minimum required to raise a child.

And if you follow U.S. tabloid media, the terms baby mama and baby daddy have even begun to be applied to married and engaged celebrities. I remember when Kanye West & Kim Kardashian were interchangeably called those terms before they were married. Yet, they were in a relationship.  Maybe it is for the popular gains. There is a show on ABC Family about a guy who is raising his child (result of a one night stand) that was left at his door. What is the name of this show?
Maybe because so little worth is thought of single parents that even famous celebrities don't even think much of themselves. I still cringe at this song by R&B singer Fantasia.

Here is a woman raising her child the best she can and she still refers herself as a Baby Mama. Refers to this song as an anthem. Well, I am a non-parent so, I won't feel the need to sing it at all.

A Term people used to describe the negative acting mothers or fathers of illegitimate children, is now in general use to describe any single parent, Are these terms so tainted that pop culture does not understand? Maybe because it is a easy to say term and if paired with our microwave, impatient culture, it just became a term easier to call these people,

• Mother of the/my Child
• Father of the/my Child
• Boyfriend
• Girlfriend
• Fiance'
• Ex Wife
• Ex Husband
• Widow
• Widower

even if they are positive behaving people raising children.

Even the sanctity of marriage does not save one being called these terms. Oh trust me, I have even heard a married cousin refer to his wife as his baby mama. I also know for a few ex-wives to refer to their ex-husbands as baby daddies.

I know it's just me. And I will be the lone person not using the terms Baby Daddy or Baby Mama unless it is to speak of a single parent engaging in negative behavior while raising their children. A responsible single mother & father are respectable people with children. They are just not married for whatever reason. Works a job (or few) to make sure that the bills are paid and the children are taken care of. They don't care about the new people in the other parent's life and are polite (at least until the girlfriend or boyfriend or spouse becomes disrespectful). They support the children and their needs. They don't cause unnecessary problems. They let the other parent see the kids (if the other parent are responsible) They are just out there trying to do the right thing by the children and that is the most important thing. Single Mothers & Fathers goes to their kids' schools to really find out about how they are doing and not to cause ruckus or problems by trying to fight the teacher. They interact with their kids frequently whether they do or don't live in the home. Just like married parents. Actually is it amazing how some married parents have characteristics like the original definition of baby daddies & baby mamas. Interesting!

Images like this

will Never be acceptable to me. They need to hold signs that say Parents or Mama & Daddy. 

As Always, Talking to You in Adult Terms