What Can You Learn From the Friend Zone?

The Friend Zone! For those who have never understood it a dictionary says, "it is a situation in which a friendship exists between two people, one of whom has an unreciprocated romantic or sexual interest in the other". Many of the population have sent people to that place. Many people have been in the "friend zone".

The interesting part is, few people grow from there. So many are stuck in the image of being in a relationship, they miss the lessons while being there. Being "fat", "too much of a good girl", "nerdy", "not being seen in their forever", and the latest reason, "celibate", I used my time there learning some things.

• Your time, space, feelings, ect are yours.

You don't have to set aside special any thing for a person who isn't intetested in you back. I don't like playing around the edge of romantic rapport while I'm in the friend zone. They want to be friends, I treat them as friends.

• You can give your "representative" a rest.

Let's tell the truth in the beginnings of dating, we send our representative to test the "getting to know you" waters. It's a human condition, I think "dating rules" subconsciously taught. Those rules are followed here. In the friend zone, your representative is not needed. You guys are not dating, so you show the real you, all you.

• You see the true person sooner.

People who send others to the friend zone show their realness, also. Amazing what you see when a person shows you who they really are. Ever realize that the person you were interested is not that interesting after all. Well, in the friend zone, you get to see them without hurting your time, space, & feelings dates resulting in this revelation. And you get to be yourself when you "see" them.

Yes, the lessons come full circle.

These lesson have helped me send guys to the friend zone with some understanding.

If I send him to the friend zone, I keep everything as platonic as if they sent me there. I don't flirt. I pay for myself if we go out, unless he said his treat. Even then, I make sure it's my treat, next time. Why give any inkling I want them, if I don't?

Oh, I haven't even touched the biggest lesson from the Friend Zone.

• You don't have to stay in the Friend Zone

You can take a person's not interested status, remain cordial and move on with life. It makes a cute romantic story. But We are not Steve Urkel wearing Laura Winslow down. I know the heart & loins want what the heart & loins want. I just want us to talk to our brains and make sure being in the Friend Zone make sense to it. Unrequited interested, like, love, lust is still, Unrequited. 

As Always Talking to You in Adult Terms