I Know I Need to Blog But...

I am Not in the darn mood. The climate of the country I call home is unreal right now. It's not new but right now it is overwhelming.

I'm tired of being "Woke". I'm so "Woke" right now that I want to cry myself to "Sleep". I really wish I could detach from it all and live in a bubble. But only a coward would actually do that. But heck my nosiness would would "Wake" me back up. So, No Worries, I Stay Woke!!!

But it is hard to blog about what I want to share. Yet, I will share it despite up. Somebody might need my a post just to think about something else. And I said on FaceBook, The world will never stop while you live your life

Rest in Peace to Alton Sterling & Philando Castile.I lift up prayers for your families. I don't understand how selling CDs or having a busted tail light could escalate to your death. But I (We ) have to trust "It Will All Come Out in the Wash". Or as the elderly church lady in my mind is saying, "We'll Understand It Better By & By"

 As Always, Talking to You in Adult Terms

Halloween Is Coming, Let's Talk

Probably telling my age, now
LoL

I like Halloween. I have happy great Halloween memories. Even the year I had the flu in the 1st grade, I had some fun.  My mom still let me wear my Care Bear (I was Tender Heart) costume in the house all day. I just had to wear my mask on the back of my head so I could breathe. So, Halloween is good.

But,  we need to talk about some of the bothersome parts of this holiday. First up, slutty costumes. Well, not all slutty outfits. I mean if your costume is of a slut then, it has to be slutty. I have issue with slutty versions of children's cartoons and toys.

Like sexy Big Bird seems very perverse. Who watches Sesame Street and thinks about sex? I feel like that about all sexy versions of kids stuff. In my opinion, they should be banned. Apparently, I am not the only person. Buzzfeed feels the same way. I had never heard of a sexy Charlie Brown until I saw this video. He is so right, Charlie is a bald depressed little boy. What is Sexy about a Bald Depressed Little Boy? Or at least if the consumer stop buying this stuff, the makers will stop making them. And I not saying an adult dressing like a child's cartoon is perverse.

These Minnie Mouse costumes are tasteful and very sassy. But only wearing some panty style shorts and a bandeau bra in the colors of the characters is not classy or cool.

If I see offenders about blackface this year, I will cry. I don't how many time it has to be said to get it through the skulls of those that want to do it. DON'T DRESS IN BLACKFACE!!!

This year I am not buying into not knowing any better. If I see it done I am deeming the offenders Racists from this day forward. That will go for celebrity and non-celebrities alike. It is okay for anyone to dress like someone of another race and not change their racial skin tone.

Ellen and Miley Cyrus have done it. Oh, I know Lil' Kim and Nicki Minaj may not be what you want to dress up as, let's use Olivia Pope as an example.

Here is an example on how to dress up as Olivia Pope without the use of blackface. Many different models dressed as Livvie as their race. 

Oh and black people, I didn't forget about you. Don't Dress In Whiteface. Don't let Nick Cannon and Snoop make you be offensive also.

Hollywood is not paying you for that role so, go as that character with black skin. 

Yeah, my sister's kids always have the good stuff.

However you are celebrating this holiday, let it be classy, intolerant, safe & fun. If you have a couple of Pixy Stix, can you send them my way. They're my favorite and I'm not passing those. LoL I have no clue what is going to be passed out & I'm not in charge of door snacks this year. I'm preparing dinner, Candy Corn Quesadillas (Recipe found HERE) & Salad.

Happy Halloween!!!

As Always, Talking to You in Adult Terms

Overly Conscious Black Men (Not Interested in Dating)

I am a Christian Black Woman that has an Associate's & a Bachelor's degree. I speak grammatical English. and live in the inner city aka "Da Hood. I also wear my hair relaxed. But if you listen to the all mighty Hotep brothers, I am a disgrace to the black race. Well, guess what My Brotha? I will Never apologize for being me. Never!!!

I recently had to unfriend someone I knew from elementary school on Facebook because of his Overly Conscious views. (This post is not about him. Being overly conscious was Not the only reason why I would date him. And he wasn't checking for me either) My mouse stays on the block button when they pop up in my followers' lists on Twitter & Instagram.
I've always said I grew up All-Black until I was in middle school. So, there are a lot of Black facts and thoughts I've known about for years. There are many things I read and have read that some people are just now reading. I understand that. I was afforded that (and others) opportunity in life and some others were not. But when these people who get a little knowledge and decide to bash everybody with it, I don't understand that. I remember when I chose to go to a state university and not an HBCU, a childhood friend was appalled. So I asked her what was the oldest secular organization in the United States. She was stumped and she left me alone So, the mindset is not foreign to me but it is very annoying.

I am Very Annoyed with these men who feel like the definition of being black is a monolith and you are not this definition the White man has fooled you. Around social media, some people call these men, Hotep N-words. Here is the definition from Urban Dictionary.

A Hotep N-words is a black person who knows nothing about black history outside of Ancient Egypt. Hotep N-words will attribute anything and everything to Egypt while ignoring the rest of Africa and the far east. The majority of Hotep Niggas have no sincere interest in black history as they are only looking for an alternative to monotheistic religion.

Hotep N-words will also end every sentence with Hotep.

hotep N-words: Christ was a fictional character created by the white man to enslave you! Hotep!

Hebrew Israelite: According to Roman Historian Flavius Josephus, Christ was "a man of simple appearance, mature age, DARK SKIN, small stature, three cubits high, hunchbacked with a long face, long nose, and meeting eyebrows, so that they who see him might be affrighted, with scanty hair with a parting in the middle of his head, after the manner of the Nazarites, and with an undeveloped beard."

He existed and was black man.

hotep n-word: Lies! that's the white mans book. white man! white man! white man! Ma'at! Hotep!

Urban Dictionary is a great starter definition. Oh but these men do so much more. I used to ignore them Then the day I saw them call Black Feminists or "Womanists" white man bed wenches or agents to take the Black man down I knew then my tolerance for their BS was over. I want you to search for the "#YouOKSis campaign. The opposition is cringe-worthy.

 Oh Lord, every Sunday the Black Christian church gets attacked by these men almost as bad as the KKK & all the other racist folks that set off bombs, set fire & shoot in them. Just like lumping all black people in one category, putting all churches, Black churches in one group is unfair also, Oh yeah, I don't worship the image that pop culture tells me is Jesus. In the world of these men, if you don't think like them or let them teach you their ways, then you are a waste of melanin-rich skin. They are so Negative!!!

I will Never date these guys. I want a man of any race that can accept that we All with our different races, religions, creeds, sexualities, and Lives deserve to live here. I don't want a man that is so Negative about everything that is Not their definition of Blackness. There are enough negativity and racist smoke screens manufactured by pop culture and stereotypes that it is not needed by someone who looks like us. I thought I didn't want to date an Uncle Tom growing up. I was ready for the fake Black power brother that secretly dates white girls. Oh and black men who think they have arrived once they finally get them a white girl, you still make me frown. Well, add the Overly Conscious to my list. I want a Racially proud man that still cares about other humans. That's all!!!

As Always, Talking to You in Adult Terms

Oh Let’s Talk Reverse Racism

I saw a funny status of an FBF let’s call that person on the blog, “AlVee” and I had to agree.

“I'm giggling and wondering if Nick Cannon is doing reverse racism, is black face called forward racism and is same race racism called neutral racism? Lol.... smh”

Still Love that one AlVee!!!

If you are a FBF or follow me on Twitter you already know my stance. Reverse Racism is No Racism and since there is Racism, Reverse Racism does not exist. I felt this blog need to so that maybe, Maybe Pop Culture won’t embrace this ignorant mess and have all you hardcore fan of what is popular saying it.

If a person of one race says or does something offensive to a person of another race because they are they are that race is Racism. It doesn’t matter what race of the offender. It is Racist!!! I know my reader are smart but maybe they passed it to someone who still don’t get it. White person says something offensive to Non-White person because they are Non-White person is Racism. Non-White person says something offensive to White person because they are White is Racism. Non-White person says something offensive to Another Non-White person because they are Another Non-White person is Racism. Get it, Got it Good!!!

Now I do break Racism down into two groups. I call the groups Intentional Racism

 and Unintentional Racism.

Both are wrong but both exist. Intentional Racism is being purposefully malicious and hurtful to another race. It’s taught and inherent. It can be fixed but only if the perpetrator wants to be helped. It’s what people think of when the word comes up. Now Unintentional Racism is a little trickier. It is caused most times by lack of knowledge. Now once taught better unintentional racism will be erased by stopping that behavior or becoming intentional.  I mean wants you know better… I watch a few web videos on how better ourselves on not being Unintentional Racist. Here are some of them (Sorry to those of Hispanic & Middle Eastern decent. As soon as I see one I will update you. And if you know of some put them in the comment section below)

Try This Instead

Ask an Asian Guy

Ask a Black Guy

Ask a Jewish Guy

Ask a White Guy

Okay I know you want to know my opinion about the Blackface/Whiteface issue (and if you didn’t I’m telling you anyway) It’s Racist. Wikipedia does a great job defining them Here and Here. Too dress up as another race to perpetuate a myth or stereotype is racist.

Julianne Hough dressing up as a black character on the show “Orange is the New Black” was wrong once colored herself darker. She could have stopped at the outfit & hair and people would have known who she was. Had she not taken it too far she would have been fine. Nick Cannon as "Connor Smallnut" is wrong also.

Good Marketing, ok whatever, it’s still racist. The name and the stereotypical hashtags of #GoodCredit #DogKissing #BeerPong #FarmersMarkets #FistPumping #CreamCheeseEating #RacialDraft made it racist. And you can tell him I said it (like he give a care). Now everyone like to pull out their memory Robert Downey Jr. in “Tropic Thunder” and Eddie Murphy in “Coming to America” for argument to say these actors are not racist. The arguments are hogwash to me.

Robert Downey Jr. character was a white man thinking it was okay for white people to play black folks in movies in ridiculous makeup. If anything the role was making fun of those who think that behavior is kosher. Eddie Murphy was perpetuating what stereotype? That’s what I thought. He was just playing an old white man. How was he being offensive? Uh Huh! Uh Huh!

Before you argue…Think!!!

So I hope you take away 1) Revere Racism Does Not Exist!!! 2) Let’s All Stop Racism. It exist because of us.

As Always, Talking to You in Adult Terms

Big Brother Pride

Okay if you "know" me offline & are a Facebook friend or "know" or "don't know" offline & follow me on Twitter, you know I am a fan of the show Big Brother. I think is the Ultimate mind screw of a game. I didn't start watching until Season 6. My mother watched it so I decided to join her and I like it. I haven't missed a year since. This year I have to say I am very proud of the show this season.

First, I am proud that they finally put an OutSpoken_Diva approved Eye Candy. His name is Howard. I have not had an Eye Candy in the house since Marvin of Season 5. He is very handsome, has a nice smile and has great muscles. Oh and he has a well worned Bible. Since Season 5 until now Season 15, I've just had watch the game for the game. So this season Big Brother did well. Howard is playing a good game so far. He's floating but some of the houseguests this season are so thick headed, it easy for him to float. According to the spoilers, I think he will strike soon.

Okay that is the fun reason to be proud of Big Brother. My second reason is not so jovial. Big Brother is not absent of controversy. I know the reason why the cooking utensils are hard plastic is because a houseguest in season 2 tried to attack another with a kitchen knife. This season racism and homophobia is some what rampant. It's just the beginning weeks of the game. They just eliminated the first houseguest out the house Wednesday. Two house guests have been heard making fun of a Chinese-American houseguest and a Black Houseguest looks. They've said that the two Black houseguest will stick together. One said to the other that the Chinese-American houseguest should "shut and go make a bowl of rice". The other one asked her racist buddy did she want a manicure in a stereotypical Asian accent.  One of the racist has also made homophobic remarks referring the only known gay houseguest. She called him a "queer". Another guy made gay slurs around the gay houseguest, while joking with him. So I think that will not be deemed as homophobic to some. The Online media has had a field day writing articles about what is heard on the feeds. The two houseguest that made the derogatory comments have been fired from their jobs. The house guest who made homophobic remarks to the gay houseguest, job has spoken out against what was said but id fire him. A former houseguest, who is also gay, wrote CBS an open letter about his disgust with the comments and not edit said comments out of the show and show America who these people really are. CBS & Big Brother did just that.  They aired the two houseguest lowly saying their horrible remarks. One of the houseguest they don't see hearing them, is the Black houseguest named, Howard. On the taped show we see him in the Diary Room giving his opinion about what he heard. He is upset and had thoughts of acting accordingly but he knew he said he would lay low and let them shoot themselves in the foot. Looks like he's been ready that well worned Bible of his by acting rationally in the game. I have strange feeling if Howard becomes HOH and they are still in the house, he will put them up on the block for just that very reason.

Big Brother knows how to make a Diva happy. I was already upset because Big Brother After Dark was moved from Showtime 2 (a channel I have) to TVGN (a channel I don't have) before the season started. Proper Eye Candy and showing houseguest for who they really are is a good thing. It is one thing to give a statement about not standing by what is said in the house. Embarrassing them around the country is another. Oh well, people are going to learn. It doesn't pay to be hateful.

As Always, Talking to You in Adult Terms

Alright Paula Deen

Let me take my proverbial sigh, *sigh* because it's been three days and you all are running the "Racism According Paula Deen" into the ground. The media and the gossip hounds have taken off with this story. If you have been under rock, let me explain. Paula Deen and he brother Bubba is being sued by a former worker for harassment. Well in the lawsuit deposition Deen admitted to saying the N-word earlier in life and wanting to plan a "Plantation Style" wedding.

I am not taking up for Paula Deen at all. I am not saying Paula Deen is racist. I am also not shocked.  Okay I got "my nots" out the way. I live in the South. Anyone born and raised before 1960 in the South, no matter race, gender, creed, religion and sexuality, I Automatically expect to say or do anything Racist, Sexist, Elitist, or Derogatory in public and private. As wrong as it is, it happens. There is a lady that works at the Walmart I shop at and she rolls the word Colored off her tongue like it is water. She has to be 80-plus in age. And her co-workers of all races just look at her like and roll their eyes. My grandmother can't understand why we are still not called Colored. She refuses to say Black or African-American. I have worked with quite a few 50 year old black women who call white people "Crackers" when they get mad. Oh and you know it's not Mexican, it's Mexcan. Oh and them Mexcans can't drive.  I know many elderly men that refer to women as gals and have to get told off religiously for some sly and vulgar remark that was made.

It's not right but it happens. Paula Deen exists all over the South. I would give my last dollar away and say she lives all over the country. Paula Deen's comments were blown up because she is Famous. Yes, I understand Food Network severing ties with her. On top of the Diabetes controversy, it has become too much for the network to deal it. Its sad how something said in a lawsuit deposition could make news like this. Who even knew that she was being sued, until now? Well we all know now. There is no telling what else will come out before the end of it. At the end of it all, bet Your last Dollar, OutSpoken_Diva will be sick of it all.

As Always, Talking to You in Adult Terms