What to Wear Under There?

What happened to wearing a slip and stockings? I feel many times I am one of the few ladies that still wears both, especially under the age of 50.

Most adults in America dress how they want to dress. I mean unless an adult is mentally challenged and can't make that decision or in an abusive relationship with restrictive rights most of us pick what we put on our bodies.

I really wish ladies would choose to wear slips again. Invariably, I get the question "Can you see through this" from some thin dress or unlined suit wearer. If the same person asks me that twice, I'll ask "Why don't you wear a slip". The excuses are the same "I get hot", "I've not worn slip since my mom made me", and my favorite "That's to many clothes to put on". I even had college pals that saw me in my slip and asked me why was wearing a teddy under my dress. They had never seen or worn a slip. The saddest part is it is becoming more and more difficult to find them In-stores, in-catalogs and online.

Also a few of the few stores that carry slips have the nerve to charge an outrageous price for them. I've seen a slip cost $45. That was nothing but the greedy devil doing that but with fewer ladies wearing slips I understand. *sigh*

Now stocking and pantyhose are not as a rarity as slips. Many still wear stockings. Beyonce wears them on stage. Broadway dancers wear them. Drag queens wear them to keep a good tuck tucked away. I can't put my foot in any dress shoe including my dress sandals with out a stocking, a knee high or a trouser sock. My feet sweat and slide up and down my shoes and get blisters with out them. I tried once at a childhood pal's wedding. I made sure I sprayed my foot spray on and had a fresh insole in my 2-1/2 inch sandal. One hour my feet were miserable in some shoes I wore in comfort with stocking. The straps kept sliding out. The insole was soaked by the end of the night. Never again have I done that again. And don't think others should too.

I see dance floors full of ladies who need on stockings. I wonder what do they think caused their blisters and corns. Why their feet hurts while doing the Zydeco Bounce? It's improper foot care & foot wear. A stocking would help some of that. They ever have the kind with the toe cut off so you can see your pedicure. No excuses!!!

Oh well, I'll continue to be a soldier in a army of the few that still wear slips and stockings. Maybe when the tides turn I'll be a General in that army. A general without my underwear showing and in dry shoe insoles. 8D Won't you join me?

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Life Decision about TV

While waiting for my next client, I was looking at The View (love that show) and one of the actors of The Walking Dead was on the couch as a guest and I found out what this popular show is about. Then it hit me being Scripted & Reality TV show everyone and every interest is represented somewhere on TV. In my opinion, if a person wants to watch TV and can't find anything of interest on TV, they're not looking hard enough or don't want to really watch TV
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It is no secret to the offline world, I watch an obscene amount of TV. I've tried to put it in hours and get embarrassed. I even have the TV on when I read and I read a least 3-4 books a month
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As I sit here doing this blog I am being reminded of the first show that identified me, the show Daria. I was a dry wit sarcastic nerd of a teenager and I dreaded talking to "stupid" people and couldn't wait to go to college where I belonged. Daria was proof it wasn't just me out there feeling like that. Since then I found myself in other TV characters. There was Joan of the show Girlfriends. The trusty advisor to her friends whose life is just a neurotic as theirs. I can name every one of my friends as a character on Girlfriends. The ill-fated show Emily Owens screamed at me every Tuesday. I am going to miss this show. Woman becomes a doctor, vying the opportunity to assist a renown doctor. She knows she's awkward, accepted it, & made it work for her and people thinks she's cool. Then her high school nemesis walks in and she has not changed. Now balance all of that. I'm good until somebody from my foundation church visits my current church and sees me and wants to talk to me and whoever is around me. I see someone from the "hood" at a restaurant or the mall, I say silent prayers like Emily Owens. Friend Request on Facebook it all makes me feel like Emily Owens. I'm gonna miss that show Emily Owens (Gone to Soon).

Those are just some. I don't think I watch anything that does not reflect me or my interests somewhere. TV is more than just entertainment, it is a reflection of life. Look at what you watch. What does a show say about you?

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Dating Game Rant

Just got off the phone with another single friend talking about being on the dating market and dating lingo. What happened to "Will you be my Girlfriend"? When did "Hooking Up" mean We're Dating? When did there become a difference in dating each and in a relationship. Oh we went on and on pondering and laughing, It got me to thinking about changes in the dating game.

There is No Secret that I am "single not looking" more than I am "single and on the being found market", "single and casually dating around" or "single and in a dating relationship" (Umm, You're single until marriage, in my opinion)  There various reasons like "emotional healing" or "hectic non dating life" that I take myself off the market. I don't believe in jumping into relationship right after another. I don't believe in being in relationship just to be in one. I'm not the lonely type.

But every time I put myself back on the market, I promise you the game has change somewhere and I have to adjust. Why does the game have to change? Dating should not have so many different rules to it. You should Meet, Like each other, Dating casually, Get in a serious relationship and Finally get married. Or if during one of those steps or phases you find out you're not compatible for any reason (religion, infidelity, values, education, work ethic, etc) you break up.

But for some odd reason somewhere it became not that simple as I stated. Now you meet someone and you have to do research on them before first or at least the second date. I understand because of people like married liars, and various catfish  but how do you get to know somebody when you possibly know it all. You meet some one and have to wait a day or two to call not to seem eager. Being to eager might turn them off. But if you wait to long to call they might think you are not serious. Truth be told, If you wait to long to call me I might forget about you. I had to "Who are you" a guy before because he waited 3 weeks to call. Actually he texted me. And that is another thing, all these adult age people texting request for dates. Who started this crap? Make it stop! I should not have to tell anyone I don't accept text requested dates. I refuse to follow that trend. You want to go out with me, Open your mouth and ask me. For all I know the text request was sent to many and whoever answers first is who he is going out with. No sir, Not me! Call me!!!

If you are in a committed relationship or married, trust me you are so not missing anything in the dating world. Hopefully you knew that already. But no matter what game changes they throw my way, I endear. You can knock me down out of game. I just recharge and regroup because I always stick to my rules. If the games ever changing rules flow with my rules, then good for the game.

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The Hair Debate

I told you all that there three social debates I honestly think are stupid. Skin tones in the black
race has already been discussed. One day I'll discuss Working/Stay-at-Home moms but today let me discuss Relaxed/Natural hair.

I wear a relaxer. I've had a relaxer since I was 5. I don't want to wear my hair any other way. That's my choice. My sister wears her hair in natural locks. She can't imagine wearing a relaxer ever again. That's her choice.
Who made the Good Hair choice?
If you said My sister of if you said me, you are wrong, in my opinion. We both made Good Hair choices.

I HATE the term Good Hair. If you have hair on your head that is not falling out of your head, it is Good Hair.
The hair debate makes me outraged. Straight hair is not better than Wavy hair. Wavy hair is not more comb-able than Natural Coiled hair. Natural Coiled hair is not healthier than Straight hair. We need to get that through our skulls to our brain. The fact must get lost in the hair.

Hair choice is a matter of opinion. Opinions are not right or wrong. So how someone wears their hair is not right or wrong.

Boy massa did a number on us again. Lincoln may have emancipated us but our brains are still enslaved when it comes to hair choices. Well I'm off the plantation. My relaxed bob is cute just like my sister's locks. Afros are cute. Bald heads are cute. Weaves & ringlets are cute just like close cut haircuts. I think all hair is Good Hair. That's Great!

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SOS

I Hate celebrity gossip shows. All of them except one. It's called Dish Nation. It is hilarious to me. Well thanks to Dish Nation, I found out about SOS Condom Delivery. It's for people who are about to have intercourse but don't have protection and they can deliver Durex brand condoms to your location via a  Website and an App.

In the age where AIDS, HIV, and other STD's are on a dangerous rise, I think this is a Great Idea. IMO, If a person uses this service means they being proactive about their sexual health and their life. I wish I had thought of it. *sigh* I really hope the sexually active use this service if they ever caught without protection. Don't just stay caught up in the moment and play sexual Russian Roulette.

SOS Delivery! Love the idea!!!

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Rat-Ta-Tat-Tat not Buzz Buzz

Blame a fact about Alabama I read on Twitter for this blog. In Alabama to sell vibrators is illegal but selling guns is legal. That 2nd amendment is a force to be reckon with. You have the right to go Pow Pow but not the right to a Personal Shake (Yes, I laughed while I typed that).

Every time a shooting happens in this country the debate about gun control is sparked. I am in favor of stricter gun laws. It's unreal to me for anyone to be able to walk into a gun show and buy a gun with or without a proper background check. It's unreal to me that a gun can be sold in the same store that I can buy Hot Wheels for my nephew. It's unreal that a guy in my neighborhood can own the same fire arm power that my military has and he's never left the city let alone been in any war. If a hunter only hunt rabbits and bears, why does he need an AK-47? Are animals in the woods shooting back so a rifle can't do the job.? Have TV & Movies been lying to us all these years? These are some of the reasons why I think the current laws need to be enforced and a few more need to be added.

Opponents of stricter gun laws, like the NRA fight hard at leaving the laws the same. Funny part is, one does not hear of them encouraging the current laws to be properly enforced. They only voice an opinion when government wants to pull the reigns in, they start fearfully preaching about the precious 2nd amendment. No one is taking the right to bear arms away. Government is just trying to make sure the mentally healthy have the right. They are just trying to make sure people 21 year old and older have the right. They are just trying to make sure Gun owners are owning the right fire arms and using them properly. Bang Bang Bang on midnight New Years is not using the guns properly. Firing off into crowds is not using it properly. Shooting at a school, church, or movie theater is not proper use. When the NRA and other groups like them actually say that, then the should preach about the 2nd amendment.

Not a fan of guns but I'm a beast with mace and pepper spray. Guns don't scare me. Me having a gun, scares me. I have a strange feeling I would be trigger ready, which I think is dangerous to me. This country needs to safe. Can't have rights to buy a gun, a vibrator, or anything else, if all our heads are blown off.

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The Fun in Funeral... Oh Yeah

LoL
I found the Hardcore "Reality" TV watcher's limit. Thy limit's name is Best Funeral Ever. Child, most of the people who watch All the "Wives", Love & Hip Hop, Honey Boo-Boo, etc have harsh words for this show. I find the comment hilarious. Oh I feel the same way but I have the same reaction to the popular reality shows, too.

I watched the "Reality" special. The Christmas Funeral was of a elementary/middle class mate. So I had tearful moment at the start but afterwards I was stunned. I can't stand for people to take pictures or videotape (unless a key person is absent) at funerals. So this was unnerving. But, The families ask and pay for this so Oh Well. And
No, non-DFW black people, this not how we funeralized our loved ones. I've gone to a funeral at Golden Gate and it was a "normal" funeral. And even Beckwith posted on Facebook, only 1% of his customers ask for those kind of funerals

Best Funeral Ever is real life version of a funeral home idea in a Comedy called "Undertaking Betty". That's the trailer above. I bet that's were Golden Gate got the idea from the "American" funeral home in the movie. Watch the movie and I know you will agree.

I read TLC is waiting for the ratings to see if they will make Best Funeral Ever into a regular show. Gosh let the ratings be low.  The "Reality" special was interesting enough. Keyword is Enough!

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