Hooray for The Detroit Reception Challenge

When I get married there is one rule for All of my guests. No pictures & videos until after the couple's 1st dance.

• I want people to have & enjoy an experience with their eyes only.
• Everything doesn't have to be recorded by Everybody
• You have no control over what people do with videos, even the ones your image is on.

But what about random onlookers? The answer should be obvious. Go read THIS article. A woman riding around Detroit passed by and saw a wedding set up on a front lawn. She loaded her pictures to social media and it was shared over 1,000 times aka It went viral. A radio station found the couple & found out they trying to save some money because of their young daughter's (who was in the hospital) medical bills. The radio station raised funds and couple had another wedding event at another venue.

As a single woman, I am mindful of not to hurtfully, make fun of any wedding. Trust me I have seen & attended some weddings that were not pleasing to my judgment. Who hasn't? Also, Every wedding has something humorous in it. But I don't participate in trashing them on the internet. Everyone deserves the wedding of their wants and that their life & bank account can handle. No one should have to know the backstory of the event for people on the world wide web not to call it "ghetto" or a "hood wedding".

We pick at what we don't know about. We pick at what doesn't concern us. We pick at stuff because we're bored & insecure. I did my "Googles" and found some of the trolls. In true troll fashion, most were not remorseful in the least. Some felt like they should be thanked for making the pictures go viral. *sigh* Invited or Uninvited...Mind Your Business!

Congratulations to the Couple!!!

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Another Day in a Year (Poetry Corner)

He Caught Me Not Looking
Some days are Just Another Day

Another day a popsicle, one of his favorite treats may or may not stop the tears

Another day to consciously remember not to make his meals

Another day not to be aimlessly stuck from the hours of 2 pm to 6 pm.

Another day not to watch out for his wheelchair

Another day to realize that there is new silent sound, the sound that is not his

I need to sigh *sigh*

Because every one of those days is why God took him from this world for the New Life, while I wasn't looking.

He knew I, his little sister who didn't give him life would have held onto him Another Day.

But most importantly, it's Another day, I Feel My Heart Healing.

Fact About Me: Only death anniversary I acknowledge is the 1st one. And well, it has been One.

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It's Soapbox Time!!!

Never will I ever use this platform to tell you who to vote for. I just want you to Vote. I'm a Moderate (Well, I prefer the name Conservative Democrat), so I'll never say for vote straight Democrat or Republican tickets. You might miss a qualified Independent who's name wasn't flashing during commercial breaks.

Just because I'm a female human, I still know not all women are looking out for my best interest. They say not all "skinfolk" are kinfolk and that statement is truer than true. Stop voting for people just because they are *insert the same race as you the reader*. Pay attention, Value what you want to be done, Do your research, and Vote!!!

Vote! Vote!! Vote!!!

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Well, This Tripped Me Out

This is a reader-submitted meme. Shout out to my church bud, Treva Shay for this one. When she said, "For your blog", I knew it was a doozy.

May I get a definition for *tah gether". I need to see the Christian unwed couple's travel plans to say Yes or No. And if I need to see that to be judgemental, that means I need to mind my business. No matter if they have separate rooms, adjoining rooms, or sharing a room,

The couple is getting to know one another. Traveling is a good way of gaining knowledge about anyone. Just the style of travel & hotel choices can be eye-opening. I know some people who are very frugal. I know people who are very picky about brands. Traveling may reveal time issues. I'm an "early" travel type especially when I am flying. Being possibly late for a flight heightens my anxiety. Road trips can really reveal things about people. Do they have a weak bladder? Will the passenger(s) stay awake. Do we all have the same taste in road snacks? Then you arrive at the destination. Nappers & strict itineraries do not mix.

Oh, I know you guys are wondering about should Christian non-married couples share a room & a bed. That is a question that is actually wanting to be answered. Well, temptation & fornication are frowned upon in the Bible. But who is to say that this couple will do that? Believe it or not, everybody is not weak to sexual temptations. And if they do fornicate, that is between that couple and God.  Matter of fact the whole trip is between that couple & God. The couple must know their limits and travel in a manner that is best for them. And what should anyone who worried that the couple will fall into sexual sin do? Genuinely pray for them and leave them & their trip in the hands of God.

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Ghosting! It's Interesting, Isn't It?

I read a major cultural publication refer to it as a millennial phenomenon and that gave birth to this post. I might be a Gen Xer that agrees with Baby Boomers that Millenials have done weird things to brunch. But I am the first to say their need to give names to everything is great. Ghosting, the practice of ending a personal relationship by abruptly and without explanation withdrawing from all contact is not a new action. Even though most times ghosting is in reference to the dating world, this word could be used in other places in life. Technically, for example, an absentee parent ghosted their family or a business partner can ghost with the money. Disagree with me in the comments. We can discuss other ways people ghost in life there. I'll leave this post to dating relationship & promise not to make other styles of ghosting post. I Promise!!!

Yes, I've ghosted men and been ghosted by men. I'm not bragging about being a ghost a time or two, because I know my ghosting was an immature way to show my frustration in a dating rapport. If I am not being heard and feel won't be heard, instead of saying that and leave, I cut off all communications. I'm doing better. Y'all pray for me as I continue. And when I disappeared, I stayed gone. It's the ghost hunter types I left that eventually track me down via mutual people or places in our lives. Those guys were genuinely concerned about my well being and my heart melted into learning to talk before I leave. Oh, staying is still not the goal, well maybe once. And I'm still single.

And yes, being ghosted is a crappy & confusing feeling. I can call & text only up to a week, for me to catch the clue. I prefer closure and even with being ghosted I figure out how to move on and close doors. Yet, it's my luck that my "ghost" always want to come back to haunt. They somehow snatch open the doors I did the emotional work to shut and say "Boo" by apologizing & wanting to catch up. I've never had a guy who ghosted on me to stay gone. That annoyed me. But I guess you never know you are truly healed until you fully face the problem. And any person who ghosts is a problem.

I am chuckling! Of course, me ghosting a guy & me being ghosted by a guy would have different outcomes. Outcomes are just as different as the reasons and excuses we have for ghosting. But ghosting actually needs to be ghosted. We all need to be adults and communicate, so we can work things out or break up. Lots of feelings and hearts wouldn't get bruised and much time could be saved.

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Issa ~vs~ Lawrence (Looking For Yourself Edition)

If you don't watch or are behind on the HBO show, Insecure, might as well leave.

I blog for the people whose thoughts are different aka Me. I saw a lot of people making mention that Issa in Season 3 was in the same position as Daniel in Season 1. Both left their jobs, have a dream project and hit a wall trying to do so.

That's True But...

Did anyone notice it took Daniel, 5 years on the couch with depression & unemployment checks to figure out to stop looking at the wall, get off his butt and go get a job? It took Issa weeks, maybe a month to hit the wall, take the bump, grab her resume and apply for work, along driving for Lyft & being an apartment manager.

Both hit the wall, but how they handled the wall are totally different. And here is a small lesson. The wall is still there, but if you move on to other things may be the solution to taking it down will come to you. And possibly not, but it's more productive than staring at it.

But that's my thoughts. It's not the popular finger wag that Issa Season 3 is in the position as Lawrence Season 1. Child, it's not my first time, not being trendy.

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Define Single & Go On With Your Life

I always say any sociologist and psychologist worth their research should study social media at least 3 days of the week. That's where I found this gem that made my wheels of my mind turn. Thank you T.T a*k*a June Bestie a*k*a ShadeTina for posting this.

Everybody has their definition of being single. I believe marriage is 100/100, so I am single until I am married. I can be Single & Dating and Single in a Committed Dating Relationship. Engagement is two single people with intentions to be married.

Each stage requires increasing percentages of myself. No relationship stage has set percentages needed for advancement but I do know 100% of me is required for marriage. That's my definition. And researchers, I will want my credit

That's why I chuckled hard at this meme. Yes, mind your business while folks are holding interviews. Or as I say in Offline Land, "See stuff and shut up". Datable candidates & mates don't fall out the sky. Truth be told there is no dating measurement stick. Nobody on the dating field moves the same. And unless cheating or lies are involved, all moves are legal. Heck, that's why the interview process exist. We're just checking out how a potential move around the dating space.

*sigh* I think you guy's memes prove why I'm single. Oh Well!!!

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