He Stole More Than Just Money

Hold on, guys. Read THIS while I talk to Future Fiancé.

Hey Future Sweetheart,
Repeat after me, The Marriage is Important, NOT The Wedding. Oh and remember your Fiancé is Not Ride or Die.
Alrighty!
I Love You!!!

So, refreshing to see a good "Did Y'all See That" article. These are the kind of things this blog was started on. There are legal ways people pay for weddings that I frown on. So, robbing a bank would probably make me irate.

Why rob a bank when you know you couldn't afford the wedding or the ring? I don't comprehend planning a wedding that you can't afford. People teased a couple for having their wedding in their front yard. I know a few couples that had receptions in their apartments' clubhouse. I went to one of them. It was rather cozy, nice, & quaint.
But guess what no one, No One went to jail while trying to finance it. I really felt sorry for the bride-to-be.

Imagine seeing your fiancé's face everywhere stealing money at a bank. Imagine calling him and finding out why he was involved in the robbery. He stole more than just money. He was stingy with the truth about his money. He cost her a wedding & a marriage. But he saved her from heartache & headache that being married to him could have brought. One day, her life will go on & be grateful for the protection his theft caused.

What do you guys think? Tell me in the comments.

As Always, Talking to You in Adult Terms!

This is For...(OUTSPOKEN_DIVA's Favorite Recipes)

...my cousin, Celeste, college bud, Lil' Bit, and family friend, Latifah. I posted this meme & how I related to it because I want to be a pot of Green Stew on Facebook. And well, these ladies asked about the stew, so I decided to share the recipe on here.

What is Green Stew? It's a pot of every green vegetable in vegetable stock. It's one of the healthiest, yet coziest dishes I eat in cooler weather. Also like many soups, stews, & chowders, I really enjoy making it.

Green Stew

Ingredients

• 2 tbsp Olive Oil
• 2 Leeks, white and light green parts, thinly sliced
• 1 medium Onion, diced
• 3 stalks Celery, diced
• 3 cloves Garlic, minced
• 1/2 cup Green Beans, fresh or frozen
• 1 head Broccoli, trimmed to small florets
• 1 medium Zucchini, cut in half-moons
• 1 head Cabbage, chopped
• 1 cup Spinach, chopped
• 2 cups Turnip Greens, chopped
• 1/4 cup Green Peas, frozen
• 4 leaves Basil
• 1 1/2 Tbsp Sea Salt
• 1 tsp Pepper, fresh ground
• 6-8 cups vegetable stock or water
• 3 tbsp fresh Basil, chopped

Directions

1. In a stockpot pot or Dutch oven, heat the olive oil medium-high high heat.
2. Add the leeks, celery, onion, and garlic, saute for 3 minutes.
3. Add the vegetables, basil, salt, and pepper.
4. Stir and cook for 5 minutes.
5. Add the stock or water and bring to a boil. Lower the heat and simmer for 30 minutes.
6. Remove from the heat and stir in the chopped basil.
7. Serve and enjoy.

Please note that these are the green vegetables I like & am not allergic to. If you prefer different leafy greens or asparagus, put that in your pot. Also to the meat-eaters, you can add a little grilled chicken to your bowl and like this soup.

Thank you to Celeste, Lil Bit, & Latifah (Yes, those are blog names) for your interests. And hope you guys & anyone who wants to try this recipe, Enjoy!!!

As Always, Talking to You in Adult Terms!

I'm Tired of Seeing This Lesson!!!

I hate it when I see extra stories within a big headline. And sometimes my mind won't let me move past it. Amber Guyger, the former police officer in Dallas who killed her neighbor, Botham Jean because she thought his apartment was her apartment. She has been convicted of murder & will serve 10 years. Since the story broke, Amber said she missed the clues that she was in the wrong place because she was tired from working a long shift. So tired that you park on the wrong level of the parking garage, I believe. So tired that you don't see a red doormat, was iffy for me.  Clearly, I was on pins & needles to see how this narrative was going to hold up. But Day 1 of the trial the "I'm So Tired" story was debunked for me thanks to an Officer Martin Rivera.

He was Amber's former partner and ex-Lover that she was texting after work while walking to the door, and after she shot Botham Jean. Some of their exchange was about hanging out later that night. Some of their exchanges also revealed explicit & sexual conversation. Texts that were deleted, also. Rivera testified the deleted the texts between him and Guyger from the night of the shooting because,

"That's not something that I would want to be reminded of," Rivera said. "And I don't keep messages saved unless it's of importance to me."

At that point, I knew Rivera was also a selfish jerk. I hope he is fired. As the trial progress, we found out Rivera was married. And even after Guyger killed Botham Jean, she found time to text Rivera and even sent sexual messages to him days later.

At that point, I could've asked Amber Guyger, "Was the peen that bomb".

Momma, my mom has a quote, "We all have dark moments in our lives" about the foolish stuff we've done in the name of love & lust in the past. So, I won't judge her on the fact that her lustful sins & choices look different than mine. But I'm sorry but if Amber was not messing with Martin, Botham Jean's may still be living his life. I know this is probably a stretch to some. But a man's life is lost because she was setting up sexy time with an ex-lover. A man is gone because she was sending sexy communications with a married man. A man is dead because you felt randy for a man who said your messages weren't that important to him.

Amber, was the peen really worth all of that?

She has her whole life to ponder it all. I hope she learned what is life worthy before the trial. This has to be one of the most drastic ways to learn to want more in lust, love, & sex. I just pray that somebody else in relationships & rapports that are totally morally, emotionally, & mentally beneath them see this lesson before something tragic happens.

*sigh* Well, now back to being upset with the verdict, amazed with the forgiveness from Botham's brother & praying for peace & better days to living life in this world.

As Always Talking to You in Adult Terms!

Beyond My Opinion (Answering Questions)

Sing with me! 🎶Someone asked a question...🎶 Shoutout to the 90s gospel fans that know the tune. Today's question is not the reason why we sing but and answer none the less.

Q: Saw an article you retweeted about "Meatless Meats*. How do you feel about them?

A: This article HERE was shared to me of Facebook and yeah I retweeted on Twitter. It's an interesting on meatless meats possible impact on the health of humans & nature. Personally, I don't see Beyond Meats & Impossible Burgers any different than other processed foods. So, Moderation is probably best. The only veggie burgers I eat are personally made by me with such foods like carrots, zucchini, & walnuts.

I've never had Morning Star or Boca brand substitutes. And probably won't consume these newer meatless products, either. Professionally, I have clients who can't have meat and I have suggested these products and places that properly serve them. I mean everyone should have variety in their diet. And they say that the newer meat substitutes are ok in taste, but they also still do miss beef. And they only eat vegetable substitutes like cauliflower in place of chicken. Hey, sometimes there's nothing like the real thing.

Ok Nobody has asked, but I am telling you anyway. Why is the submission conversation somehow has to include "Single Women"? I don't know about others, but the "rule book" the folks like to refer to, The Bible (in Colossians 3:18) says "Wives submit to Your Husbands" and other things that describe true husbands". Dates, Girlfriends, & Fiancés are not Wives.

That's why there is a process called dating & courting. And they have "levels" that should make true submission to true marriage leadership easier. I bet if you talk to them, Many single women know that. How about angling that submission talk over to the wives dropping the ball. Why don't you aim over to the heads of the household who expect it but don't do the work to earn it? Yeah, my opinion is very "#notallsinglewomen". But do you expect it any other way when this "submission conversation" is so generalized & missing a lot of details?

Well, that's all I have. Send your questions to C.OUT.SPOKEN.DIVA@gmail.com. I promise to give you an answer.

As Always Talking to You in Adult Terms!

The Witch Hunt for Caster Semenya

The Track and Field World Championships will be in Doha, Qatar later this month. It is time for me to talk about the one thing that makes frown about this meet.

Thanks to the IAAF ruling on hormone levels, as of this time, Caster Semenya will not be racing in the 800m.

Intersex people (formerly known as Hermaphrodites) are individuals born with any of several variations in sex characteristics including chromosomes, gonads, sex hormones, or genitals. It is the "I" in the LGBTQIA+. And 800m Gold medal Olympian, Caster Semenya from South Africa is an Intersex person. She has higher levels of testosterone in her body than the average woman. But biologically, she is a female human, a woman. In my mind, she has been the homie since I saw her dust the competition at the World  Championships in 2009. Yes, before the IAAF had her go through a gender verification test & her intersex results were leaked, I have been a fan.

With Niyonsaba

I've also felt like American Olympian, Michael Johnson, Caster Semenya was tested because of her race. Have you ever looked at Women's 800m race Have you ever seen the competition who complains about Semenya winning? And well the 2018 IAAF rule, that states "that women who compete internationally in events from 400 meters to the mile(1609.344 meters) will have to maintain natural testosterone levels below a certain limit in order to be eligible to compete" (Female athletes can take hormone therapy to lower their testosterone. But is that natural) was made to get Caster Semenya off the track. Oh and I know other runners like Francine Niyonsaba of Burundi are being affected also. But whose name has always been attached to this case?

And I Stand with Caster Semenya every time she appeals this ruling.  She will be missed in Doha this year. I just read HERE, she has signed onto a South African female football(soccer) team and will still fight to run track. I Stand for that too. But I will not be in favor of hate and unfairness. And that is what all the testing, procedures, & ruling have been.

As Always Talking to You in Adult Terms!

Child, That Ring Has to be a...

This picture has gone viral this week. Can you guys gather your opinions quietly for a moment? I need to talk to my Future Husband.

Dear Future Husband,
I can't thank the Lord enough for providing me with a great steward of our finances. He has really blessed me. You knew it was a better use of our money to buy me cubic zirconia than to buy a diamond that is the size of fingernail dirt. You didn't buy a diamond just for the sake of buying a diamond.

Heck, the "upgrade" to my fake public band looks bigger than the ring in this viral post. Truthfully, I don't know why that ring exists. CZ may be a fake diamond. But which needs to be real, the symbol of Love or the Love? That's what truly matters.
I Love You!

Ok, I am back. I had to talk to my love. But to finish the title of this post... Child, That Ring has to be Test. I will not attempt to guess his hypothesis or hope for a conclusion.

But I refuse to believe a man who truly loves anyone would genuinely buy that ring. He is testing how bad does she want to be married. He is testing her patience to his foolishness. He is testing her love. I just hope for a mature conclusion.

And hopefully, this meme is doctored to test how we think. I probably failed to some. I would hate to know about a case like this is really happening.

As Always Talking to You in Adult Terms!

Settling These BBQ/Cookout Side Debates

I am probably the person at the cookout or BBQ with mostly meat or very little on her plate. I don't eat many of the most common side dishes served at cookouts. But this post topic was reader-submitted (Thank you Ms. Chris), so I will only rank the ones I like to eat. Plus, I want to keep some positivity on this post. So, don't be shocked if your fave is not on my list.

10. Potato Salad
I am Black & Southern, so I don't eat any & every potato salad. Most potato salads are too sweet or don't have enough salad in them. If you want me to eat your potato salad it needs to come close to this one HERE.

9. Pasta Salad
Unless you put tofu in it, I can eat most pasta salads. But like its potato cousin, a lot of recipes don't have enough salad in them either.

8. Garden Salad

7. Cold Fruit Salad
Not a fan of grilled fruit.

6. Grilled Zucchini & Squash

5. Grilled Cabbage/Brussel Sprouts

4. Veggie Kabobs
But if you put tofu on them, I will deem you as a person that hates food

3 Antipasta Salad

2. Israeli Salad
The mint makes it so refreshing.

1. Grilled/Roasted Corn on the Cob
It is so simple & perfect. And little butter on it goes a long way with me. Shocker that it is the first picture seen on the post.

So, what side dish makes your preferred list? Of course, leave them in the comments below. Oh and eat what is to be cold, cold and vice versa for the hot items. I care about you guys too much for you to suffer from a nasty bout of Food poisoning. That's never on anyone's debate list.

As Always Talking to You in Adult Terms!