I'm Tired of Seeing This Lesson!!!

I hate it when I see extra stories within a big headline. And sometimes my mind won't let me move past it. Amber Guyger, the former police officer in Dallas who killed her neighbor, Botham Jean because she thought his apartment was her apartment. She has been convicted of murder & will serve 10 years. Since the story broke, Amber said she missed the clues that she was in the wrong place because she was tired from working a long shift. So tired that you park on the wrong level of the parking garage, I believe. So tired that you don't see a red doormat, was iffy for me.  Clearly, I was on pins & needles to see how this narrative was going to hold up. But Day 1 of the trial the "I'm So Tired" story was debunked for me thanks to an Officer Martin Rivera.

He was Amber's former partner and ex-Lover that she was texting after work while walking to the door, and after she shot Botham Jean. Some of their exchange was about hanging out later that night. Some of their exchanges also revealed explicit & sexual conversation. Texts that were deleted, also. Rivera testified the deleted the texts between him and Guyger from the night of the shooting because,

"That's not something that I would want to be reminded of," Rivera said. "And I don't keep messages saved unless it's of importance to me."

At that point, I knew Rivera was also a selfish jerk. I hope he is fired. As the trial progress, we found out Rivera was married. And even after Guyger killed Botham Jean, she found time to text Rivera and even sent sexual messages to him days later.

At that point, I could've asked Amber Guyger, "Was the peen that bomb".

Momma, my mom has a quote, "We all have dark moments in our lives" about the foolish stuff we've done in the name of love & lust in the past. So, I won't judge her on the fact that her lustful sins & choices look different than mine. But I'm sorry but if Amber was not messing with Martin, Botham Jean's may still be living his life. I know this is probably a stretch to some. But a man's life is lost because she was setting up sexy time with an ex-lover. A man is gone because she was sending sexy communications with a married man. A man is dead because you felt randy for a man who said your messages weren't that important to him.

Amber, was the peen really worth all of that?

She has her whole life to ponder it all. I hope she learned what is life worthy before the trial. This has to be one of the most drastic ways to learn to want more in lust, love, & sex. I just pray that somebody else in relationships & rapports that are totally morally, emotionally, & mentally beneath them see this lesson before something tragic happens.

*sigh* Well, now back to being upset with the verdict, amazed with the forgiveness from Botham's brother & praying for peace & better days to living life in this world.

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Beyond My Opinion (Answering Questions)

Sing with me! 🎶Someone asked a question...🎶 Shoutout to the 90s gospel fans that know the tune. Today's question is not the reason why we sing but and answer none the less.

Q: Saw an article you retweeted about "Meatless Meats*. How do you feel about them?

A: This article HERE was shared to me of Facebook and yeah I retweeted on Twitter. It's an interesting on meatless meats possible impact on the health of humans & nature. Personally, I don't see Beyond Meats & Impossible Burgers any different than other processed foods. So, Moderation is probably best. The only veggie burgers I eat are personally made by me with such foods like carrots, zucchini, & walnuts.

I've never had Morning Star or Boca brand substitutes. And probably won't consume these newer meatless products, either. Professionally, I have clients who can't have meat and I have suggested these products and places that properly serve them. I mean everyone should have variety in their diet. And they say that the newer meat substitutes are ok in taste, but they also still do miss beef. And they only eat vegetable substitutes like cauliflower in place of chicken. Hey, sometimes there's nothing like the real thing.

Ok Nobody has asked, but I am telling you anyway. Why is the submission conversation somehow has to include "Single Women"? I don't know about others, but the "rule book" the folks like to refer to, The Bible (in Colossians 3:18) says "Wives submit to Your Husbands" and other things that describe true husbands". Dates, Girlfriends, & Fiancés are not Wives.

That's why there is a process called dating & courting. And they have "levels" that should make true submission to true marriage leadership easier. I bet if you talk to them, Many single women know that. How about angling that submission talk over to the wives dropping the ball. Why don't you aim over to the heads of the household who expect it but don't do the work to earn it? Yeah, my opinion is very "#notallsinglewomen". But do you expect it any other way when this "submission conversation" is so generalized & missing a lot of details?

Well, that's all I have. Send your questions to C.OUT.SPOKEN.DIVA@gmail.com. I promise to give you an answer.

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The Witch Hunt for Caster Semenya

The Track and Field World Championships will be in Doha, Qatar later this month. It is time for me to talk about the one thing that makes frown about this meet.

Thanks to the IAAF ruling on hormone levels, as of this time, Caster Semenya will not be racing in the 800m.

Intersex people (formerly known as Hermaphrodites) are individuals born with any of several variations in sex characteristics including chromosomes, gonads, sex hormones, or genitals. It is the "I" in the LGBTQIA+. And 800m Gold medal Olympian, Caster Semenya from South Africa is an Intersex person. She has higher levels of testosterone in her body than the average woman. But biologically, she is a female human, a woman. In my mind, she has been the homie since I saw her dust the competition at the World  Championships in 2009. Yes, before the IAAF had her go through a gender verification test & her intersex results were leaked, I have been a fan.

With Niyonsaba

I've also felt like American Olympian, Michael Johnson, Caster Semenya was tested because of her race. Have you ever looked at Women's 800m race Have you ever seen the competition who complains about Semenya winning? And well the 2018 IAAF rule, that states "that women who compete internationally in events from 400 meters to the mile(1609.344 meters) will have to maintain natural testosterone levels below a certain limit in order to be eligible to compete" (Female athletes can take hormone therapy to lower their testosterone. But is that natural) was made to get Caster Semenya off the track. Oh and I know other runners like Francine Niyonsaba of Burundi are being affected also. But whose name has always been attached to this case?

And I Stand with Caster Semenya every time she appeals this ruling.  She will be missed in Doha this year. I just read HERE, she has signed onto a South African female football(soccer) team and will still fight to run track. I Stand for that too. But I will not be in favor of hate and unfairness. And that is what all the testing, procedures, & ruling have been.

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Child, That Ring Has to be a...

This picture has gone viral this week. Can you guys gather your opinions quietly for a moment? I need to talk to my Future Husband.

Dear Future Husband,
I can't thank the Lord enough for providing me with a great steward of our finances. He has really blessed me. You knew it was a better use of our money to buy me cubic zirconia than to buy a diamond that is the size of fingernail dirt. You didn't buy a diamond just for the sake of buying a diamond.

Heck, the "upgrade" to my fake public band looks bigger than the ring in this viral post. Truthfully, I don't know why that ring exists. CZ may be a fake diamond. But which needs to be real, the symbol of Love or the Love? That's what truly matters.
I Love You!

Ok, I am back. I had to talk to my love. But to finish the title of this post... Child, That Ring has to be Test. I will not attempt to guess his hypothesis or hope for a conclusion.

But I refuse to believe a man who truly loves anyone would genuinely buy that ring. He is testing how bad does she want to be married. He is testing her patience to his foolishness. He is testing her love. I just hope for a mature conclusion.

And hopefully, this meme is doctored to test how we think. I probably failed to some. I would hate to know about a case like this is really happening.

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Settling These BBQ/Cookout Side Debates

I am probably the person at the cookout or BBQ with mostly meat or very little on her plate. I don't eat many of the most common side dishes served at cookouts. But this post topic was reader-submitted (Thank you Ms. Chris), so I will only rank the ones I like to eat. Plus, I want to keep some positivity on this post. So, don't be shocked if your fave is not on my list.

10. Potato Salad
I am Black & Southern, so I don't eat any & every potato salad. Most potato salads are too sweet or don't have enough salad in them. If you want me to eat your potato salad it needs to come close to this one HERE.

9. Pasta Salad
Unless you put tofu in it, I can eat most pasta salads. But like its potato cousin, a lot of recipes don't have enough salad in them either.

8. Garden Salad

7. Cold Fruit Salad
Not a fan of grilled fruit.

6. Grilled Zucchini & Squash

5. Grilled Cabbage/Brussel Sprouts

4. Veggie Kabobs
But if you put tofu on them, I will deem you as a person that hates food

3 Antipasta Salad

2. Israeli Salad
The mint makes it so refreshing.

1. Grilled/Roasted Corn on the Cob
It is so simple & perfect. And little butter on it goes a long way with me. Shocker that it is the first picture seen on the post.

So, what side dish makes your preferred list? Of course, leave them in the comments below. Oh and eat what is to be cold, cold and vice versa for the hot items. I care about you guys too much for you to suffer from a nasty bout of Food poisoning. That's never on anyone's debate list.

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But I Don't Want to Sign the Petition

Professionally, Weight Watchers is the only commercial weight loss plan that I have never ragged on. Other than the counting points (calories), it is seems to be an effective & realistic plan. Well, recently they launched an app for kids called Kurbo. Kurbo is intended to document their eating, physical activity, and weight loss in kids as young as 8. And sone parents, nutritionists, & dietitian are upset. Read about it HERE. And other than signing the petition, I can't disagree with the protest.

WW is marketed as a weight loss plan. And even though everyone should eat healthy meals, No one suggests a non-fat person to follow diet plan advice. So, Kurbo will more than likely downloaded to the husky & pretty plus young ones. The first commercial diet I tried was Slim Fast when I was 12 years old.

You know that sensible dinner that is said to eat, well because I knew children are cruel, I ate a sensible lunch. I didn't want the stares, questions, jokes, & teasing that would come with bringing a weight loss shake to school. That was the 90s, can you imagine how that would go over now?

It is not messaging we should teach children. But it is a conversation we, adults need to catapult us in teaching healthy eating lifestyles to our children. It should fuel us to find non-commercial food apps to aid us. We can cancel Kurbo, but what are we bringing on board?

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Believe It or Not (Answering Questions)

You guys have questions, I think I have answers.

Q: You were very quiet on the Antione Fuqua/Lela Rochon/Nicole Murphy scandal. Did you not have an opinion?

A: Antoine Fuqua is/was wrong! Unless the Fuquas have an open relationship, He's a cheater. Anybody that said that first, said my feelings. My only viewpoint that was not said is

"I'm Glad I Have Been Fat All My Life". Lela Rochon's weight gain being blamed for her husband infidelity did not shock me. "Being Fat" is still allowed to be a punchline & a scapegoat. But when you guys want to have that conversation, Call Me! Antoine Fuqua is/was wrong!

Q: I just had a horrible first date. How to avoid this?

A: This question was asked in offline land and the asker suggested I bring my answer here.  Well, unless you count being stood up, I have never had a bad first date. I credit one thing. I never go out with a guy without having at least a 30-minute phone call with them. I am an observer, so I watch for key things. Is he willing to have a conversation? Can he hold a conversation? Does he mumble? And the major key, What does he talk about? If I have to pull basic information out of him because all he wants to talk about sex or how these "females" act(That was rough to type. Trying not to correct that), I am not going out with that guy. We are already expecting their representative, no use wasting time on a spokesperson for a product I know is not marketed for me.

And before anyone asks, my worst date ever was when his friend tagged along after basketball practice. The friend stiffed the air around my sandwich and my date cracked up laughing. Then on the way to dropping the friend off, Rom-Com called. I didn't answer it of course, but the friend blurted out who was calling me. I finally told the friend to grow up. And all my date said "Yeah". Oh, who was the date?!?Barracuda Stumps, the worst boyfriend, ever.

Q: Are you offended by being called a snack? It's something about it that seems too small to be a compliment.

A: I rarely hear Snack these days. The term doesn't offend me. Actually the closest to me catcalling men was me calling good looking ones, Peanut. I got that from my sister's male friend, Jackson. He used to use it a lot. But I do understand the smallness of Snacks. I think of myself as Whole Foods Groceries. LoL You know Quality, Not So Cheap, & a Little Effort is Needed to be Enjoyed. (Now, I see why I'm single) As soon as type this answer, I will change that to be my Twitter handle. Wonder who will get it.

Thank you for the questions. You know I can't answer them without you guys. And if you ever have questions you would like for me to answer, send them to C.OUT.SPOKEN.DIVA@gmail.com. And I will answer them.

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