*sigh* On a Date Finances

We're adult enough to date, so we're adult enough to talk about dating. Well, at least I am! Probably one of the reasons I hate dating is because everybody is not learning the lessons and applying them to their dating lives. I am tired of talking about money on dates.

Who's watching the latest season of Ready to Love? It one of the few "reality" tv shows I watch. Well, two of the contestants knew each other before the show and well the issue was because of a restaurant date tab. Check it out below.

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No, I won't talk about if he gaslit her and had an immature reaction during their previous encounter. (He did.) And no, I won't talk about whether she should've given him a 2nd chance. (She shouldn't have. Let him connect with the other female contestants, only.) I will stay on topic. The premise of the show is for singles ages 30-55 to find love. These are not young people. But trust me, unfortunately, older singles still have this topic to deal with. There are just some that won't be truthful and/or communicative about dating within their means. 

In my mid-20s, on our first date, I noticed Worst Boyfriend Ever, Barracuda Stumps mentally counting his coins after he let me order first at a Bennigans (aging myself). In my 40s, I had a guy, blog name Peter, ask me during our meetup, if he planned a date where would I like to go. My idea was a local cajun spot that has live music. (I don't suggest things I can't pay for myself.) Every time Peter brought up those plans, they were changed from just dinner at a chain restaurant, to cooking together at his home, to finally no date at all.

Those two tales of my dating life are not uncommon! You've read and/or heard the accounts of people being asked out and once the bill came they were expected to split it without a conversation with a beforehand. And there are stories of dates skipping out on the check and people being left high & dry to pay for it. AKA the reasons (and a dating fear) why I never choose places I in my bank bracket when I am asked to choose for a date.

So, we know what is the problem. But how do we get folks to date within their means & honestly, respectively talk about with there is a problem? And it has to be passed the regular advice list.

• Check Your Bank Account Before the Date
• You Plan a Date to Match Your Means
• If the Bill Needs to be Split, Discuss That Before Meeting Up
• When Confronted, Be Matured & Respectful With Your Honesty

Because people know this stuff already. We need people to put this into practice. Because this discussion is old. It's older than us old. But it needs to die a good death.  Not because the masses won't adhere to it.

There is a comedy duo, Frangela that says on their show, "Idiot of the Week", "Manage Your Fast Food Expectations". *deep sigh* The sad part is Dating may have to replace the words, Fast Food. *sigh*

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Bang, Bang! How Did I Do?

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I love when I get material that brings me back to the roots of this blog. I don't get to return often because the world has changed so that what may have been a "do what" years ago, seems to be regular now. 

If you haven't watched the video already, do it now while I speak to *blushing* him. Oh read HERE and HERE

Dear Future Sweetie,

Thank you for speaking about your feelings needed to aid the sensual portion of our relationship. Also, thank you for the space to give my caring & honest input for us to perform our best for one another. Happy to know we both ourselves well enough to maturely accept & understand one another. Seemly, somewhere some people don't get those opportunities to do this.

I Love You!

Like Al (My homeboy in my head. "Can't have Salt without Al.") on Daily Blast Live, I would rather there not be a survey but there would be conversations. I'm a proponent of the thought, "Grown enough to do it, Grown enough to talk about it". But I commend the surveyors for trying to know more about themselves sexually. In my mind, in the year 2021, no one should have to complain about sexual performance.

I mean between intercourse aids like dildos, products like Blue Chew, and the internet at our fingertips, we all should be well knowledgable about what we like, what we dislike, & what we know. But my mind is not the world. Society is still pushing this weird narrative that humans come knowing about sex inherently and we still should be ashamed about it. We still have public school districts that teach abstinence-only health education. So, of course, a woman wanting to understand herself in this manner would think she would be glared at in judgment. I mean how dare anyone want to know such a thing. But if they end up a lousy lay... May

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Everybody Hates Easter

Christmas has most of the corners on the Holiday movie market. Trust me, I try to tell Hollywood to make more movies for the others. One day, they will listen. But it doesn't mean there aren't movies made celebrating the others. And there are Easter movies. Here is a title list that I know of and like:

• Pieces of Easter
• Miss Potter
• Hank & Mike
• Chocolat
• The Greatest Story Ever Told
• Hop
• The Prince of Egypt
• The Passion of Christ

And I enjoy these, but they aren't my favorite Easter entertainment.

The Easter episode, "Everybody Hates Easter" of the T.V. show, Everybody Hates Chris is my favorite Easter media I love to watch. Here is its synopsis.

Chris wants to take Tasha to an Easter pageant after she breaks up with her boyfriend but Chris already has a commitment. Rochelle competes with a new church member to win the Easter Hat-Off, which she has won for four years in a row. Tanya has plans for the Easter Egg Hunt. Julius pretends he has to work so he can stay home and watch a baseball game.

No, it's not exactly what my Easters growing up were like. But I could see my mother, Muh Diva entering the hat competition. In the 90s, the former bass player at "foundation" church (the church I grew up in for the new folks), nicknamed her "Sister Hat Lady".

He still calls her that (She calls him Brother Guit-Fiddle.). This is a hilarious episode. I will say, come for Chris, but stay for the Hat-Off. Rochelle's competition name is literally named, Sister Hattie. You know she is a formidable entrant. And the episode will end with Rochelle yelling, "Chris".

I'm trying to take some time to watch Chocolat before Easter Sunday. Because candy is one of the things I gave up for Lent this year. Should be a good challenge for me. And also since Everybody Hates Chris is on Peacock and Hulu, I plan on chuckling at that too.

Easter, My Favorite Holiday is a Happy time. A man named Jesus gave his life up for the world and rose from death in three days with All power in his hand. So, of course, I will watch things that put a smile on my face & on my heart. Typing that put sunshine in my soul. *satisfying sigh*

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If He Were Handsome...

If you have already boxed me into a Good Girl crate and/or are the gossipy type, LEAVE NOW! THANKS FOR the CLICK But I'm NEVER in the Mood.

Side-Eye Time

Have you heard about the pastor who stepped down from his church position because he said wives need to stay as sexy as they can for husbands if they don't want their husbands to cheat, in the pulpit of his former church? 

You haven't? Go read about it HERE, HERE, & HERE and come back.

This is the attitude about women that has ruled life for too long. I've noticed that I went on first dates or meet-ups with no makeup, no weaves or wigs, no fragrances, and no heels ("Let him see the real package he's possibly getting") because of this type of belief. I know a few women who don't sleep with protective hair scarves or pillowcases because they have a man. I have had a ring awaiting girlfriends as business clients that were told if they lose a little weight they would get the ring.

One of my favorite bloggers & podcasters
just posted this right before I finished this post.
WoW!!!

And this behavior & statements come from the gender that has members who come over to a planned "sleepover" without pajamas and/or a change of clothes. These are the words from the gender who have spouses frequently commenting on their raggedy underwear that is constantly worn and not thrown away. Hopefully, this pastor who suggests wives at least look like "participant trophies", does not have feces stains in his clothing that have been scrubbed or soaked. That gender has members that do that.

That's How Childish Some Men Sound

The Nerve! And put your out-of-context Biblical texts away. I read the word. First Corinthians 7:4a is used a lot. What about the "b" part of the passage? If wives are to keep it right and tight for her husband, what does a husband do for her? Faithfulness is not a fair trade. Exodus 20:14 takes care of that for both partners. What you else got?

....this sermon would still be very misogynistic & gross. No matter how he looks this sermon shouldn't have happened. I just titled this post that to get you guys here. So put your "Angry with Outspoken Diva" reply fingers & thumbs away, this time. This Time! LoL

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Not Yo Pot Roast

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Pot Roast Nacho Dip

Ingredients

• 3 lb boneless chuck roast
• 2 tbsp olive oil
• 2 tbsp cumin powder**
• 1 tbsp ancho chili powder**
• 1 tsp garlic powder**
• 1 tsp cayenne pepper**
• 2 (10 oz) can diced tomatoes with chiles, lime & cilantro, drained & reserve the juice, such as Ro-Tel
• 1/2 cup beef broth**
• 1 medium onion, chopped
• 2 (15 oz can) Cheddar Cheese Sauce
• 1 (15-oz) can of pinto beans, drained

Directions

1. Season the meat with the spices** into the meat by hand. Add a little oil to a hot skillet. Then add the meat to the pan and brown well on both sides.
2. Remove the meat from the skillet and place it in the slow cooker.
3. Add the tomatoes to the pan you browned the meat in and simmer it for a minute or two and scrape all the meaty bits from the bottom of the pan.
4. Add the tomatoes from the pan along with beef broth**, the juice from the tomatoes, and the onions to the slow cooker and place the roast on top.
5. Cook the on High for 3-5 hours or 5-8hrs on Low.
6. Shred beef with two forks and toss to coat with the juices
7. Stir in the beans and cheese. Cover and let cook on high until melted, about 1 hour.
8. Serve with tortilla chips.

**Packaged Taco Seasoning can be used in place of the spices. If used, use low or no sodium beef broth.

Such a yummy dip. Just add a simple salad to make it a meal. And remember if you try this or any recipe on the blog, let me know in the comments on here or the social media site you see the post on.

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Because Prathia Prayed, A Salute

I was watching The Black Church on PBS (Great documentary, Total Recommendation) one Sunday and I discovered a little-known figure in American history. This person is a woman, a black woman by the name of Prathia Hall-Wynn. You may not know her name but you know four of her words, I Have A Dream.

Dr. Martin Luther King, Jr. was visiting Terrell County, Georgia to speak at Mt. Olive Baptist Church, in 1963. The church had been burned down by the KKK. Prathia Hall-Winn, a college-age volunteer with SNCC (Student Non-Violent Coordinating Committee) was invited to pray. Through her prayer, she shared her personal vision of what she wanted in Black America. In her prayer, she used the phrase, “I Have A Dream” many times. Dr. King loved Prathia’s prayer. He was very impressed with her use of the phrase, “I Have A Dream”. King would later incorporate “I Have A Dream” into some of his speeches. The phrase was reported to have been a usual part of King’s sermons. Most notably used in the 1963 civil rights marches by Dr. King; “Walk To Freedom” and “March on Washington”.

Prathia Hall-Winn grew up in Philadelphia. Her father was Reverend Berkeley Hall, an emotional supporter of racial justice. She finished her college studies at Temple University to join the Student Non-Violent Coordinating Committee (SNCC).

After marrying Ralph Wynn, Prathia then earned a Master of Divinity, Master of Theology, and Ph.D. from Princeton Theological Seminary. After her father’s death, she accepted the call to pastor his church, Mount Sharon Baptist Church in Philadelphia. Hall-Winn became one of the first women ordained in the American Baptist Association. She was a visiting scholar at the Interdenominational Theological Center and later joined the faculty at United Theological Seminary in Dayton, Ohio, eventually becoming dean of the seminary and director of The Harriet Miller Women's Center. Prathia Hall-Winn died on August 12, 2002, following a long illness.

Of Prathia Hall-Winn, Dr. King is quoted as saying the statement in the picture above. He admired her speech style.

Somebody prayed for me, had me on their mind,

They took the time and prayed for me.

I'm so glad they prayed

I'm so glad they prayed for me

Prathia Hall-Winn had to be the epitome of this song. Because I am so glad she went to the throne of grace with her vision. And I am glad her words inspired Dr. King's speeches. Decades later those prayers especially those four words, I Have a Dream are still hugging this nation, the USA.

I Salute You, Prathia Hall-Winn!

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My Favorite 5 Black Movies of All Time

There are movies I love. Many of them are Black films. Who doesn't like seeing parts of themselves on screen? Who doesn't like being inspired while being entertained? And those probably the main criteria for this particular faves list.

Oh, if there were a Top 10 these movies would make the list. They're are Claudine, The Last Dragon, Madea's Family Reunion, The Wood, & Love & Basketball. Oh, and number 11 is Menace to Society.

Now, let's get into the top 5.

5. The Fighting Temptations I first saw this movie at a sneak peek showing and I loved it ever since. I know I first watched it for the star-power. But after I saw it, I knew it was a story about offbeat church folks beating the odds. And you know quirky church people are my people.

4. (Tie) Crooklyn & Polly I am a sucker for a coming-of-age story. And these two stories are the best. Polly tells the story of a child that changes her world. Crooklyn is a story about a child who is changed by her world. Who can't relate to that?

3. She Hate Me Yes, it is the movie that put Anthony Mackie on my Eye Candy List(even though he not on it now). Gosh, he oozes sexiness all in this movie. Baby, Come and Get it!!! But, that's not why I love this film. What secrets do you think Big Pharma is hiding? Sheeit...This movie will open your eyes.

2. Deliver Us From Eva In a previous post, "Yep, She was Black & Nerdy & Awkward. And You Loved Watching Her" (Read it HERE) and I talk about the nerdy qualities of the main character, Eva Davenport. That is one of the reasons I am drawn to this piece of cinema. The other is that this film is about the effects of being dedicated to family & forgetting yourself & your heart. And I still jam out the oranges' anthem "Ain't No Stoppin' Sunshine" by Yoli almost 15 years later.

1. Amour Infinity It's not just my Favorite Black movie. It is my Favorite Movie of All Time. It is an indie gem that will reinforce the feelings in the coldest of hearts. And confirms emotions in the warmest ones. It is honest about love & the people that experience it. And I Appreciate That. And because I love my readers, I'll let you know you can watch it HERE.

Yeah, my list doesn't have the most popular Black movies on it. I am not the Belly type. And The Color Purple is a nice movie but not one of my favorites. That's another reason this list is mine. What is your favorite Black film? I know you have one. Tell me in the comments on this post or on the social media site that you see this.

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