There are days y'all remind me I've never been in love & I don't think like many.
Never have I ever lied to an ex about my dating status. I have an ex that sometimes wants to visit whenever he's in town. His question is always, "Would your man mind if I came by". If I am single, I let him know I am. And I don't let guys use me in a lie to their exes. If Football Nerd had not passed away, he could testify to that fact. The night I met the mother of his child, on the way to church he asked could he say I was his girlfriend. I refused him. Why lie? The funny part was she thought I was his lady then.
And unlike the ladies HERE over at The View, I don't agree with what this 24-year-old lady did. I am most like the good folks HERE at Dish Nation. Her revenge was very costly for her. But I get it! I was 24 at one time. And yes, Heartbreak is Painful. I was actually still reeling some from the heartbreak of the aforementioned unnamed ex and Football Nerd at that age. That's why I am using these two in this post.
And do you know what was my revenge? Going on living my life and letting my heart heal. Back then, I was in preparation for getting my Bachelor's degree. I just had to play through the pain. And you know the end of the stories, ended up doing some healing, I got the degree, Football Nerd became my best friend (He was at the commencement.), and that other ex just checked on me during the Texas Snow Storm of 2021(You may not have known the last part. But now you do.) I refused to let a lie give anybody that kind of power. And like the wise songstresses, Envogue says, "When you Lying, You're Losing". Who wants to do that?
Heartbreak should never be strong enough to let you do crazy stuff. Lying is crazy stuff. Spending money on the lie is crazy stuff. And the fact others around her went along with this is crazy stuff.
But many like crazy stuff!!!
*sigh*
Wholeness with Healed Hearts is the Best Revenge. And you can challenge me on that.
You asked me questions. I answered those questions. And the cycle goes around and around.
Q: Would you hold a man down if he went to prison?
A: Simple Answer is More than likely Not. The judge will break us up. I have experience dating a guy who had been to prison before we met. You can read about that HERE. My stance hasn't changed. And I don't give a definitive No because there might be a tinge of belief in his innocence depending on the crime. Like if the crime is embezzlement from charitable funds. I would have to see the proof, especially if our finances didn't increase. Plus I've seen a few local politicians go down for a few months because their name was signed on the sneakily placed paperwork. Oh and I can see true accidents as such. But if he clearly did a crime, I'm out. Because knowing me, I told him not to do that mess, and/or he lied to or deceive me.
Don't forget, if you have any questions, email them to C.OUT.SPOKEN.DIVA@gmail.com or leave them in the comment section below or on the social media site where you see this post. I will answer them.
Ham & Brie Sandwich with a Fig, Sage, & Lime Spread (Nova)
Ingredients
For Spread:
1 tbsp fig jam
1 sage leaf chopped fine
2 tsp lime juice
For Sandwich
2 tsp butter, softened
2 thick slices of good white bread (I used Italian)
1 tbsp Fig, Sage, Lime spread
2-3 slices of brie or camembert
1 thick slice of ham (best from the deli counter, or leftover(I used leftover))
salad leaves, to serve (optional)
Directions:
Spread
Mix jam, chopped sage, & lime juice in a small container.
Put the container in the refrigerator for at least 4 hours.
Sandwich
Heat a toastie maker or a small griddle pan. Butter each slice of bread on one side then spread the other side of one slice with fig jam.
Top the fig jam with brie and ham, sandwich with the remaining bread, butter-side up, then place in the toastie maker or the griddle pan.
If cooking in a pan, squash down a little with the back of a spatula while cooking, flip over after 2-3 mins when golden, then cook on the other side.
Serve with a handful of salad leaves on the side, if you like.
Rotini with Shrimp and Bacon (BJ's Brewhouse)
Ingredients
1 red bell pepper
12 oz. rotini pasta
4 slices bacon
1 garlic clove, chopped
2 lemons
1 lb. large shelled and deveined shrimp
1/2 c. loosely packed fresh basil leaves
Directions
Cut bell peppers in half lengthwise; discard seeds and membranes. Place pepper halves, skin sides up, on a foil-lined baking sheet; flatten with hand. Broil 15 minutes or until blackened. Place in a paper bag; fold to close tightly. Let stand 20 minutes. Peel and chop; set aside
Heat a large covered saucepot of salted water to boiling on high. Add pasta and cook as label directs. Reserve 1/3 cup pasta cooking water; drain pasta and return to saucepot.
Meanwhile, in a 12-inch nonstick skillet, cook bacon on medium for 9 to 10 minutes or until crisp and golden. With a slotted spoon, transfer bacon to a paper-towel-lined plate to drain. Remove all but 1 tablespoon bacon fat from skillet.
While bacon cooks, from lemon(s), grate 1/2 teaspoon peel and squeeze 1/4 cup juice; set aside.
To fat in skillet, add garlic and cook until softened.
Add the chopped roasted pepper.
Then add shrimp; cook on medium for 4 minutes, stirring often. Stir in reserved pasta water and heat to boiling on medium. Cook 1 to 2 minutes or until shrimp is opaque throughout. Remove from heat; stir in basil, lemon peel, and juice, and reserved bacon. Add shrimp mixture to pasta and toss to coat. Transfer to bowls and garnish with basil.
Mexican Pizza (Taco Bell)
Ingredients
1/2 pound ground beef
1 cup diced onion
2 cloves garlic, minced
1 tablespoon chili powder
1 teaspoon ground cumin
1/2 teaspoon black pepper
1/2 teaspoon salt
dash cayenne powder
1 (16 ounces) can refried beans
4 (10 inches) flour tortillas
1/2 cup salsa
2 cups shredded Mexican cheese blend
2 green onions, chopped
8 grape tomatoes, diced
1/4 cup finely chopped jalapeno peppers
1/4 cup sour cream (optional)
Directions
Preheat the oven to 350°. Line a rimmed baking sheet with parchment, Silpat, or foil and spray with non-stick cooking spray.
In a large skillet, cook beef, onion, and garlic over medium-high heat until beef is browned and onion is tender. Drain grease. Stir in chili powder, cumin, salt, pepper, and cayenne.
Place two tortillas side by side on a baking sheet, and cover with a layer of refried beans. Scatter half of the seasoned ground beef over each tortilla, and then cover with a second tortilla.
Bake 10 minutes. Remove the baking sheet from the oven.
Spread salsa on top of each top tortilla stack. Top with cheeses, tomatoes, green onions, and jalapenos.
Return the pizzas to the oven, and bake for 5 to 10 more minutes, until the cheese is melted. Remove from the oven, and let cool slightly before slicing each one into 4 pieces.
I think restaurants want us to sound very confused & undeceive. I don't like saying, "Can I get uhh..."? when I am ordering. I want to sound sure of myself when I order. Again what are the restaurants that took your favorite dishes off their menus? Let's Discuss!
No, we need to say the title of this post. And by the look of this picture above, it's been a long time coming.
Popcorn was not made into the perfect crunchy snack for it to be made into a dressed salad. And whoever thought it will pop inside of a turkey has the driest bird on Thanksgiving. Maybe it will go great inside of that Flaming Hot Cheeto-crusted turkey that went viral. Food Network & this cookbook can not convince me these recipes are good.
Tiktok hacks me off, frequently. For every charcuterie prep & well-done steak joke videos I see, they are content of trays made with unbagged candy & a ribeye being cooked with a blow dryer. And maybe the inspiration was the no-boil lasagna noodles, but macaroni & cheese fans are up in arms with the clips of the dry macaroni, block of processed cheese, & milk come out of the oven as a creamy soup in a casserole pan. Even I a non-fan of the traditional dish knows that that hack is wrong.
There are starving people out there. There are also bored & impressional ones out there. Too many want to be seen and will try anything. Because if I see another boiled chip, I will scream. That's not how mashed potatoes are made. Real potatoes are heartier. But when news programs like The Insider take an interest and show the video, the clout seed keeps growing.
Just leave food alone. It's getting embarrassing. Before we try to recreate the wheel, let's try some new brands of tires aka recipes start to roll with those.
We're adult enough to date, so we're adult enough to talk about dating. Well, at least I am! Probably one of the reasons I hate dating is because everybody is not learning the lessons and applying them to their dating lives. I am tired of talking about money on dates.
Who's watching the latest season of Ready to Love? It one of the few "reality" tv shows I watch. Well, two of the contestants knew each other before the show and well the issue was because of a restaurant date tab. Check it out below.
No, I won't talk about if he gaslit her and had an immature reaction during their previous encounter. (He did.) And no, I won't talk about whether she should've given him a 2nd chance. (She shouldn't have. Let him connect with the other female contestants, only.) I will stay on topic. The premise of the show is for singles ages 30-55 to find love. These are not young people. But trust me, unfortunately, older singles still have this topic to deal with. There are just some that won't be truthful and/or communicative about dating within their means.
In my mid-20s, on our first date, I noticed Worst Boyfriend Ever, Barracuda Stumps mentally counting his coins after he let me order first at a Bennigans (aging myself). In my 40s, I had a guy, blog name Peter, ask me during our meetup, if he planned a date where would I like to go. My idea was a local cajun spot that has live music. (I don't suggest things I can't pay for myself.) Every time Peter brought up those plans, they were changed from just dinner at a chain restaurant, to cooking together at his home, to finally no date at all.
Those two tales of my dating life are not uncommon! You've read and/or heard the accounts of people being asked out and once the bill came they were expected to split it without a conversation with a beforehand. And there are stories of dates skipping out on the check and people being left high & dry to pay for it. AKA the reasons (and a dating fear) why I never choose places I in my bank bracket when I am asked to choose for a date.
So, we know what is the problem. But how do we get folks to date within their means & honestly, respectively talk about with there is a problem? And it has to be passed the regular advice list.
Check Your Bank Account Before the Date
You Plan a Date to Match Your Means
If the Bill Needs to be Split, Discuss That Before Meeting Up
When Confronted, Be Matured & Respectful With Your Honesty
Because people know this stuff already. We need people to put this into practice. Because this discussion is old. It's older than us old. But it needs to die a good death. Not because the masses won't adhere to it.
There is a comedy duo, Frangela that says on their show, "Idiot of the Week", "Manage Your Fast Food Expectations". *deep sigh* The sad part is Dating may have to replace the words, Fast Food. *sigh*
I love when I get material that brings me back to the roots of this blog. I don't get to return often because the world has changed so that what may have been a "do what" years ago, seems to be regular now.
If you haven't watched the video already, do it now while I speak to *blushing* him. Oh read HERE and HERE
Dear Future Sweetie,
Thank you for speaking about your feelings needed to aid the sensual portion of our relationship. Also, thank you for the space to give my caring & honest input for us to perform our best for one another. Happy to know we both ourselves well enough to maturely accept & understand one another. Seemly, somewhere some people don't get those opportunities to do this.
I Love You!
Like Al (My homeboy in my head. "Can't have Salt without Al.") on Daily Blast Live, I would rather there not be a survey but there would be conversations. I'm a proponent of the thought, "Grown enough to do it, Grown enough to talk about it". But I commend the surveyors for trying to know more about themselves sexually. In my mind, in the year 2021, no one should have to complain about sexual performance.
I mean between intercourse aids like dildos, products like Blue Chew, and the internet at our fingertips, we all should be well knowledgable about what we like, what we dislike, & what we know. But my mind is not the world. Society is still pushing this weird narrative that humans come knowing about sex inherently and we still should be ashamed about it. We still have public school districts that teach abstinence-only health education. So, of course, a woman wanting to understand herself in this manner would think she would be glared at in judgment. I mean how dare anyone want to know such a thing. But if they end up a lousy lay... May
Christmas has most of the corners on the Holiday movie market. Trust me, I try to tell Hollywood to make more movies for the others. One day, they will listen. But it doesn't mean there aren't movies made celebrating the others. And there are Easter movies. Here is a title list that I know of and like:
Pieces of Easter
Miss Potter
Hank & Mike
Chocolat
The Greatest Story Ever Told
Hop
The Prince of Egypt
The Passion of Christ
And I enjoy these, but they aren't my favorite Easter entertainment.
The Easter episode, "Everybody Hates Easter" of the T.V. show, Everybody Hates Chris is my favorite Easter media I love to watch. Here is its synopsis.
Chris wants to take Tasha to an Easter pageant after she breaks up with her boyfriend but Chris already has a commitment. Rochelle competes with a new church member to win the Easter Hat-Off, which she has won for four years in a row. Tanya has plans for the Easter Egg Hunt. Julius pretends he has to work so he can stay home and watch a baseball game.
No, it's not exactly what my Easters growing up were like. But I could see my mother, Muh Diva entering the hat competition. In the 90s, the former bass player at "foundation" church (the church I grew up in for the new folks), nicknamed her "Sister Hat Lady".
He still calls her that (She calls him Brother Guit-Fiddle.). This is a hilarious episode. I will say, come for Chris, but stay for the Hat-Off. Rochelle's competition name is literally named, Sister Hattie. You know she is a formidable entrant. And the episode will end with Rochelle yelling, "Chris".
I'm trying to take some time to watch Chocolat before Easter Sunday. Because candy is one of the things I gave up for Lent this year. Should be a good challenge for me. And also since Everybody Hates Chris is on Peacock and Hulu, I plan on chuckling at that too.
Easter, My Favorite Holiday is a Happy time. A man named Jesus gave his life up for the world and rose from death in three days with All power in his hand. So, of course, I will watch things that put a smile on my face & on my heart. Typing that put sunshine in my soul. *satisfying sigh*
