Talk About It Tuesday (Mercury is in Microbraids)

And y'all get on my nerves.

Our cell phone satellites might be affected but everything else is just human life & responsibility.

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Y'all, The Queen, and Those Other Colonizers

Queen Elizabeth of the British monarchy passed away recently. It was sad to hear. *sigh* My thoughts on the British royals have always been line stepping. Once the ruling body, they're now in my opinion a whole non-governing but influential family that is taken care of by the British & British-ruled countries' taxpayers. It's like "Governmental Emeritus". They've never made real sense to my American mind. And I feel like American (you know the culture of a country that won a war for freedom from the British) Pop Culture & its media have made us give a care about them. The Queen's fashion has influenced so many older church ladies. My own grandmother, who is a grand seasoned saint just marvels at her hat collection. Hours of TV are blocked off for their weddings and gossip stories. And the tabloids have lost their minds with the Royals. But we all have opinions. I think Diana's wedding gown was Hideous but Adore Kate's & Meghan's. I was watching my friends play fight in my dorm room and stopped them when the news flashed Diana was killed. I didn't grieve her with the rest of the world, but I also have never, I do mean never condone the relationship & marriage of Charles & Camilla. (Consort as a noun is a wife, husband, or companion, in particular the spouse of a reigning monarch. Consort as a verb means habitually associate with (someone), typically with the disapproval of others. The Queen basically titled that woman her son's little friend.) I also didn't care about Harry being a partying bachelor yet "attended" his wedding (and his brother's) with bells on.

So, I gave my respects & RIP on social media and watched the fallout. Black Social Media has two sides. The side that is planning the funeral. That's the fun side I am probably on. I want to envision Adele singing, "Going Up Yonder" with The Kingdom Choir. But there is also a truthful woke side that we don't have the privilege to ignore. The Royal family has a horrible history like in some of the current & former British colonies in many African nations, Ireland (Irish Twitter is Wild), the Bahamas, and Jamaica. History romanticizes The Queen's, when she was still a princess trip to Kenya once because that was where she was when she learned her father, George VI died. But she was there to do governmental business for the Commonwealth aka Boss lady came to see if the factory is running smoothly. So, I would never obligate them to mourn Queen Elizabeth.  Because under those hats was a woman who condone policies & wars that oppress people. I mean those diamonds on the crown are stolen artifacts. Also, there is a subset of the woke that just found out about the British, which makes me wonder what they think "Colonizer" means. This is why I am in a Funeral planning mindset. My Line Stepper brain needs to see if Leona Lewis knows "Precious Lord" because my judgemental & woke sides never need to be that close to teaming up.

I know she'll have on Royal Regalia but she looked so good in Yellow. If given the choice, I hope her daughter Anne picks out a nice sunny coat dress & hat combo.

RIP Queen Elizabeth. Everyone's Life Makes a Sound. And May the Work You've Done Speak for You. 

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I Can't Type That, K-Man

Unfortunately, This is a True Story

My God-nephew is forever 19. K-Man died. My best friend, LJ's son passed away. And if you know what the above awareness ribbon is, that is the reason why.

I can verbally say what happened. But I can't type it. Found that out a few days ago. I guess my fingers & heart are not accepting the facts yet.

I was at LJ's house organizing the food that was brought in and I almost called him to help me find a bowl for the salad. Because that is what he did, Helped Me, His Auntie. I had to suck my broken feelings up because this grief buffet is for the fact that he is gone & I am here to support his dad & family.

I was pouring some orange juice into a cup and I remembered K-man wondering why the adults got a different glass for their juice during a brunch outing. I laughed until I cried. 

I looked for a photo of him photobombing me. I can't find it. But I know I posted it. As a boy, he thought it was fun to be seen World Wide on the World Wide Web. He didn't know his Aunt __my biological name_ Facebook page wasn't public at that time. I will find it.

Just like my heart is trying to find a way to understand why and the fact that why will never be fully answered. Just like I have to find a way to love on his sister without smothering this young adult. Just like the mature grace, I find for a non-custodial mother the right to grieve without my wanting to hit her. And just like the words of support I give this father that I think is one of the Best to ever Parent. I try not to pat him with my words but I just want him to know he is loved.

Just like I hope K-man knew he was Love, also. No wait, He is Love! A Loving Ancestor. A 19-Year-Old is an Ancestor.

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P.S. Found It (1/20/23)

Talk About It Tuesday (Worth a Thousand)

Worth the Worth! That's the Short Message! One of My Favorite Things to Encourage.

Oh the email: C.OUT.SPOKEN.DIVA@gmail.com

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Yo P-Valley, Season 2, Stunning & Bittersweet

*Spoiler Alert*

 I just left The Pynk for the season.

Season 2 P-Valley as a whole, was better than Season 1 (Season 1 had a better Finale). It was time to truly see the weaknesses of the beloved characters & the tenderness of some of the disliked ones. Even the slowest episode (204 Demethrius for me) piqued my attention. And that can be a hefty price for my interests.

Likes:

The Mercedes Experience: I am proud of Mercedes. She was a full event. She stepped up for her child when she needed to and even her mother, Patrice Woodbine (who should have used Corbin's money to pay her daughter back) saw her growth. And she Dreamed a New Dream. I was hoping she took the gym in that direction. And she left All seven pounds of pressure on stage at The Pink. 

Mane & Mercedes: The night of his block party, I declared Mercedes, a Stronger woman than me. But She's going to need that strength. Because Mane doesn't need Terricka as another babysitter for his ankle monitor or fake id runner. Yet, he would use her.

LaMarques: I may not be a fan of the trauma bond that is the love affair of Uncle Clifford & Lil Murder. I want both of them more healed, first. But I am a fan of the man who did the work to get Uncle Clifford back.

I am a fan of the man who sat by and tried to give his friend & lover light as darkness closed their eyes. RIP Thaddeus "Big Teak" Wilkins I am a fan of a man who could admit he was not ok and battled his demons. I am a fan of a man who wants to stand in the light. He sees himself in the mirror. Now, get him back to work.

Woddy: Remember when Keyshawn called him a Weirdo with a funeral home in Season 1? Well, that Weirdo with his sexy voice, provided transportation & protection for a whole tour. Learn to Appreciate the Weirdos in Life. Sorry for You, Rome!

Keyshawn is Tina Turner:  I hate when episode 1 comes back to bite us in the butt in the season finale. Hailey watched a lot of What's Love Got to Do and remember when Tina left Ike the first time. Her mother told him where she was. First time Keyshawn tries to leave, who calls Derrick while the kids are in her sister's care? Keyshawn's Step Mom. *sigh*

Earnestine's History: It may be the downfall of Uncle Clifford but it's a stable resume.

Grandmuva Defeating Death: They say "Don't Take a Drink From a Dead Person in Your Dreams" Glad to have learned that from this show.

Corbin & Clifford Friendship: Real Friendship will Beat Betrayal

Georgie: Can't be upset with a woman who understands her power. Lakeisha Savage should have listened.

Hailey Colton's Heart & Intentions: She tries so hard to be understood. It is what keeps me from being so upset with her actions. I wish the Pynk Framily would have embraced her fully. With her finance knowledge, she could be a loving force. But yes, first she has to come back and right her misdeeds. Because those were extreme.

Andre's Truth: Glad he is deciding to revive what he tried to killed

The Mayoral Race Results: Chucalisa deserves this new mayor. Remember, she's not Tydell Ruffin and Pastor Patrice Woodbine laid out some good points at the luncheon. And that's all I will say.

I often say "We are so Loud & Chatty about what we don't prefer. I'm Yelling at this point!

Dislikes:

Covid-19: The way the coronavirus was handled in the 1st few episodes gave me hope. Pussyland was made because the club was closed. Mayor Ruffin (who I hated) died & his loved ones had an outside memorial. Brittany, a hospital doctor lived outside the main house of her home for safety purposes. Pastor Woodbine's church was closed for being over-compacity. Then Toy sneezed on Lauren Hawkins and the romper-room-like foolishness was too obvious to be ignored.

• Toy sneezed. Gets accused of giving the virus to Grandmuva. But did anyone ask Lauren if she caught it?
• Testing! A Memphis apartment has it. When is it coming to Chucalisa? 
• None of the mayoral candidates brought up Covid-19 while campaigning. If everybody is dead, what's the use of a casino?

By the time Mane was released to serve the rest of his sentencing on house arrest because of social distancing & the spread of the disease, I felt like the handling of Covid-19 was weird.

The Framily vs Autumn Knight: *sigh* The Pynk framily never wanted to love Hailey Lakeisha Autumn Knight Savage Colton. And since Season 1, Big L has disliked her the most. Hailey isn't right, but the Wanna-be Black Sheep always told them the truth. Had Uncle Clifford taught Hailey The Pynk's history from the start, none of this bitterness between them and she would be so great. Instead of threats of killing her, maybe a conversation to learn about one another needed to be had. Oh yeah Hailey, I forgot...Trust No One.

Big L: I still think he is handsome. And he needs help making wings. *wink* But he is blinded by making sure The Pynk doesn't go under. And I never understood why he never sat down and talked to Hailey. And I feel he is the center of Framily's dislike for her. And that is why they got finessed by her. Shouldn't want to kill, who you need.

Rule #4: Umm, Roulette, Whisper, and Nineveh (She's the real Rule #29,763, You be careful who you let through the door cause you can’t save every single hoe.) are breaking the rule that says, "If You Hoe, You Out the Door". I hope Toy snitches to Uncle Clifford. If not, I am afraid Woddy & his funeral home will be making her look good. And Uncle Clifford will be wrecked with guilt.

Diamond: See this is why I wonder about intuitive people on tv. They always "can't see". Diamond's jobs as a military soldier & in security have always been to pay attention. Yet, Big Bone was not discerned.

Uncle Clifford: She was a caricature to me in Season 2. I was frustrated with her the most this season. Uncle Clifford still doesn't realize she doesn't manage money well. Buying a Birkin and not learning how to invest in the club. Worrying about what Hailey was doing even though She Told You What She Was Doing and not seeing prostitution happening under her nose. There was even an accusation & a fight about Rule #4 and she just let that go. Uncle Clifford just wanted her club back & grandmother healed, as she should. The sad part is more consequences are coming for Uncle Clifford. The upcoming casino benefits the Kyle farm & the residual dollars will drip drop, not flow or pour toward the Pussy Valley area of town. And she will have to own up to her part. *sigh* Maybe The Pynk can be turned into a landmark. Hopefully, she'll have swept  & sold all of Big L & Duffy's pills up before inspection.

So now, somebody call down to the funeral home and get Woddy & his sexy voice to clean some of this stuff up. Derrick is alive but Keyshawn is in jail. Uncle Clifford is high & feeling good but broke as all get out. Hailey has money, but escaped love. Grandmuva is alive but Diamond is in a trunk. Oh is Lil Murda being gay the worse kept secret in the hood? And will anyone sit down & think so they can see?

To the Life of The Pynk!!!

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So...Lonely Men

Psychology Today tried to do the Lord's work and help their fellow man, the cis-heterosexual man (as quiet as it is kept some of these cis-homosexual & cis-bisexual men also) not be alone in the dating & relationship worlds. Don't take my word for it. Read HERE to see for yourself.

I don't disagree with this article. The only sad part is getting most cishet men to read an article from Psychology Today. Somehow we have to get them this message, You are not lonely because you're low-value. You are lonely because most of these dating sites y'all have flocked to are full of men competing for the same small pool of women. You are lonely because women took the time to learn their worth and only desiring & dating men who can match it. And you are emotionally unintelligent because of what was previously taught to you and that is also why you are lonely.  Basically, the Game Changed. Do the Work or Get Left By Yourself.

But that is not the easy tasty plate they want to digest. And they have to make it themselves. Oh well... Hope they don't starve.

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NY Times's Popeyes to Marriage

Actually, it might be KFC to Marriage. And that's not the most interesting thing about THIS story. Go read it and come back. Because I Feel Like Y'all Need to Know What I See.

*sigh* Girl Finally Met Boy in Popeye's parking lot with some KFC and married him a little over 2 years.

When I see stories where my basic standards for relationships wouldn't be met, I am learning to ignore them. The keyword is Learning. Because I want this story to delve deeper. Even though it is based in Boston, this story needs the People of New York treatment. Because I see a plot hole. Mr. Boyce's feelings & plans seem hushed after the date.

-"...month after their first date, in late June 2020, he asked her to be his girlfriend. She agreed, but not before asking him to make it known that he was, as she put it, “off the market.”... “She said, I’m going to need you to move in six months,” Mr. Boyce said. “I was like, What are you talking about? I barely know you. Six months later, I was moved in.”

I am happy she gave him a requirement to be his girlfriend. She could've easily become one of his ladies. But what I need to understand is what made him trust her plan. I'm not saying since he was the man he should be making The Plan. But this does look like he had no plan and went along with what was already laid out.

"By then, the two were also engaged. Mr. Boyce proposed that December, while they were visiting Barbados for the holidays. His friend and colleague... thought that the trip would be the perfect moment for a proposal, so much so that, on his own, he bought an engagement ring for the couple"

So again, who wanted the couple to be engaged? The Friend or Mr. Boyce? The article makes us assume there were conversations between the two buddies. But with such an important step in a couple's life, it is vital that this stage wasn't happening because a colleague thought it would be cute.

"...Mr. Boyce and Ms. Wade moved into a home that they built together..., completing the first step of the shared vision through which they first connected."

Shared Vision? 

I hope the entire best for this couple. Especially better than how they are depicted in this quick article to me. Because I read he's 44, she 34. He first dates 6 women at once, and canceled on her twice with their first date was in Popeye’s parking lot where they ate some KFC because the line was long. At her urgency, six months later, he moved into her place and his pal bought the engagement ring. And they now are married & share a home that was visioned. *sigh* I would hate to see what is not seen said really not be said. 

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