Settling These Most Talked About Food Debates

We all Love our food opinions. I've said this before, but it bears to be repeated. I don't know if there is a week that I don't randomly hear or give a food opinion. Oh it is nothing for me to tell anybody

1. Mayonaise is a good condiment for sandwiches especially the ones with cheese on them.
2. I don't like Banana Pudding & Peach Cobbler.
3. I prefer box & stovetop mac & cheese over baked macaroni & cheese.
4. Sweet Tea is a glucose experiment. Put some lemons in that pitcher.
5. Ranch Dressing is Overrated. (I recently have ranch-flavored sunflower seeds. My taste buds want to windmill whoever created those.) 

And I stand firm on my statements. But they're not common. The common & most argued food opinions are the topics I laugh at sometimes. People really have continuing discussions on these. But I am here to settle them once and for all.

Exactly

Pancakes or Waffles Waffles & Little Smokies is my favorite breakfast. And that is how strong I feel about this pastry with syrup pockets. Now, I'm trying to remember the long time I had my favorite breakfast.

Coke vs Pepsi They are not alike. Coke is stronger. Pepsi is sweeter. I only like one flavor of Pepsi, Wild Cherry. But several flavors of Coke with my favorite being Vanilla. So, Coke it is. 

Dark vs White Meat Chicken I like white meat better because it isn't oily. If I must choose to eat dark meat, give me a leg and not a thigh.

Oh Probably a 4.5

Drums or Flats? One of the laughable food debates I see all the time. I prefer my wings whole. But if you ever want to gift me wing portions, give me drums with bleu cheese dipping sauce.

Oh let's talk Turkey...

Roasted, Smoked, or Deep Fried

In this order

1. Deep-Fried
2. Smoked
3. Roasted

What is the best flavor of Starburst? Pink, Red, Yellow, or Orange? Pink or Red

Does pineapple go on pizza? Nope! Stop ruing the ham & Canadian bacon.

Hot Dog...Sandwich? Yes! It is meat between two pieces of bread. That is a sandwich.

Corn or Flour Tortillas? There was a wise little lady that worked for Old El Paso who had the solution for soft vs hard. Both!!

Collard, Turnip, or Mustard Greens? *sigh* I prefer turnip or a Turnip-Mustard mix. I prefer the peppery taste over the bitter. Plus the only reason why collards are popular is because of the price comparison to the size of the leaf.

Salt or Sugar on Grits? I don't eat grits. I really don't like the taste of hominy. And guess what grits are made of...?

So, I let my social media followers decide. Though my family eats sugar, the majority of my Instagram & Twitter(a unanimous vote) voted for Salt. And I think that sugar vote was from my cousin. LoL

Mayonnaise or Mustard Potato Salad? I only know one restaurant that makes good mayonnaise potato salad and that's Baker's Ribs here in the DFW metroplex. So, that means I prefer mustard. Wait, have you guys mixed store-bought mustard & devil egg potato salads together. It's rather good.

Orange Juice Pulp or Pulp-Free? I am Team Pulp. Actually, I am probably the captain of that team. I want the glass version of an orange with a straw in it. Have you ever juiced oranges? So, freshly squeezed juice has pulp in it. Plus pulp helps regulates the blood sugar in the body.

There are other debates that I thought would be fun as memes. My answers are in each caption. 

Edge

So, what are your preferences? Answer in the comments below or on the social media site you see this on. I would like how wron... I mean how we may differ.

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Nice Inspirational Eye (Answering Questions)

Yeah, I have answers to your questions. Hopefully, my answers won't cause you to have more questions about those answers. And I think just confused myself.

Q: I love your eyes on photos at a recent graduation you attended. What products did you use?

A: Oh, this old look... LoL. Thank You! It's a simple drugstore(mostly) look from eyeshadow pencils. If you are new(ish), I use mostly pencils because I have a talc allergy. And guess what is in most eyeshadows.  I warmed my crease with NYX's Jumbo Pencil in Rust. Then used Wet n Wild's Color Icon Multistick in Burning Bridge & NYX's Jumbo Pencil in Strawberry Milk. Lastly, I lined my eyes with Marc Jacobs Highliner Gel Eye Crayon Eyeliner in Blaquer. Ooh, my Strawberry Milk is getting low. Time for a new one. Oh and don't forget to blend & blend.

This Post's Video Q & A

Don't forget, if you have any questions, email them to C.OUT.SPOKEN.DIVA@gmail.com or leave them the comment section below or on the social media site where you see this post. I will answer them.

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Grief Lessons from Chadwick, In Sickness & Health

Between 9 and 9:30 pm August 28, 2020, I saw the post from the Boseman family that Chadwick, the beloved actor had passed away from Colon Cancer. I didn't speak to anyone for an hour. I was stunned. He had been battling cancer for 4 years. On Twitter & Instagram, I shared these thoughts.

It was surreal to see this news that Chadwick Boseman had left this world. I was legitimately sad. The song All the Stars from the Black Panther Soundtrack was making me cry. I was hanging onto his inspirational words. And of course, I was upset with the chatter about his weight loss & look in latter days. Maybe this should make people stop being so meanly mouthy about their speculations anyone's life.

Then I saw the first picture on this post on Instagram and my sadness came into focus to me.

• A Person in My Age Group Died From a Disease
• Representation Matters
• Cancer Sucks 

Chadwick Boseman was sick. And anyone of us could be. That's heartbreaking but earnest to realize

Colon or Colorectal cancer is thought to be an older person's illness. However, medical research tells us that age has been getting younger since the 1990s. People my age especially black men are getting this disease. Early detection is Very important. And though we were so happy to see Chadwick Boseman "play icons to become an icon himself" we now have to let him be an illustration of mortality. There is no purple heart shape herb to bring him back. Boseman is now with Jackie Robinson, James Brown, & Thurgood Marshall in New Life.

I wish he could have been open about his illness. I can imagine the awareness that could've been brought out. The work falls on us, now. As we remember Chadwick Boseman's legacy, let's let him energize us to be our healthiest. And finding out our own health status with physical & mental check-ups should help honor his memory. He left this world, knowing and working on his, It is Our Turn.

Rest in Peace Chadwick Boseman
Thank You for Everything You Gave to This World.

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You're Absolutely Right to Use Yours

Alright, both Democrats & Republicans have had their conventions. They have laid their appeals at our feet to choose. And yes, it is time for that choice. It is time for Our Vote!!! It is time for us to vote for the President of the United States of America.

During one of the conventions, I read an article about a man who ended up paying $64 so he knew his 2020 Primary vote counted. Read about it HERE. Hey, sometimes it cost what it cost. Voting can cost time, money, and even life. It's a sacrifice many knew about. 

The political & civil rights worlds lost 3 men, Elijah Cummings, John Lewis, and Herman Cain(literally left this world because of his beliefs) in 2020. Yes, one was not on the same side of the aisle but all three worked hard to use their right to vote. They understood about the casualty all too well.

So, make sure you VOTE !!!

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Well... Amen!!!

Amen is an expression of approval or permission. It means “it is so” or “so it is" in Hebrew.

They say representation matters. It does! And it is good to see your story even in the midst of chaos. As an 80s kid, I liked the comedy, Amen. I could identify a few people I saw at church (even my sarcastic grandfather) on-screen Saturday nights. Even now when I watch reruns of the show, I still see more people and situations I can relate to my life. Decades later, I did the same with the drama, Greenleaf...Saw Me. Most people watch Greenleaf on OWN and saw a story about a mega-church family. I saw it as a love letter to church kids. A little note to say...We See You, Too. Because trust me when you grow up in church, people assume your story. They never take a full gaze at it, not even other church kids. And even as Adults, Grace, Jacob, & Charity Greenleaf still needed to be seen.

I've always thought of church assignments or positions as titled crowns. Some fit and some don't. Some are earned & some are taken. Some fight for them. Some can be taken away. Some are wanted & some are needed, even if just for a moment.

Poor Charity! She was assigned a singing crown, wanted a preaching crown(since the 1st episode), took the one she wanted, got it snatched, and eventually properly offered the crown she wanted. Charity's issue was how she presented what she wanted. But Charity had to grow up & grow into a mature emotional vocabulary. Just annoyed me that it took the whole show for her to do so.

The ministry crown fit Jacob, nicely. The issue was he didn't want to wear it as others wanted him to. Ministry is not all about preaching. And Jacob knew that and wanted to explore & work in a more benevolent position. It was that simple. But sometimes society's definition of success causes a fight with the meaning of the easiest things to understand.

Grace rightly had a pastor's crown given to her by the Bishop(her dad) and the church. She could preach the house down and pastor the church properly. But how long was she needed in that position? That's a problem everywhere. Needs can have time limits. And it's for us to hear the alarms going off.

And that's why I appreciate the show, Greenleaf. It could've relied on the rape & molestation, possible murder, IRS corruption, & infidelity in the church storylines. But it didn't. It gave the characters complex lives. More than the stuff that many think the church is about.

Amen Greenleaf, Amen!

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Wanna Meet 4th Grade Me?

*a few spoilers are in here*
It's no secret that I am Not a fan of reboots. Leave Stuff Alone! And after my disappointment with Netflix's reboot of She-Ra (Why does everybody know that Aurora is She-Ra? That mystery was what made that cartoon special in the 1980s), I was fearful to watch The BabySitter's Club. I remember the summer before I entered 4th grade was when I read my first BSC book. I fell in love with it instantly. I also liked the HBO show & theatrical movie based on the books by Ann Martin.

I have a weird placement in my family. I'm the youngest of my mom's children, but one of the middle grandchildren. And being a girl between boys, many times I had to play by myself. I didn't want to play cars & Transformers all the time. By the time I was 9, I was totally over my grandmother's "fun" summertime activities (learning the books of the Bible & embroidery, snapping beans, and washing the good china). The only activities she & I agreed on was reading  & crossword puzzles.

So, I immersed myself in the world of books. The BabySitters Club series were some of the residents there. It was fun to read about girls babysitting. Most of my babysitters were elderly ladies & my sister. So, this was very different from my life. I always related to Mary Anne Spier. I wasn't shy as a child but I was still observational and I was kinda an "in a clutch"-type of person. I could/would step in so things wouldn't be messed up. Also weirdly enough I understood Janine, the older, nerdy sister of Claudia, the creative member of BSC. Though she was know-it-all wasn't mean in my eyes.

So, I sat down one late Sunday morning after church and watched the Netflix series. I avoided all think pieces, reviews, & interviews. I watched it with the fresh 40+ eyes of a book fan from long ago. I am happy I did. This modern take on BSC is refreshing. It's nostalgia for the old book lovers and a curtain-raiser for new perspectives. It takes the same path as the books with a big idea from one, expands to the main 5 members, and ends with the introduction of two more members. Each episode is told by the viewpoint of the storyline's main character like the books. There were still the universal storylines of crushes on boys, school & grades, growing up/puberty, and relatives getting older. There is the iconic clear landline phone that rings during the meetings. *ring, ring* Babysitters Club!

Oh Kristy, is still a tomboy with no sexuality assigned to her in middle school. (One day, I will have to talk about my annoyance with Hollywood trying to change the tomboy narrative & definition.) But as times have changed, some of the social issues & behaviors are different than those of the 80s & 90s. I chuckled when one of the members is punished and has to rely on a Mingo phone for communications. Also, the characters are more inclusive. Claudia & Jessi are not the only non-white BSC member. Spoiler alert: Mary Anne is biracial (Black & White) & Dawn is Latina. And the new look was not jarring for me, because the characters still act the same. That another reason why I didn't engage with anything think-pieces & reviews beforehand. I didn't want to be ticked off at any possible tone-deaf, non-book readers with an opinion.
There are also diverse types of families that need babysitters in the community. BSC Netflix answers the question, " What is a Family" very well.

A Season 2 must happen. I will windmill Netflix if it does not. We were only introduced to Mallory & Jessi becoming junior members. And they are both very important. Jessi was a black member. I may have identified mostly like Mary Anne, but I was very happy to see a black girl appear in the books. Representation has Always been important. And Mallory was also significant. Mallory was one of their clients who had a huge family. She is the only one from such a big household. And her voice is vital also.

Well, let me look at what others are saying. I'm probably the only 40+ person openly talking about this show. Keyword is...

Oh well if you will watching or have watched The BabySitters Club, let me know in the comments here or on the social media site you see this post on. And who was your favorite from the book and the show? Let's discuss our fandom.

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I Knew I Was Different

Like a long-winded preacher would say, "I won't be before you long". But umm, I want to discuss this scenario here. I saw it one evening watching comedian Shuler King's Youtube channel. You can listen to discuss his humorous feelings HERE. 

I feel she is A) Reasonable. And my answer is based on my thoughts on the "him" in this situation.

1. He probably has Never really listened to her beliefs, ideas, wants, and dreams(Especially about engagements, weddings, & marriage) while they have been together. 
2. He possibly gambles in hopes many times in life.
3. He might be controlling.

We've seen a few weddings that the husband plans and surprises his beloved with. If you ever listen to those guys talk, they all say they were successful in have those events because they intently listen to their ladies. So even if this woman expressed her desire for someone to pay off her educational debts, what did she ever say and not say about her wants for engagement & wedding bands? Looks like to me this man (I truly hope lovingly.) made an expensive decision and kinda ended up crapping out. And my antennas rose because of the debt he paid off and used it to propose with. Maybe because I refer to Sallie Mae & her niece, Navient as my pimps. I mean I and many many others basically work to pay them. Also, the way many men feel like gaining a wife is some ownership prize presses into my impressions of him. Her request for a ring sound like his girlfriend never said paying off debts was a marital requirement. So, him using canceling a student loan as an engagement chip seems ruling to me.

Well looks like if he truly wants to marry her, he should start looking for a ring. Anyone who knows this guy, tell him I did a Google search. And I found a nice diamond ring idea at Kohls(I mean $70,000 is nothing to sneeze at. He might need financial help.) I say idea because I want him to listen to whom that photo refers to as "his woman" wants. Don't let my idea mess up what little bit of a good thing he possibly still has. I just truly pray he learned the one glaring lesson in all of this. Learn to Listen, Listen to Learn.

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