Not Interested in Dating...The Marital Separation Guy

I wasn't going to tackle this topic. I thought when I introduced this series, this topic stood as one of the cut & dry No's. But thanks to my very recent past and a web show I watch (because of spoilers I won't tell you which one. Just go watch all of them on Black and Sexy TV. (I like all of them but one)) clearly I might be in a minority mindset.

Marital Separation is still Married in my opinion. You are not single. Separated men are still legally attached to their wives. She is your wife until the state approves your divorce decree. Legally married are still married. I really don't understand why is it that hard to understand.

Again I think I might be the minority on this one. Maybe I missed the message of possible acceptability during my previous dating hiatuses. I knew at my "advanced" age in the dating game, that separated men were out there.

Few months ago, I had to hurt a man's feelings because of his marital status. He lied because of my advanced age in dating, I asked him was he single, dating, separated, or divorced. Well, he said he was divorced. Once the mutual person we know heard we went out, that was when I found he was still divorcing. Had been for quite some time. So I told him it was cool to know him maybe hang out in group settings only but I would not be going on any dates with him anymore. He now acts like I am "Stuck Up" for my decision. I am dodging all kinds of bullets with this one. I don't want to date someone who is still married and I am wrong. Well, I Will be Wrong!!!

On one of the web shows I watch, somebody seems to have a change of heart. It was so obvious this could've happened. They were legally married, separated, and living in the same home at one point in the story.  But one of the couples finally moved out and is dating someone else and the one regretting their decision just come from a date. That is a mess. Red Flags are everywhere.

So, whether you can date a person maritally separated or not remember they are still married. I can't handle it. Between the possible "knee jerk" reactions and the emotional healing, a guy needs to experience, who would want to date a "separated" person anyway. We've all seen it. Heck, a small percentage of divorce people get back together so you know separated people maybe reconciling is greater. And every breakup, in my opinion, needs healing time. I told you guys I date whole men. A whole man doesn't come to a relationship with emotional baggage that he needed to unload. Get the proper legal decree and do the psychological work out the way and then ask me out.

I still think this shouldn't have to be said. It's a relationship no-brainer, in my opinion. Well, don't say you were not told. My life so, my opinion rules.

Always, Talking to You in Adult Terms