I'm THAT Single Friend

Video popped up HERE and it struck a nerve. Yes, she is clearly a "pick me", but the attitude of her message is why I purposely function as a different type of "single friend".

I have two friends that are married and 2 that are dating. My sister is also married. I realized I was thought as the stereotype of the single friend when I realized I was the go-to "Do your girl have a friend" or "My boy would like some company" friend a few times in my early to mid-20s. Not any of those guys met my basic standards and they were boring. I quietly got annoyed so, I made it my mission to never be seen or function as the stereotype of a single friend ever again.

I try my best. I've learned to not offer advice on relationships. If I do give any, I preface it with "Remember, I'm not even dating anyone".

Only a few of my friends can complain to me about baby mamas or daddies, ex-SOs, step kids, or in-laws. I'm a logical person, usually. And I hate to fight over the frivolous & petty, but I have hands & words for anybody taking advantage or just won't act right. Before I invite my married or dating friends out to ladies-only events, I make sure to have a few clues on the SO feelings about the event.

Once, a friend's former SO told the friend's mom about a planned ladies' night after hearing about it days before. I thought that was crazy for the SO to do so, but a lesson was learned. Oh, I also don't constantly commiserate about being single. Not just in front of them, I just don't. Yes, I want to be in a relationship, but not at any cost. Stereotypes whine about being single.  Next thing you know, you'll be set up on dates with guys you matched with on a secret online dating profile. And since I am only 3% favorable of dating friends or relatives of friends or relatives, an explanation of why I need to spend time with a guy is required. Just because I am single & he is single is not a viable reason.

Yeah, many of my friends' SOs or former SOs probably think I'm a weirdo. And some had to learn a new way to think. But hey, I'm just keeping our rapports as cordial as possible. Functioning as a stereotype is not an honest lifestyle for me. Being my honest self is my best way to cordial.

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