Don't Pat Me on My Back for My Basic Confidence

In no way, do I want to come off rude. But thanks to Pop Culture, I have to address Basic Confidence, the Plus Size Community & what the World can learn. Blame Dish Nation's coverage on Gabourey Sidibe not wanting anyone asking her "How are you confident". Read about it HERE. I agreed with Gabby and I am not shocked non-plus size people don't see the problem.

How many times have you ever thought to ask a positive behavior displaying non-fat person, why do they feel good about themselves?

Yes, I have had someone ask me that. It didn't feel good. I was in my last year at Lamar University. I was about to graduate. I had overcome a few doozies in life.

And I think I was a naturally polite until provoked kind of person. This popular guy that I never talked to before then, blog name Chaka was walking by me one day. And he said, "I see you're so positive. I mean you really have nice self-esteem, even with the way you look. How is that"? I was baffled & the only thing I said was a dry "Okay" and I walked away. But my reaction was not over. The rest of the time I was at LU, I hung my head down in despair whenever he was near. Yeah, I could react like a major jerk in my 20s. Now, I have a little more mature grasp on using my words & actions to express my feelings.

Oh yeah, let me describe Chaka. He was a non-plus size man suffering from albinism. Yeah just like me posting pictures of me at LU, me telling you that info after the story was on purpose. Are we, humans so conditioned to think that only humans that look like whatever is the standard preference of attractiveness? I would never ask that albino man why did he feel great about being popular despite how he looked.

Asking About Anyone's is Not the Compliment You Guys Think It Is.

Gabby was right. Would you ever ask Rhianna, Jenifer Lawrence, Idris Elba, or George Clooney, why are they so confident. If your answer is "You don't have to", please understand this. People who don't look like the standard preference of attractiveness have right to good self-esteem. Many of us use that right. Pop Culture's messaging tell you we don't, but exposure to more people in life will tell you a different story.

Having Good Feelings About Yourself is Not an Extraordinary Feat. It's Basic. And if Basics have to be Praised, What is Lacking in Life?

As Always Talking to You in Adult Terms