That One Dreaded Dating Question

Yeah, I'm back on the dating market. I don't despise 85% of it, because I understand there is a level of work that has to be done in obtaining and becoming a life-long companion. But that other 15% gets on my nerves because it's tedious and mundane. It triggers my snarky & sarcasm sides in the worse way.

"Why are you still single" is one of those things. It is a hard question to answer without sounding like a jerk. I can't even joke my way into a nice answer.

"Why are you single"

"You see this guy right here. I dated him when I was 20. Send him a message and ask him why".

"You know that every man is not into Christian, Black, Fat, Educated, Nerdy, Awkward women, right".

"Are expecting me to actually say I'm crazy".

And I dare not to ever ask that question.

Because I know the answers I won't get but should.
"I lack real communication skills".

"I hide behind working a lot".

"Because being lazy & living off of people makes me a real catch".

No, we have very PC answers or we pass the blame onto the others we have dated before. I know I use the PC answers, myself.

I say, "I just am" or "I take dating breaks. And some may have extended longer than they should". Those answers are my truth, but they are quick & easy. And for some odd reason, we think quick & easy is a good path to a successful relationship.

And it is Not.

But we still have this dreaded question to answer.

It would be very nice if "Why are you single" left the lexicon. That question should be abolished. But until then, I guess we answer it the best we can.

As Always Talking to You in Adult Terms!