Now that you are finished dancing to the Rae Sremmurd tune in your head, let me tell you that trying to find images for this post really sickened my psyche. If you would be be so bold to do an internet search for thin men, skinny men, big men & chubby men, you will understand my frustration. People will body-shame anybody. *sigh* Human bodies range from as thin as a Bic mechanical pencil lead to as curvy as a Hot Wheels track to as wide as an empty Cheeto bag. Nobody deserves to be body shamed. Body Shaming is Cruel & Gross and it Needs to End!!!
If you ever ask my bestie boo, LJ who he thinks is my type, he will tell you, Cedric the Entertainer as Cedric Jackie Robinson in The Steve Harvey Show is my type. And invariably, when he sees a short, dark skin large man around our vicinity he will say, "There's goes your type". Once there was a waiter at a restaurant, that was not our waiter, that fit that description. Again he was not our waiter so, why did he bring my & no one else's plate? LJ was cracking up. When we go dancing, he gets to laugh to his heart's content. Many of these guys have placed themselves between us and our other friends to dance near me during line dances. I would've thought it was a coincidence too had I not seen a couple of them ask him to scooch over so they could get between us to dance. I know it is crazy. Even crazier part is these men never ask me out. I guess they just want to be near "The Diva".
Honestly a man's physical size doesn't factor in my preferences. Other than body-builders, I think I've dated all the male body types across the board.
I remember the first "big" guy I was attractive to was singer Gerald Levert. But I haven't really cared about body type since 1997. I dated the first of a few large men I've dated and didn't think twice about it. He was a good guy, Somewhere around 2004, I didn't even become ashamed about describing the guy I was starting to date then. When my friends asked me what did he look like, his description rolled off my tongue like I said his name.
Contrary to what television & movies tell us body size is not an indicator on behavior.
A very thin guy referred to my mother as a b-word and kept calling me all day because he unemployed and broke
A man that is skinny was the ear I cried into when my mother got sick. He still calls to see how she is doing.
When Nev Schulman offers me a job for the TV show Catfish, it's because of an average or dad bod guy I dated. Hey, I don't go out on any dates without doing a little intel since that guy.
In the first Rom-Com post, that guy was a momma's boy that is now someone loving husband. He is is rather muscular and built.
Large guys dominate the Good Ex list. They are also on the Bad Ex list, also. And all of them are Not dateless, sexless or shy either.
That's part of my story. If other women or men look at the body types of the people they date or have dated, their story will probably differ from mine. And that's okay. ♫I ain't got no type. A good man is what I like.♫ We all should be striving to find good people so we can be good to them.
As Always, Talking to You in Adult Terms
