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I saw this on Instagram. I can't see this being answered any other way. But everybody doesn't think like me and I try to learn from others, so I read some of the comments. Most thought as I did, but some did not. Here are some of the quotables.

"I wouldn't be marrying a man who is jealous of a car"

"We as a team are going to accept it and then laugh at his ass while we trade it in and choose something we like"

"Can he replace it or nah"

"...I'm either donating it or selling it and spending the moolah on my hubby"

Those are their views. Some I understood and some I do not. And I can't and won't argue about those views.

I only have one answer for this meme. I am a person who has been invited to and/or attended an ex-boyfriend's or two weddings. A person who would let an ex walk her down the aisle or be the officiant at her wedding if I was in a pinch. Because you can still be friends/friendly with some of your exes in My world. But even a friendly rapport can go left. The only answer I understand is "Send It Back". Matter of fact, my fiance wouldn't have to tell me to send it back. We might have a tiny argument because he felt the need to say that. Dude, shut up & know me. And not only am I sending the vehicle back, but all of the Miss Manners in me will also send the ex-boyfriend a card. He'll think he's getting a cordial No, Thank You.

Outside of Card
&
Inside Message

Instead, he's going to get the reason why we are still broken up aka I'm full of shade & can't let crap slide. Only a messy man (or woman) would send such a lavish yet disrespectful gift. Stick to the Tupperware & $20 gift cards on the wedding registry.

That's a way how good exes become bad exes. It is also why furniture gets rearranged when some of us see bad exes. Some exes just don't know how to play their role in your life. But it is okay for you, the star of your life to remind them of who they were cast as. Shine Bright!!!

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Friends With Your Ex (Answering Questions)

Got an email to answer. Yay🎉👊👍

Q. I just broke up with my love. It was mutual and I feel like I still want to be friends. I know you're friends with an ex or two. Do you have any advice?

A. I think might have covered this. Yes, I am/have been friends & friendly with a few of my exes. All Exes Can NOT Be Your Friend or You Friendly With. I am friendly JMac & Rom Com. We don't talk often but when we do, we really genuinely catch up and reminisce with one another. Football Nerd was one of my Best friends. Our friendship looked pretty much like my relationship with my other besties. My rapports with these men are/were not easy but not greatly difficult to maintain. I have 4 points for you to consider.

-Define Friendship & Define Friendly
What is Your HONEST definition? Is your ex a picture definition of it? Just "still wanting them in your life" is a wishful starting point but not a firm meaning.

Football Nerd still wanted me in his life. Our friendship was a learning experience that is not textbook in the least. WoW, that could've been a cool joint effort of a book. *sigh* I'm sitting here now reminding myself, God Loved Him Best.

-Does your ex want to be friends?
Friendship is different a relationship. It has to be mutual.
 1. Some exes just want to be Cordial when they see you and move on.

 2. Let "We Can't Be Friends" by Deborah Cox & R.L. be a guide
     -"Verbally we agreed It was over and we were through
I'm trying to compose myself"
     -"I went by Mother's, saw your car there To her you're still family, and it don't seem fair"
     -" May see me hang my head
When you come my way"
I think those lyrics are most important in considering wanting to befriend an ex. Friendship is Still a relationship.

-Draw the Line & Recognize Their Line
If it is not set properly, the friendship will be befuddled. RomCom set a line and I didn't even know we needed one.

"Let's go see the Passion of the Christ" "Let me get you home before you have to sleep on the couch" He was drawing his line. If I made one on one plans, it was always for public events before 6 pm. So, I drew my line.

-The Friendship Dynamic Can/Will Change.
It's Life!!! We all have friends that we used to be inseparable and now we talk when we get a chance. That could happen with the ex-to-friend bond also. Since JMac is not local anymore, our interaction is mostly via email.

Unless you are one of my grandfather's nieces, most people are not sending monthly newsletters to keep up. Holidays & June (both birthdays) we end up catching up then. Still my boy, life just redefined how we get to be friendly.

Oh Bonus: Side Hugs are Best. Full embraces are intimately dangerous. Keep some space between you guys.
If I was a supervillain, my name would be Side Hug Master. Many people Hate them & I'm a Master at them. 😂😂😂

Side Hugs have a Wikipedia page
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Hoped this helped. Keep me posted.

As Always Talking to You in Adult Terms