I don't know what I have been wasting my first date thoughts and time on but it gets tweaked now. Ok, to pass the time working on paperwork, budgets & blogging, I listen to podcasts & web-based talk shows. I am listening to one about the latest X-Men movie, now. Well, this weekend I was watching/listening to a show and ideal first dates came up. One of the guests described a breakfast date. Well, my mind started swirling with one question.
When asked what would I like to do for a first date, why have I never said, Let's go to brunch.
I reduced going to dinner for a first date, some time ago. If dinner must be the first date, it has to be on a Friday, probably at a dinner & a movie theater, and the date must end by 8 pm. I'm not for that nightcap then too tired to drive and the foolishness it brings. The night is young. He's not too tired to go home. Plus, dinner dates have a lot of pressure on them. Most times I am tired and now I have to put on nicer clothes and pay attention. Breakfast is not a good time for me because I am not a morning person. Most days, I spend before 9 am not talking. If I am at home, my family of all adults is sleep. I get paperwork done or I am traveling to meet the client. If I have a client before 9 am, they are just dropping off their packets. So, many of my first dates are during the afternoon around lunchtime. And if it is during the week unless it is a holiday or we are both off, those are rushed and very direct. So, brunch is actually perfect for a date.
I love brunch! I go to brunch with family & friends a lot. I mean like I have more pictures & check-ins on Facebook at brunch.
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My Bestie Boo, LJ got us ladies these shirts
That's TT & Love and didn't want to ask them permission to post the picture
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Brunch has a much more casual, easygoing vibe. Especially a Sunday brunch, I probably been to church or at least watch an online service, so I am probably is a very good mood. Oh, and if the guy is a guy that goes church at the traditional 11 hours, there are brunch spots still serving until 3 or 4 pm. Brunch is casual without feeling frugal. There's a novelty to a brunch date that you don't get with dinner. Very few branches are expensive. I wouldn't dare suggest an extremely expensive place for a first date, That is gross.
Most restaurants that serve brunch, the food feels familiar without being dull. Also takes away from me, an omnivore (eat a balance of animal & plant-based food) to judge a possible carnivore. I mean who can turn down fruit salad. LoL If things are going well, we have time to hang out walk the meal off at a park or a mall. Alternatively, if things aren't going well, having important errands or a 3 o'clock service at church (so churchy) doesn't sound like an outlandish lie. And again unlike dinner, it is daylight. The chances of the guy wanting to make out or hook up are lessened. It is early enough for him to go home.
So, when I get asked to pick a date & time to go out for the first time, I will start suggesting brunch. I blame society's dating culture on blocking my view from a brunch date. I am enough of a society girl, why let it dictate when & where I go on a date. Now, I want some fruit salad.
As Always, Talking to You in Adult Terms
