Oooh, He Talks Real Good (Attractive Characteristics to OUTSPOKEN_DIVA)

The stereotypical Male voice is very sexy to me. Tones ranging from Brad Garrett to James Earl Jones make me swoon.

But a deep voice can be just that, A Deep Voice if he doesn't speak or communicate well. Now a man who speaks grammatical English, that doesn't mumble or say uh, huh, nah mean, and other slang all the time make my head turn around everytime. Especially a Black Man.

That's how I met my "little brother", BJ. Nothing about him was/is attractive to me. Matter of fact I had wrote a narrative about him while just looking at him months before meeting him in the dining hall at Lamar University. (I wasn't far off once I met him.) Then at lunch one day with others I heard him talk. I stared at his mouth like whatever he was saying was gold. I made him a little uncomfortable. I explain that I liked Black men who spoke correct grammar.

It is appealing to hear speech like that because I can understand what they are saying. I know what they mean, I don't need urban dictionary to have a conversation with these men. I don't have to ask him to repeat that because what he said is clear. When a man says, "Hello! How are you?" when he approaches me I know to reply "Hi. I'm fine and yourself". He and I can converse.  I honestly don't know what to say to "Say, Say, Baby, Uh Uh Say". That guy must want to conversate. And contrary to what the Webster's dictionary will accept, I Never want to conversate with anyone.

A man who speaks "Proper" let's me know that this guy and I have at least one thing in common. 65% -80% of grammar class was learned. Whether we have anything else in common, at least I know that in the end I will be able understand what he said.

I know a man's diction says nothing about his character. Trust me I know some men that speak well and and are very gross people. I also know some very nice guys that speak a lot of slang.  

If they ever let me have my way, mumblers would be be sent to a talking rehab as soon as I hear them talk. Speak up or you can go to jail. Mumblers drive me batty.

So hats off the those sexy talking men out there.

I know what you are saying. And how you are saying it is hot. Come talk to me sometimes. Conversation Only!!!

As Always, Talking to You in Adult Terms

Speaking Mostly in Slang (Not Interested in Dating (Grey Area))

I am quite aware many of you will read this (and have read other posts in this series) like "Man, she be critical like a mug. I see how she is. Ol' bougie, stuck up BAP. Irregardless of what she say, Imma be me." And that is exactly my point. LoL

Somewhere it is becoming socially acceptable to talk like all the years of sitting in English class learning grammar is a waste. So, blame this blog post on the teacher & Chick Fil A manager banning slang in the classroom & workplace. In which I stand and clap with hearty agreement. I just don't understand why people think talking in slang all the time is cute. Can you imagine if you were ordering a Chicken Biscuit one morning and the person taking your order said, "You want a chicken biscuit or nah. Fam, those be on fleek". I just rolled my eyes at that after I typed it. I wish I would hear some foolishness.

Many of us speak slang, sometimes. I know I do.

It is one of the reasons I am nervous about doing a vlog. I would get too relaxed and sound like some home girl. And I only sound like that to survive walking down the street or I'm very angry. It actually grates my nerves to talk to someone who only or mostly holds their conversation in slang. Especially if the person is claiming to have some smarts about themselves, it's mind numbing. Sometimes, if one could hear my niece, Alura and I engage in conversation, one would laugh.
The scene would contain a lady acting like a grammar teacher and an older teen frustrated with that lady. It is something about talking in slang all the time that sound unintelligent. I hate for people to have a perception that I am dumb. I feel like with me being Black, Plus Size, Southern, and living in the Inner City I can't afford to make that stupid perception be true. And of course that is what I am teaching my niece & nephew. Many times what comes out of your mouth tells a story about you. Whether if it is the true story or not.

Unfortunately, many men on the dating scene were not taught that. Many men don't get that they can talk themselves out of not getting the number or dates with what comes out their mouths. What is wrong with "Hello" or "Hey, How are you doing?”? No, folks want to cool and hip and approach their person of interest with "Say ma, how you be or 'Sup”. Oh and does stop there. Some slip by with a nice Hi and later their conversation gets very sloppy. I went out with a guy once and his approach was cool. Our few phone calls were great. We went out on a date and I thought I had been punked. I had never heard so many uh's and say's while anyone ordered in my life. I thought he might have been nervous until at the end the night and he said "Check this out Guh, I ain't had a good time like this in a long time. That food was gooder than a mug". I was expecting "Check it out, I had a good time. The food was good". Clearly, there was not another date. What is wrong with talking like that? Why does talking lazy have to be the cool thing to do?

Oh I know some of you are sitting there thinking "Well, she needs an educated dude".

No, that is not what I am saying. I have dated men who were former street corner drug dealer that have been to prison with barely a high school diploma that didn't talk lazy all the time. I have also been on college campuses with guys who spoke as if slang was their native tongue. Education has nothing to do with it. Age has nothing to do with how a man talks. I'm not dating anyone under that age of 35 these days. Also rarely, am I even approached by anyone under the age of 30. These are adult men that talk like this, I dislike talking to people who act like it is a bother to talk like one has some sense most days.

I am not saying when a guy is on the basketball court not to speak slang. But who plays basketball all day. I just don't like guys whose conversations are more than 35% of slang. I like men who act like some of the grammar lessons taught to them got through and not be ashamed to speak like it. That's all!!!

Okay let me go edit this bad boy. Make sure this post is on fleek. I can't be talkin' all about how the bruhs be talkin and have all deez errors. I be not that type of Guh. LoL

OAN: If Spell & Grammar check  was a person it would more than likely cussed me out for making it work so hard on the post. ☺☺☺

Always, Talking to You in Adult Terms

Let's Converse!!!

Okay it not a secret Nowhere on this Earth that I HATE this fake, gross, made up word, people use called, converste. Yes I hate that word. I don't care if Webster's Dictionary added it to a list some years ago. If it did Not exist  it would not have been added. Oh and yes I roll my eyes at Merriam-Webster for adding that dumb word to the list of acceptable words even if the definition reads "nonstandard form" of Converse

I want to know who was the first dummy who said that word so I can create a cyborg to his time and have it clamp their lips shut and force them to say the correct word, Converse. Converse is not just a brand of sneakers. Converse means to to exchange thoughts and opinions in speech or to talk. Here is the Link if you don't believe me. It's not slang. It's not a speech impediment. It's being stupid. I just don't understand how this wrong word grew to become acceptable to say. I heard LL Cool J say it in "Accidental Racist" and that to me was the worst part of that "eye roll worthy" song. My message to LL Cool J "The correct word is Converse". Say it with me, Con-Verse.

Hey, I might be petty for this blog but it's my blog I can be petty if I want to. I am also not saying all the words I say are grammatically correct. I have to stop myself from saying "Gonna" and say "Going to" many times a days. I really Hate This word. Many potential suitors have become dismissed because that word was spoken from their lips. My jerky return quip when one ask "Can we..."  is "When you learn to converse, you can have my attention". Yes I'm a jerk for that but if he was really interested he would use the proper word, offended or not. (Yes, I have had some correct that word and conversed with me despite me rudely correcting them.) So, let's converse with others about using the Converse instead of it's nonstandard form. Pretty Please? For me? If not tell them to steer clear of Outspoken_Diva because I will correct them in a heart beat.

Okay that's the word that drives me crazy. I think everyone has one, two or a few. What word makes your ears bleed when you hear it? Tell me about it in the comments below.

As Always Talking to You in Adult Terms